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Someone just asked the opposite of this question here and I was wondering if there are cases were you're just not interested in something but you know the community is great nonetheless.

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[–] TrueStoryBob@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago

Rugby players.

I don't care for sports so much, but a ton of my friends play rugby. Several of my exes play rugby. I've got cousins who play rugby. I live in the States and, while rugby is popular, it's no where near the levels of enthusiasm where like 90% of the people a person hangs out with plays it (and you not also play or have any real interest in it). Mostly to support people I was dating, I've been to like ten games in my life and, while I understand how the game is played, I'm just completely uninterested in sports and following sports as a hobby or interest. I don't know why, but rugby people love me and I love them.

[–] Corno@lemm.ee 14 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

I'm not into other girls, but I've got lesbian friends who are great! 😃

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 1 points 1 hour ago

I'm a cishet dude and all but one of my friends are some combination of gay, bi, or trans

[–] Shapillon@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I'm not into guys but I've got pan/bi/het friends who are great! 😃

[–] Discoverthemind@lemmy.world 25 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

I have always been a liberal leftist but I actually really enjoy being around old school, fiscally conservative Republicans, when they aren't talking about politics. They tend to be softies on the inside - they value strength and tradition and care deeply for their communities and families; often more directly demonstrating that care than liberals tend to. They also don't accept the victim mentality and tend to shoot straight with their words, and can be hilariously harsh. They are responsible and tend to follow through with their commitments.

The problem is, I can't really stand being around them because they can't help themselves bringing up the dumbest opinions of all time and they typically don't like digging into fact based thinking.

Same now as 20 years ago, when they would say shit like, "pretty cold out today - don't seem like global warming to me! Hahaha" etc etc

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

they value strength and tradition

And this is good because...?

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Strength is good, tradition can be anything

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Strength is good

Is shit that fascists say. Just a heads up.

And "tradition," at least in this context, is almost always based in bigotry.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Fascists say some things that are normal, like anyone else; they just also say a lot of things that are evil. This one is normal. Strength is used as a tool by fascists but it in and of itself is not inherently bad.

Republican tradition is generally something that hurts our ability to make social progress, yes.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

"Strength" when used in political contexts, is almost always related to some form of oppression at the very least.

I am struggling to think of a time when hearing a politician speak about "strength" could be seen as a good thing. Perhaps briefly, directly after 9/11, but before we decided to invade the wrong countries? Even then, it was more about unity than any kind of strength.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

Strength, as in the power to exert your will on others, is a dangerous concept. This is the sense in which fascists use it.

Strength, as in the power to stand up for yourself, is good. We should all have the strength to fight against tyranny.

[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Something about the horseshoe effect I'm sure. I'm the same way, I make the best of friends with conservative assholes. They care about family, water is thicker than blood, blah blah blah. It's just the policies they vote for that I hate, which is also why I love just chatting about them. Gives me an opportunity to "know thy enemy" and have a chance to change their mind

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

That's all well and good, until they vote for literal fascists who believe trans people shouldn't exist.

At some point you need to draw a line. And even if they don't say that shit out loud, or they pretend to disagree, they still vote for it and most of them will refuse to ever admit they were wrong for that.

[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

You're absolutely right. If you search my account for "good ol boy" or "from Oklahoma" you'll find a comment where I gave a more specific example of this. I didn't give all of these details, but I stealthed basically my entire personality for about a year and half with him while poking and prodding at his beliefs in a "curious" manner until he started getting deeper into those bills on his own and forming his own opinions.

I mentioned in that comment that he became an LGBTQ ally along the way basically by accident. Gentle curiosity about someone's beliefs is a great way to change them

[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 28 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Not particularly into guys, but I love women who are into them.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 38 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (4 children)

I am not a fan of the hardcore heavy/death metal music itself; but the metalheads are awesome people. The more unintelligible and scary/evil sounding the music, the nicer the crowd. It's weird and cool and funny.

[–] Tujio@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Metalheads. The nicest people in the world cosplaying as the toughest.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 3 points 2 hours ago

I've seen more than a couple hold their own in fights. Nice ≠ incapable of appropriate violence. Also not saying that is what you're saying, but the "cosplaying" bit had me feeling some kinda way. 🤘

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[–] WrenFeathers@lemmy.world 5 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

Weed.

Stoners are cool people. Usually very funny, down to earth and fun to talk to, but it’s not my thing at all.

Give me a decent scotch with a drip of spring water and I’m good!

[–] 5parky@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

Gimme a stoner any day. Better than trying to talk a roided up jock half way through a bottle of tequila out of punching his nana. I don't consume myself because weed just puts me to sleep. I guess I'm mellow enough.

