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TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

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Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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[–] expr@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago

Do you think Matt brain would blue screen if I told him I took my wife's last name?

Everyone has funny or unique stories about last names... Some people change their names for love, others keep them for work, and some even mix them up for fun. It’s like having many characters in one story, just like Jeffrey Combs does in acting—each name choice has its special vibe

[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

For someone who gives this much of a shit about gender roles, you'd think they'd learn the correct forms of the word for an intended spouse.

[–] shasta@lemm.ee 0 points 1 day ago

Most people don't give a shit about the gendered spelling differences in loan words

[–] Silentiea@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 day ago

He's just copy/pasting what the listener wrote and doesn't realize the connotation?

[–] ShaunaTheDead@fedia.io 156 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.

[–] TheLowestStone@lemmy.world 54 points 3 days ago (5 children)

I took my wife's name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 35 points 3 days ago

And don't marry a man who insists you take his. That's a wall of control he's building around you and he won't stop until he's separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it's your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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[–] TheGrandNagus@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn't, which I made clear to her at the time.

We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

And maybe this is a dumb question, but what happens when forename surnameA-surnameB marries or has children with forename surnameX-surnameY?

What is the resulting name? forename surnameA-surnameB-surnameX-surnameY? Do they pick one of each, e.g. A-X?

[–] Steak@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah hyphenating is not progressive at all. And I should know, I have a goatee.

[–] BenVimes@lemmy.ca 89 points 3 days ago (4 children)

There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

  1. She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

  2. She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Also some names just sound better. And some names go better than others with some surnames

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 24 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 36 points 2 days ago (8 children)

My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.

[–] mipadaitu@lemmy.world 26 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

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[–] sdfric88@lemmy.sdf.org 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)
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[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (4 children)

My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I have a German surname, but my family changed the pronunciation to sound lest German during WWII so now Germans pronounce it "wrong" and no one else can pronounce it at all.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I read most of my news, so it took about a month to realize the VP candidates last name was pronounced “Walls,” so you’re among company.

I’m from Connecticut, which has a town called Berlin, pronounced BURR-lun (/‘bərlən/). That , like the pronunciation of many German-origin names, was changed during WWII, but it’s basically a shibboleth for locals now, like Houston Street.

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[–] S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother's surname.

[–] Chouxfleur@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Wait until he finds out about Icelandic naming conventions!

[–] S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

Interesting how it goes?

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 51 points 3 days ago (3 children)

It's heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It's exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

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[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago

Well it'll be easier for scammers since she didn't change her last name

[–] Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world 18 points 2 days ago

You can't expect a regressive to understand evolution. They are going backward faster than the rest of us are moving forward.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Marrying Jeffery Combs is like marrying 300 men at the same time, though. Every day he can just act like a different alien.

[–] TachyonTele@lemm.ee 11 points 2 days ago

" I don't know who you are anymore!
I love it!"

[–] Psythik@lemmy.world 29 points 2 days ago (9 children)

It's fiancée. Fiancé is male.

[–] thatsTheCatch@lemmy.nz 21 points 2 days ago

Today I Learned! I had no idea there was a difference. Apparently they are pronounced the same, it's only a written difference.

But it seems like in English fiancé is becoming a gender neutral term

Dictionary.com — Fiancé vs Fiancée

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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 33 points 3 days ago

I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.

[–] CCMan1701A@startrek.website -1 points 1 day ago

The government wants your money and to waste time.

[–] Pickle_Jr@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 2 days ago (7 children)

There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.

Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

'Why should I have to change? He's the one who sucks!' -Michael Bolton

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[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 21 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

They're certainly going for a look right now.

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[–] Bougie_Birdie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 3 days ago (3 children)

You don't expect Herbert West: Reanimator to be the voice of reason... yet here we are

What a funky timeline

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I actually had the pleasure of working with him on a motion comic project once (which sadly never got finished) and this is 100% him. He's a very cool guy in person and this is exactly the sort of thing I would have expected him to say, although maybe not directly to Matt Walsh.

He's also a massive Radiohead fan. I'm not, so I mostly just sat there and listened when he gushed about them at lunch after hearing them on the radio in my car. Thankfully, the other people with us knew more about Radiohead than I did.

He also said one of the funniest things I've heard a pro like him say in a work setting, talking about a movie role he was offered: "I'll do it for $1000, but not if the script is shit."

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[–] wjrii@lemmy.world 20 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (7 children)

My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn't care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn't want to change my name, so why should she have to?

Twenty years next summer.

Edit: "double-barreled" just means hyphenated.

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[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 20 points 3 days ago (7 children)

Who cares what name anyone uses .... my wife and I never got married and she's always had her name and we never bothered changing a thing because we never cared. No one cares ... not even the government.

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (7 children)

What the fuck makes my name any better than hers? Fuck my name. I don't even want it.

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[–] GeminiFrenchFry@lemm.ee 14 points 2 days ago

I almost kept my maiden, but now it's an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo's because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

Sometimes, it's really that simple. My husband didn't care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

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