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[–] wolfinthewoods@lemmy.ml 66 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] CalipherJones@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago

The banality of daily life as we slip into authoritarianism. None of this matters.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

The absolute crap interfaces that are being developed for electronic devices. There’s no reason for them to be as bad as they are at this point. They were getting better and better going from say 1996 until about 2005. After that they just started dropping off fast. The last few years they’re just atrocious. And there is just no excuse. I know it annoys people when I say it, but as far as I’m concerned, the people who develop these interfaces, when they get up in the morning, they do lines of crack until their brains just about explode. Then they go to work and say this would be a cool idea even though the rest of the world looks at and goes. What the hell?

There’s no logic in the interface no common sense that you can use to use them.

And the target/hit boxes are becoming so small if you have any sort of muscular issue good luck on ever using it.

The developers, the executives the companies do not give a crap. Their attitude is if you don’t like it just buy something else. The problem : that’s the way it’s all being designed so you literally have nothing else to buy.

Then you have the consumers , their attitude is basically you have a choice. You don’t have to buy it. Which is a completely moronic statement.

My response is basically I’ve stopped buying things. Unless I absolutely have no other choice I just make do with what I have and the world go screw itself.

I watched my mom try to tap an icon on the screen seven separate times before it would actually activate. think about that , seven times just to activate whatever she was trying to touch. That’s stupid. So I literally knelt down right next to the table and watched herfinger very carefully, hit the screen and come up. The problem was her finger was moving by just a few pixels. So it was counted as a drag. Who the fuck thought that would be a idea? I mean, I could understand if you touch and drag, like a distance on the screen OK well that’s dragging. But that incredibly tiny amount? What jackass thought this was a good idea.? If your finger so much is twitches, it won’t count it as touch. It’ll count it as a drag and it won’t activate.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I've also noticed my kids trying to press things on my screen. Before, when they didn't know better, they would keep accidentally scrolling a little when trying to press something, because that's how much force trying to press something real and physical usually requires.

But you can actually see, with your own eyes, the moment as they notice how their real world experience is not useful to apply to a touch screen. They have to adapt and be extra gentle and careful when tapping to activate stuff, so at not to scroll.

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[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Gestures at the current state of America

[–] aceshigh@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (4 children)

And that like a virus were infecting other countries. I wonder why it’s so effective…. Why so many countries are having this issue - is it the effects of covid? Capitalism?

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[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The obsession Americans have with acronyms. Some of them can have wildly different meanings depending on the context (MTG, CP), and sometimes even in the same context can mean different things and you need further context, like video game titles (DS, GoW, AC, SC).

[–] Smaagi@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago

It's getting near impossible to understand what's going on when reading their news. "DOJ pushing DOGE to ban EPA, GOP says.." The who, what, where?

[–] SpicyColdFartChamber@lemm.ee 14 points 1 week ago

My fucking Brain. I have severe ADHD, and difficulty understanding concepts that are even more than a little complex. I forget stuff so easily. I fucking hate it so much, it is massively fucking frustrating.

I have passion, time and a want to be better. But changing myself is like walking barefoot through a narrow corridor, shoulder wide and full of glass shards on both the walls and the ground. All the while I keep forgetting where the exit is, even as it is right infront of me. Things that should take normal people a day to do, takes me more than a month. I hate it, I hate that it takes me so much time. And only fear drives me to do things, WHY? Why can't it be something that I want to do instead of fucking fear. I fucking hate that. It's like my brain has some bottleneck that just can't be gotten rid of.

If I weren't lucky with my circumstances, I would have killed myself.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Insomnia.

I finally landed on a sleep pattern that (mostly) alleviates/prevents my chronic migraines and today I got all of 45 minutes and haven’t been able to get a wink since. Think Green Day’s Brain Stew.

Trying to keep my meds and routines as much as possible and hopefully stay up/sleep in to where I need to but I worry I’m screwed for the next week or so.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That does not sound like fun. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

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[–] TheOakTree@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago

I'm in a similar spot, but with fatigue/brainfog instead of migraines.

I believe in you, friend. I feel like shit and I'm sure you do too, but we can make it through.

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[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Discovered phone launcher I use (Ratio Launcher) got bought out by some shady company , peops who bought their lifetime subs now expected to perpetually drain their wallets to this company . Play store has so many 1⭐ reviews . Hate subscription models so much . At least modded APKs of it exist , where I would be without em

[–] demunted@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] small44@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

The limited Jewish support for Palestine in the NDG neighborhood highlights the diversity of opinions within the Jewish community in my experience.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I want to point out that not all Jews support the Israeli government with what’s going on in Palestine right now. I see this sentiment all over the internet and Lemmy.