[–] theacharnian@lemmy.ca 11 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Damn this hits. I just had a talk with a passenger (I drive Uber on the weekends) about not getting certain lauded artists. She is up there with Jackson Pollock & Andy Warhol for me.

[–] theacharnian@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (2 children)

I only got an emotional reaction from a Pollock painting when I saw it physically, up close. Photos do not convey anything at all. As a physical object it was sublime.

Agree about Warhol.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 55 minutes ago* (last edited 52 minutes ago)

Ok so the flood of memories was so strong I actually got ahold of a curator at the Norton, and together we pieced together all the information.

The artist is Jimmy Ernst of Max Ernst fame who was also associated with Dorothea Tanning.

The title is "night watch"

And the curator who helped me track it down is currently corresponding with her superior to send me a quality digital scan, but I may need to fill out some paperwork before I am allowed to share it.

Thank you so much for the nostalgia over load, and convincing me to do some fucking legwork to track it down. I'll update you with what I can in the coming days!

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I got one of those painting by Max (last name escapes me, but he's the son of someone fairly famous) called night watch I first saw at the Norton in a tucked away hall way near the exit to the brick maze. It was all black and relied on texture. Sad, I think they since put it away.

[–] theacharnian@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

Well now I'm intrigued and all I'm finding is Rembrandt.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 1 hour ago

Oh cause of the paintings name! Yeah, remember doing a report on it for my art class in the community college. And I had to special request a proper scan be done on it, I don't think I ever got a response.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 1 hour ago

No I think him and the dad are still alive. I know he is at the very least.

[–] AnthropomorphicCat@lemmy.world 10 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I FUCKING HATE ketchup. I can't tolerate the taste or the texture. But I recognize that people that love ketchup are not evil, just misguided.

[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 3 points 16 hours ago

Same, but with onions. I love ketchup.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 16 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Sex. Neurodivergent/nerd social circles often have a lot of kink/BDSM and otherwise sex positive people, so my friends group is pretty open about sex.

I’m on the asexual spectrum and would rather forget that sex is a thing, but I love my friends and as long as everyone is consenting and safe, I’m happy for them. I sometimes get awkward when sex convos happen around me, but hey, I get awkward with many other convos too.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I'm a part of the wrong nerd circles. Most of mine consist of one token furry, a couple lbgtqia+'s, an aging jock who clearly hasn't grown up since highschool(but they were pretty in highschool as well) and a weirdly successful dude who you would never guess it. I don't think any of them talked about sex with one another.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

So there’s a lot of research suggesting neurodivergence has strong correlation with LGBT+ and there’s some indicating the BDSM correlation (not saying they are the same/related, but people who are in touch with themselves enough to identify as LGBT+ are more likely to be open about sexuality in general in my experience). It’s so present in my various social circles that I’ve connected nerd & neurodivergent and thought of those as the common factor.

But I realize there’s another commonality I hadn’t considered: they’re very community-oriented and attend community gatherings. There are three groups I’m thinking of: one has a ton of burners (not actually Burning Man, but smaller local variants), another are Quakers (and more specifically those who attend large regional/national gatherings), and the last are people who religiously attend DragonCon.

Maybe that has more to do with the sex-positivity and openness than the nerd piece? I don’t know. I just know I’m surrounded by it somehow, lol.

[–] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 18 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Grand strategy games aren't for me, but I love reading the insane stories from CKII and Dwarf Fortress.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

CK2 and DF aren't grand strategy games, they're story generators.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 1 hour ago

I agree with you about dwarf fortress, but crusader kings is like the definition of the Grand strategy genre, while simultaneously encouraging you to create a story why half of your line is inbred worse than Charles II of Spain.

[–] Asfalttikyntaja@sopuli.xyz 2 points 15 hours ago

Anime. I don’t get it, but boy those anime girls are so cute. <3

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Boardgaming. I play an occasional boardgame with my friends, but I'm not searching youtube clips for strategies, importing first-print Euro games in the original German and printing English-language stickers for the boards, or watching Essen livestreams every year.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 1 hour ago

I fell out of D&D around 4th ed, and didn't really care enough to get "competitive" in something like settlers of Catan. But if someone brings out something fun and simple like sorry, or candy land and I am so down!

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

One that’s less relevant now, but throughout my life has been relevant: Juggalos.

I was a big metalhead in school, and i had a bunch of juggalo friends. I liked a couple of their songs well enough, but I found the “culture” grating. Still, those mothafuckas were the most accepting and tolerant people I knew. Tolerant of anyone’s way of life, except they fucking hated bigots. In the 90s, being accepting of queer peeps really wasn’t in vogue (to put it lightly) but juggalos welcomed queer peeps as friends with open arms.

[–] MintyFresh@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Lol same. Juggalos are just awesome and wholesome. The music is soooooo bad tho.

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