An Old Classic : childfree

[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 40 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I love having a kid, so probably not pointed at me. I loved coaching him and his buddies as they played their first year of basketball. I love playing the rogue like he's into. I love showing him how to train his body, how math can be awesome and fun, how characters in books can teach us about ourselves. I love teaching him how to clean the bathroom and that our family only works because we all work for each other. I hope I fill his day with love and acceptance and hope he can move himself even when times are rough. I hope he and I are friends when he's thirty and I've given him a strong mind to find a place in this harsh world. I hope he finds friends that get him beyond what he does and loves all the nooks and crannies that make us lovelably human. I hope he is strong to stand up for himself and his values. And, if he has some left over, for those not as well off as him. I hope that I can give him some of this. I hope his life is filled with beauty and joy and so much more.

And fuck... I am tired. But at least on Wednesday nights I get to roll some dice with some friends.

[–] Idreamofcheesy@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

Oh shit I had to make sure I didn't write this. Right down to the Wednesday night D&D.

Right on man. Parenthood is both awesome and draining. I definitely concede that if someone doesn't really want this, they're going to be miserable.

[–] satanmat@lemmy.world 58 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You know what will really bring us together and save our marriage?

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 11 points 3 days ago

Definitely not traveling, going on dates, or doing the things that used to bring us joy. Let's bring a massive bundle of stress back home from the hospital.

[–] MadMadBunny@lemmy.ca 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A rabbit!!!!!

[–] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Possibly more likely than a child

[–] sartalon@lemmy.world 35 points 3 days ago (4 children)

This post is weirdly judgemental.

If you like your child free life so much, why do you feel the need to comment on those that aren't.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 34 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Check the sidebar - this is /c/childfree

I'm guessing you came here from All and didn't seek out this community specifically?

Scrolling through All provides a glimpse into the variety the Fediverse offers. Even when I find a community I don't agree with or care to hear about, I can simply block it. Meanwhile, I'm glad that those who do value those topics have a place to discuss things.

Which is all to say that those who feel strongly about being childfree deserve their space to talk about it, regardless of your feelings toward their opinions. This is their space, and nobody's forcing you to be here.

[–] Rubisco@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 days ago

I liked this so much I posted it to Best Of. Cheers!

[–] OwlHamster@lemm.ee 24 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Because parents comment on our "selfish" child free life all fucking day long, I guess

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Funny how we all celebrate when leopards eat the faces of those complaining about their own actions. But for some reason when it comes to the regret of having children, people clutch their pearls.

I'm not judging all parents. I'm judging parents that didn't think about wtf they were doing while making life decisions. The same way I judge people that voted for a clown and were shocked when they got a circus.

[–] BeardedGingerWonder@feddit.uk 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'd argue absolutely no parent has any idea what they're doing when they have their first kid, because it's borderline impossible to know how all encompassing it's going to be. Mostly they're just grumbling because it is hard work a lot of the time. I say this absolutely without judgement on people who don't want to have kids.

[–] Cityshrimp@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 3 days ago

Also, every kid is different. Some are easy to take care of but others are stuff of nightmares.

[–] sartalon@lemmy.world 0 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Comparing this to leopards eating faces is a little much.

My point though is, why do you care so much? Their choices don't really affect you and you're just kicking someone when their down. ~~Love~~ Live your life and let other people live theirs.

Now if they were constantly annoying you about not having kids and then complain how kids ruined their lives, then yeah, judge away.

Otherwise, this is just shitty.

Edit: Love to Live

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 3 days ago

My point though is, why do you care so much?

Who says that I do?

It's a fucking meme! Chuckle, or move along. This conversation is over.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

It reminds me of MGTOW, where men don't want to associate with women (no homo apparently) but every single thing those people say is about how they're so over women or something.

Or I guess Linux communities that talk about Windows all day.

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

I am a single man at the moment and couldn't care less. But the MGTOW community is just too funny and lack self-awareness! Precisely why they are single, because they lack self-awareness that there is something more about them that turns off women!

[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 13 points 3 days ago

I tend to attribute the fatigue and existentialism to the crumbling society my family lives in. It is a hell of a lot easier to raise kids for a future when there's a future to raise them for.

[–] m4xie@lemmy.ca 36 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Since I was a toddler, my mother always told me: Don't have children, you'll regret it. They ruin your life. My life was so much better before you two came asking. I never wanted to have kids. Having children was your father's idea.

My sister had decided not to be 4 years old.

[–] Zidane@sh.itjust.works 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My sister had decided not to be 4 years old.

Huh?

[–] thedarkfly@feddit.nl 11 points 3 days ago

I guess she died at 3 and the mother was mourning?

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 3 days ago

Jesus, that's so unfair to both of you. So sorry for your loss.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

I always knew I ruined my parents' lives, but they never resented me for it. They knew it wasn't my fault, I didn't choose to be born, they were the ones that had the birth control fail and then chose to not get plan B / an abortion. They didn't plan on having a baby so young, but they did, so they buckled down and did the best they could.

I'll always love them and do anything for them for that. They had so many other life plans that just went unfulfilled because of me and my siblings, but still they were always good and loving parents to us. And we don't have to do that silly thing where they pretend that all they ever wanted in life was to be parents. We all know what really happened, and we all made the best of it together.

[–] _druid@sh.itjust.works 14 points 3 days ago

I definitely had a mom that resented me. Looking back, I was treated differently for sure. I have no doubt in my mind that when my parents found out that their second child was going to be twins, my existence was cursed purely by being the second born twin. Oh well, I can only move forward. I'm glad she's dead.

[–] Rin@lemm.ee 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I guess i must've had a child without knowing

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 3 days ago

CapitaIism has similar symptoms.

[–] phoenixarise@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

This meme is pretty tame compared to other Childfree memes I’ve seen. 😂 Anyway, if it doesn’t describe you, then it’s not referring to you.

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Because some people, for one reason or another, thought that the purpose in life is to procreate. It could be their instinct, or it is through social conditioning.

[–] Brotha_Jaufrey@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago

The poor kid who has to deal with this bullshit will unfortunately grow to feel guilty for their parents’ predicament that they put themselves in.

[–] LuxSpark@lemmy.cafe 13 points 3 days ago

I guess the point is that you should have kids if that's your calling in life and your partner feels the same. If that's not true or you're not sure, skip it and enjoy your life without kids.

[–] Feyd@programming.dev 10 points 3 days ago

Is this childfree or parent hating? Some introspection might be in order - just saying

[–] madcnt@lemm.ee 3 points 3 days ago

Hurts. :(