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[–] RinseDrizzle@midwest.social 36 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Should be asleep ramble but...

Honestly, had a lot of time to think back in chemo. Wasn't even old enough to drink yet. Caught early, pretty high rates for success... But still... Lots of time to think. Sat next to sweet old ladies with much harder fights...

I appreciate the cosmic absurdity of it all. This whole experience of brief life in a tiny blip of this stupid cosmic scale of infinity in all directions, billions of years either side.. Meaning comes from what we make it. It's the best of times, it's the worst of times. Try to enjoy the ride while it lasts.

Find hobbies. Learn a new skill. Get lost in a book, or museum, or at a disco. Get that extra slice. Take that road trip. Learn how to play that instrument. No, it's probably not too late to start skiing, or climbing, or studying French. Grind if you have to. Cool shit often requires luck, but those who put in the hours get lucky more.

I feed my brain new music every day, and try to add laughter to every room I'm in. Make art, be weird, find the helpers.

Much love

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

From one tiny universal blip to another, thank you for your message. Stay real.

[–] RinseDrizzle@midwest.social 3 points 2 weeks ago

'Preciate you too, and shall do. Keeping it real is the only way I know how to roll. πŸ€™

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 14 points 2 weeks ago

Bold of you to assume Im sane.

[–] callouscomic@lemm.ee 14 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Read more history, even just the last 1-200 years. Really dig in to the shit they don't get into in school. What you'll find is that times have always been "troubling" and if anything I think there's a selfishness some people have when they always focus on somehow NOW is the worst time ever and NOW is when things are terrible and everything good will somehow end.

Honestly, whatever you think is "troubling" nowadays probably isn't even new or the first time. But so many people don't understand just how fucked up all of history has been and yet people and countries and cultures survived.

If anything, life today in general for most is far better than in all of human history. Due to advancements in technology and medicine, most people don't have to worry about basic survival things the same way they might have even just 100 years ago.

[–] HiddenLayer555@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 weeks ago

Bold of you to assume I'm sane

[–] BlackRing@midwest.social 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Prozac and therapy.

Which honestly, is working. If only I arrived at this method sanely, rather than nearly ending it all and winding up in a hospital.

[–] RinseDrizzle@midwest.social 8 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Glad to hear you're on the mend, friend. The world is a better place for having you in it. ❀️

Despite the sheer absurdity and chaos of it all, glad we're sharing this weird spaceship called Earth during these wild times.

Rooting for you. πŸ€™

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[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Honestly, sticking my head in the sand in a way. I deleted all social media from my phone (minus Lemmy) and un-joined any news communities on here. I'm trying to keep my world smaller so I can stay sane and keep those dearest to me taken care of as best as I can.

Honestly, it's worked a treat. I feel a little guilty for not rallying for the cause or keeping up with the world, but it's just too much.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Your eyes are a commodity. Choose wear they go. Anger and fear is what they need to keep your eyes on their media.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I renewed my tram card today, it expired a few months ago so I was paying full price instead of the low income price since then. I'm happy to have crossed that out of my to-do list

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[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago

The fact that I see and hear my family's ethos in everything The Right does. That makes me angry beyond comprehension and motivates me to keep going out of sheer spite.

The assholes who raised me didn't manage to break me, not enough to take me out of the game. The assholes who rule us now have their work cut out for them, because I came out stronger.

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 weeks ago

Avoiding the news mostly and resisting the urge to participate in most online comments. Not getting upset about things I have no control over.

[–] fubarx@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Sorry, but this country fully deserves where it ends up.

I shut off all news and social media, stopped checking newspapers, TV, and podcasts, and unsubbed from all politics and news mailing lists and communities. Told family and friends and they're being cool about it.

Dove into 60's detective novels. Anything by Ross Thomas, Donald Westlake, and Lawrence Block. Have stocked up on at least a year's worth of out-of-print epubs. Will reevaluate once they run out. Mixed with a lot of outdoor walks.

It's been glorious.

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[–] Shotgun_Alice@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Honestly, right now, stardew valley.

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[–] frosch@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

The responses are rough, man πŸ˜… Some of y’all are hanging on just out of spite - which is totally valid tho. Hope you all will be able to find beauty in the world again and enjoy life!

For me it’s my family. Had a real fucking shitty day yesterday. Everything went wrong and then some. Then just got a glimpse of a picture of my son playing with his grandparents, laughing, happy. That was it, my day got 1200% better that instant.

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[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 6 points 2 weeks ago

Absurdist but intelligent humor. Here in Argentina, watching or listening to old shows by Les Luthiers gives me life.

[–] lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago

An egg?

I try to channel all these lessons I picked up in therapy like "everyone is trying their best" and "we're all just billiard balls"

[–] Hexadecimalkink@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

China installed 181 GW of solar power capacity from January to October 2024. It's installing about 200 GW of solar every year. In about 20 years we will have so much renewable energy and renewable storage mechanisms that oil will no longer be a reason for wars. In 100 years from now generative AI might exist and humans will be on Mars. Everything I do that's constructive for the world, that isn't exploitative, keeps these positive developments progressing however slowly so that future generations of humanity will not know our suffering.

[–] TehBamski@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

In 100 years from now generative AI might exist...

I believe you mean Artificial General Intelligence (AGI) We currently use generative AI.

...keeps these positive developments progressing slowly so that future generations of humanity will not know our suffering.

Hear hear!

[–] Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 weeks ago

Moved my youtube habits away from doom and gloom news channels and instead to history documentaries and old episodes of Best of the Worst.