It’s split down political lines. Right wing Jews are more likely to support the Israeli government and their actions, and left leaning and most centrist Jews are appalled.

Please don’t lump all Jews as being supportive of this horrific situation. That’s how you get society (again) to blanket hate all Jews.

[–] small44@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I am well aware of that . I hope the edit of my comment will clarify it

[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

That does sound annoying.

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

NDG

I googled, what is this?

[–] small44@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Notre-Dame-de-Grâce, a neighborhood in Montreal, Canada

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[–] eezeebee@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The constant barrage of unfortunate events.

Went through a breakup while unemployed and was facing homelessness since my cost of living practically doubled instantly. The cats were hers and I miss them every day.

Got a new job and my car broke down and died on the first day of work.

Trying to move to somewhere affordable but I definitely need a car for where I'm looking to go. Found a car but it's 5-6 months wait time for the factory order, so I continue to pay insane rent by myself in the meantime, and look for a used car to maintain my good standing with the insurance company.

Got a brand new bed a few weeks ago. Yesterday noticed ants climbing all over the wall right next to it. Luckily they weren't in the bed but I had to move it to an inconvenient spot for peace of mind, and worry about more ants coming back. There's no food or anything even close to the bedroom.

Every time someone moves out of this apartment building the new people who move in have multiple dogs. There are more dogs than people living here. They're constantly barking and howling and setting each other off and nobody does anything about it. I can't escape the noise anywhere in my unit.

I just want to get out and start the rest of my life in a new place already.

[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You described exactly why I am so thankful to never have experienced apartment life and pray I never will. Don't get me wrong, I've definitely been in worse places than a shitty apartment, like homeless or living with my mom, but at least I still get to say I never had to share a space with strangers that can hear me getting it on. Now I live in a single-wide trailer, my rent is only $450 a month ( I make $25/h working from home, so rent to income is insanely low) and I have 3 bedrooms, fenced-in front and back yards, a dedicated laundry room, and I can't even see my closest neighbor's house.

Funny how one persons nightmare could be another persons dream. People use "ending up" in a trailer as a warning, and I literally could not imagine a better place to live.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I presume you are in the US. Out of curiosity - how does bathroom work with trailer life? Do you have a shower and toilet in the trailer or do you go somewhere else for that? I'm a complete stranger to trailer life, I suppose it's just like camping but perhaps over there you have some differences when it's a permanent full time lifestyle. I don't know

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

single-wide trailer

Such mobile homes are fully plumbed. They’re functionally equivalent to an apartment/flat. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mobile_home#Construction_and_sizes

Single-wides are 18 feet (5.5 m) or less in width and 90 feet (27 m) or less in length and can be towed to their site as a single unit.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 1 week ago

That was informative, thank you

[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This is not my house but close to what it looks like, much bigger than what you are picturing. Mine has an extension built onto it and I have 3 bedrooms.

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[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

LOL A single wide trailer has a full bathroom with a full shower and a working toilet. I am not in a camper, a trailer is something completely different. I have full indoor plumbing and a full sit-in kitchen, laundry room, all that jazz.

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[–] rainrain@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There was this client. Gut says she's bad news so I refused to work for her.

A couple years later she asks me again. She's friends with 5 of my other clients so fuckit, I take the job.

End up crawing under her 1962 house, drilling holes and running wires. Horrible job and a mild but lasting knee injury.

Always trust gut.

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[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

Working from home. I hate it. If I had a family or a social life and a self-disciplined gym regimen, I'd be fine. But I dont. And I work for yanks, so my hours are all shifted to suit them.

I miss having a daily commute I could work a daily exercise into, colleagues I could passively chat to, social events happening around me.

But I dont. There are no other jobs, just yank work. I just wake late, sleep late, consume fast food, and work.

[–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

I'm sorry, that sucks. As cliche as it sounds, when I was stuck in a similar rut, the biggest positive influence was to try and go outside regularly. Even if it's just walking through nature for a couple of minutes every other day, it really helped my energy levels and mood.

Stay strong! I hope you find something better.

[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Damn I am having the exact oppisite experice. I hate dealing with the public and everything that comes with working outside of the house, but all the work from home jobs have been scooped up and its been impossible to find a decent one since COVID. Its extremely annoying to me because I don't want to go back to retail and feel like I am not being given a choice.

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[–] bradboimler@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Your pain is valid and I'm sorry you're feeling it

Damn I wish my company offered remote work again. I'd take it in a heartbeat.

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[–] victorz@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm scared that I'm developing tinnitus. It started in one ear a few days ago and won't go away. It's not getting worse, but also not letting up either. It comes and goes, but when it's quiet in the room, I can hear it clearly.

