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imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but i am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 30 points 6 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

~~one more report and~~ I'm locking this whole mf thread

I'm not reading my way through 200 comments but I'm locking this so I can keep up with whatever you all report.

My Original Comments:

spoilerI understand this is a controversial topic but y'all need to behave your damn selves

The basics are:

  • This is fundamentally a discussion about hurtful language, including slurs. I don't mind them being mentioned / referenced (in fact I would argue it's important to talk about them), but I'm not going to tolerate them being directed at people. This is y'alls final warning on that. I've removed some comments already but after this I'm just going to start handing out bans.
  • I know there's alternate interfaces for Lemmy, but on the basic version I'm familiar with, under each comment there is a button on the left end of the bar of buttons with three dots and a little arrow indicating additional options. If you press it, you will find that you have the option to "block" other users. This function will make it so that you no longer have to see anything they post or interact with them. This is a fantastic feature that I highly recommend utilizing in the event that someone says something you find upsetting that does not break the rules of this comm or instance.

Please review this educational material for additional instruction if you are still having difficulty with these concepts.

[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 33 points 6 days ago (1 children)

This is obviously about Australians calling their mates "cunts".

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[–] Fontasia@feddit.nl 19 points 5 days ago (2 children)

As an Australian, what the fuck us this cunt talking about

As a trans woman, I've heard this argument used when people want to call me "Bro" or "man". It would probably apply to a number of common slurs too, such as "retard".

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[–] NeonNight@lemm.ee 35 points 6 days ago (15 children)

I’m personally kind of reminded of how “faggot” and “dyke” are being “taken back” and used jokingly/sarcastically, but I still get really uncomfortable if someone uses them with me. They’ll say “oh I don’t mean it offensively!” But it’s not really up to you to decide what’s offending another person or not.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 20 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I once had someone tell me very very earnestly that the word Queer - a word I literally marched under in protest - was the worst most horrible slur ever, then turn around and use fruit.

Baby comm members need naptime methinks

[–] BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago

Some older folks have a genuine visceral reaction to “queer” because, whether it’s been taken back or not, you can’t just psychologically undo a lifetime of that word having been weaponized against you.

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[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 7 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Yeah, it's like people say "Please don't call me that," and instead the person who called them that hears "You did something wrong for calling me that," and they get defensive. It's one of those things that, once you notice, you'll see it everywhere. Not just about nicknames. It could be anything. It's like no matter what you say in response they just view it like you're angry or saying they're a bad person. "I know you didn't mean anything by it, but I don't like it and would prefer that you didn't." Nope. Some folks just can't comprehend it. "I know other people are okay with it. I'm not saying you should stop calling them that." Nope! Their ego is now in defense mode lol.

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[–] blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 30 points 6 days ago

Generally being nice to other people is a good thing. It makes the world a nicer place for everyone. And in cases like this, it seems like it is pretty easy to be nice - just don't call that person 'dipshit'. That just seems like a very low-cost way to show the person that you respect them.

[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 23 points 6 days ago (3 children)

New response if TERFism:

"Ok dipshit"

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[–] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 21 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Reminds me of Nelson Piquet, a former F1 driver, calling Lewis Hamilton a Neguinho when he was talking about current day F1 drivers in an interview. He called every driver by their name except Hamilton. Then Piquet and his brother ofcourse went with the “that’s how we always call each other even my grandma calls me that” defense

[–] DefinitelyNotAnAlien@lemmy.ml 19 points 6 days ago (7 children)

It’s like when I lived in Miami and everyone called me “gringo” or “flaco.” When I asked them to stop they would say it was endearing. But imagine if I called them “removed” or “fatty” what their reaction would be.

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[–] Tudsamfa@lemmy.world 28 points 6 days ago

"Could you call me something else, other than Dipshit?"
"Like what?"
"How about sunrise land?"

[–] VerbFlow@lemmy.world 11 points 5 days ago

"Is it possible to learn this allegory?"

"Not from the Daily Wire."

[–] Beacon@fedia.io 32 points 6 days ago (11 children)

It's a very interesting take that really makes you look at things from a different perspective, but it kinda breaks down if you think about it. If this person really was saying it like a pronoun with no offense intended, and they were using it to refer to half of everyone they spoke to, and it was how other people referred to that person themself too, then it would quickly seem fine to me. If everyone is calling people dipshit all the time then it quickly becomes nothing to care about

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 23 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I disagree. If I don't like being called dispshit, the thing to do is not call me dipshit. Your intent stops mattering the moment you know how I prefer to be referred to and actively decline to respect it.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 24 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, it's kinda like cunt with aussies and brits.

[–] Lodespawn@aussie.zone 14 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Jesus fucking cunt, you cunt just drop cunt at every cunt you see or some cunts gonna get a cunt in their cunt about it

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[–] red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 6 days ago (8 children)

You could say intent matters.

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[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 15 points 6 days ago

We started calling my wife's narcissistic psychopathic Russian ex dipshit because we got tired of having to use his name. Now I barely remember his name, it's just dip shit

Then one day she got tired of his crap, beat the shit out of him, so now we just call him dip

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 21 points 1 week ago (3 children)

You can call me a dumbass all you want, it's part of the reason I chose this name, besides being a dumbass.

[–] pipes@sh.itjust.works 20 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Whatever you say, smartass

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 18 points 6 days ago

Well now I'm offended!

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[–] CloudheartTV@lemmy.zip 8 points 6 days ago

I thought this was a post about the overuse of “dude”

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