Similar to that, spend more time on Pluto TV/Roku/Tubi watching terrible low budget sci-fi and old comfort episodes of Quantum Leap and TNG.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 6 points 2 weeks ago

Lame and simple, but: It's still a privilege to be here. I am grateful I was born when and where I am.

Maybe it's because I like history, but while I want things to be different, and do what I can to push for them to be, I still get to live in a world that's better than most of the time's I've read about.

I think we have a tendency to visualize our populations' struggles against a lens of what could be better, which is a good thing because that's what leads to progress. The unfortunate downside to this is the mental health aspects that can evolve from not recognizing how far we have come despite the challenges.

[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Don't do this yourself but alcohol and weed. Lots of it. Unhealthy amounts.

[–] ubergeek@lemmy.today 3 points 2 weeks ago

I'd cut the booze, but yeah, I toke up. A lot.

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[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Times were troubling since the day you were born, because since the day you were born you were going to die. Life has a 100% death rate. Make your life matter to you, because that's all that matters.

Also, don't read comments on articles. Stay off of social media. Those things are a mind cancer. Negativity bias and fear mongering drive profits by keeping your eyes on it. Find healthy stuff that makes you happy.

You are going to be ok.

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 weeks ago

Nothing, I just wait for unbridled rage to give me a fatal heart attack, or for a driver to run me over to get out of a parking lot or driveway a second sooner.

[–] dan@upvote.au 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

My wife and dog (a little tiny Chihuahua). Regardless of what happens in the world, they'll be there for me, so I can take comfort in that at least. Married six years this year and adopted the dog four years ago.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This is basically me, we’ve been married five years but she had the two dogs (one chihuahua, one mixed chihuahua) since about 2013.

I work from home and am super attached to the dogs. We live in California in a big apartment in a small building so I’ve always got the doors open and they’re happy. I walk them on my lunches and they really do keep me sane.

The one I’m more attached to (despite trying not to play favorites) even plays with me now (even though chihuahuas are typically not playful), and when he wants something we do this weird thing where I keep jabbing my hand at his paw and he does the same to me.

I never wanted pets due to the responsibility but these little guys have totally won me over and I love them to the moon and back!

[–] Gieselbrecht@feddit.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

Chihuahuas are the best. My gf's is as playful as he is affectionate and the friendliest little doggo.

[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago

Being involved in a local socialist org, having community, logging out

[–] Boiglenoight@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago
[–] evasive_chimpanzee@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This book describes it well, I think, around page 32.

Tribe by Sebastian Junger

Basically, helping others keeps you sane.

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[–] macAttack@lemdro.id 4 points 2 weeks ago
  • Started listening to more episodes of 'The Rest is History' podcast to remind me that we've been under worse times before, and that everything ends eventually
  • Sci-Fi books as a form of escape
  • Starting gaming as another form of escapism
  • I also plan on exercising more as I've neglected my body over the last year
[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago
[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 weeks ago

As bad as times are, these times are still better than 99% of human history.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 points 2 weeks ago

It helps to realize that all times are troubled times.

The first noble truth of buddhism is: β€œLife is suffering”.

Not β€œLife in this decade in this country is suffering”. It’s not a locally-scoped phenomenon.

[–] Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago

Reminding myself that even though times are crazy, as I get older more and more of my life is in my control. So even though things might seem like they are getting worse, with a focus on self improvement and a humble, healthy schedule, things could get progressively better; hopefully that can spillover to people around me.

On that note, I hope OP is having a great day :D

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Psychedelics, weed, alcohol (willing to quit alcohol but it's always a bad week to quit drinking)

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[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 weeks ago

Finding things I can do, and people I can help. Get involved and get organized!

[–] nutsack@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 weeks ago

Reading theory helps me contextualize and analyze the world around us, which gives hope for a successful future for Humanity. I even wrote an introductory Marxist reading list to help anyone else who wants to start reading Leftist theory.

In addition to that, I find comfort with my friends and family, reading, cooking, gaming, and otherwise engaging with my hobbies.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Love and curiousity. For the latter, my ability to find things interesting has allowed me to look past the immediate and into the past and the far future, the details of the world that add up from countless actions of people or movements of particles, creating such wonderful complexity.

But it would all be for nought had I not someone to share it all with, my friends, my lovely girlfriend, a mind alone and silent is a mind wasted. And I could never waste such a precious gift, I'm grateful to share my intelligence and stupidity alike, for they are my diversity and a symbol of complexity as a human being.

It also helps me understand why things are happening, especially in relation to economics, history and politics. When tragedies occur, I'm able to be more immediately dispassionate as I see the causes and the trends and parallels to history. Yet it has not made me lose my humanity, if anything, I have turned kneejerk emotions into an olympic fire of sorts, never out, always there, always aware. In the words of a forgotten British punk band "I cultivate the hate to anhiliate the state"

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 2 weeks ago

"That's my secret, Cap, ..."

[–] RedCarCastle@aussie.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Just singing this song everytime something happens https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=T2T0vdfT1ps

[–] overload@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

Nihilism and the fact that it's highly unlikely that humans will destroy the ability for earth to sustain life, just make our society collapse.

Humans lives aren't as important as life itself.

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[–] flashgnash@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago

Constant distraction, shutting out problems until I'm able to deal with them

Not a good method but it kinda works

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I lost all my sanity points decades ago. I also purged my social circle back during the second intifada, and by opposing the Iraq/Afghanistan wars- categorically improved my mental health as a result- I didn't even have to cut anyone out of my life after Oct 7!

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