No particular event has occurred for it to start, sound wise. No loud things or blasts or anything. But I haven't been sleeping properly for a good week or so. I should try getting some proper sleep. Maybe? I dunno.

My grandma is basically deaf, and my mother's hearing got ruined when she was subjected to a house burglar alarm. Having bad hearing is not fun. I also love music and singing and such and I really don't want to get effed-up hearing. My coworker is also afflicted by tinnitus and has to go to coping therapy and shit. It does not sound like a fun time to have this continuing, or progressing. 😟

The end.

[–] JusticeForPorygon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm not a medical expert, but I can safely say from experience that tinnitus can be caused by a huge variety of things with most of them not actually being that serious (cold/flu, earwax buildup, meds, infections, etc.). However, like other symptoms that inhibit daily functions, if it persists longer than a week, you should definitely consult a professional (assuming that option is available to you.)

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[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That for my entire life retirement age has not gone down, health care costs have gone up, and the hours worked per week haven’t changed.

I’m tired.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

hours worked per week has gone up for me except when unemployed which is too often.

[–] whysofurious@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Family or rally any retired person who doesn't understand that you are working and trying to survive in this fucked-up word, and get upset when you can't take days off whenever they please, trying to guilty-trapping you or just being condescending about you being busy.

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[–] trouble@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago (6 children)

My ankle that I rolled in early December hasn’t healed fully yet Almost, but not quite

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago

We are getting old

[–] Kookie215@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Omg I can relate. I rolled my ankle once and it was hurting for months and months, turns out I had a hairline break that never healed correctly; now my ankle is permanently slightly crooked.

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[–] Count042@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

My cat of twelve years died on my birthday. He had been sick with Triaditis for about 6 weeks and I had to feed him through a tube 3 times a day. Each time would take about an hour and a half.

He was getting better, too. Putting on weight, and ate his own meals for 5 days. But the E-tube got infected and so we took it out 2 days early.

He got home. He vomited. He stopped eating for two days. He started vomiting and acted in pain and so I took him in again. They discovered fluid in his abdomen. He was too skinny from his digestion issues for a further hospitalization and he was in pain.

He slept each night in my armpit with his head on my shoulder.

I worked from home before the pandemic, and so I was with him almost all of the time for his life. I loved his tiny 6 lb ass.

He was a bathroom communist. It could be 3 a.m. and I could check that he was asleep, and when I looked up from sitting on the toilet, the door would be slightly ajar and he'd be in front of me watching the door.

I miss you, little dude.

https://imgur.com/a/1A5PmTa

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[–] demunted@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago

Advertising and the stock market. Two evil controlling systems that systematically abuse humans daily. Fired, stock market. Some random dude got some absurd promotion to tank the company and ruin people's lives - stock market. Forced to watch advertising every fucking where you go... Ohh sorry someone needs to do that to make money so fuck you.

[–] GooberEar@lemmy.wtf 3 points 1 week ago

It just seems like nothing works the way I expect it should these days, and I'm happy to be wrong, but I don't think my expectations are that high.

I make an appointment at the driver's license office for 10 a.m., I kind of expect to be seen around that time, especially since they tell you to show up at least 15 minutes before your scheduled appointment. Certainly, I don't expect to have to wait 2 hours to be seen.

I go to the store to return an item that was missing parts, I don't expect to be turned away completely because the "printer is down". I have the receipt, can't you just make a copy and refund the very small amount of money or let me exchange it?

I go to the bank to withdraw a few five and ten dollar bills, I don't expect to be told "I don't have enough". I especially don't appreciate being treated like I'm the first human in history to want specific denominations for a withdrawal.

I get told to return my internet equipment to any of your locations, only to be told you can't accept that at your store. Why did the customer service person I talked to on the phone say any location, the company website have your location in the list of locations available when I filtered by "returns", and my final bill state "return equipment to any location" if your location doesn't accept returns?

I go to the doctor for a specific health concern (that unbeknownst to me is a red flag for a major problem), they give me a medicine that actually exacerbates said major problem without ever mentioning it or testing for it first. You're the expert and professional, not me, and I guarantee if I'd asked about that major problem because I saw something about it online, you'd have made a snarky comment like "don't confuse your Google search with my medical degree" or similar.

And all of this, plus much, much more, in just the past month or so.

[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago

Family can be SUCH a challenge. You need to limit your exposure to the bad elements and increase exposure to the good ones (who likely suffer like you with those bad ones).

It's okay to ghost your family a lot, my dude, if it keeps ya sane. They may love you in some weird broken way, but they aren't you; take care of you.

[–] PurpleGameBoy@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago
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