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[–] RecluseRamble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Are you telling me I installed Arch (btw) for no reason??

[–] ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

It said do a hobby for the fun of it, not create pain and suffering

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[–] MCHEVA4EVA@lemmy.world 110 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Perfect is the enemy of good.

[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 20 points 4 days ago

Related to what you said, but not necessarily this post: I was so damn frustrated with my neighborhood community the other day. We had a vote on whether or not to repurpose a huge grass field that takes up a ton of water and sees very little use. We're wasting a ton of money (and water) watering this pristine empty field.

The main argument for keeping the field was "we waste water in other areas of the community as well. The common-area sprinklers were on when it rained the other day. We need to address all waste before making a decision about this empty field."

There are a lot of people that don't realize you can make incremental progress towards a goal.

[–] 4grams@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago (3 children)

right. I feel like the world is desperate to pretend we aren't standing on the shoulders of giants. who wants to reinvent everything, every time. use the paths already there and find shortcuts along the way, then mark them and leave them for the next traveller.

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[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 17 points 4 days ago

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly

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[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 57 points 4 days ago (4 children)

me: does a thing because I like it and I get kinda not shit at it.

Everyone else: HaVe You cOnSIDErEd DoinG ThaT PRofEssIONaLLY? YOu cOULd mAKE so MUCH MOneY.!1!

me: fuck off. I have a job. I do this for me.

everyone else: Do What yOU LOve anD You'lL neVER worK A dAy IN Your life.!

me: turn your hobby into your job and you don't have a hobby anymore. There's no faster way to hate your passion than to monetize it.

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I feel so seen!

I do not want my customer's money deciding how I do my favorite things! That's for ME.

I've got extremely good dexterity and my favorite hobby is flow arts which is a visual spectacle. This results in lots of attention and I'm always hearing that I gotta make money with it.

[–] AsheHole@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

Yep, I do have a business out of my hobbies, but I definitely have lost some fire for a couple of those hobbies I now depend on for income.

[–] GoTeamBoobies@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

I lost interest in photography for several years because of this. And because I'm a slow learner, I did the same thing with woodworking An extra few bucks doing a random thing or two is nice, but the side hustle gig mentality is toxic

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

There’s a word for that: jobby

As you said, it’s not healthy to turn every hobby into a jobby. The best thing about hobbies is the lack of urgency and technical criteria. The whole point is to do it for fun.

[–] exasperation@lemm.ee 5 points 3 days ago

That's why it's funny that the bicycling community talks of "dentists" with all their gear. The people best equipped to really pursue that hobby wholeheartedly are the people who make a shitload of money doing something completely different.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 86 points 4 days ago (7 children)

I "do astrophotography."

...I strap my phone to a telescope and I've been loving it lol

[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 37 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Strap your phone to a telescope?

So it's a tele-phone?

Wait a min....

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 18 points 4 days ago

It's a tele-tele-phone!

[–] magikmw@lemm.ee 26 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I did macro photography for a while by flipping my tele lens and holding it up to the mount the wrong way.

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[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 18 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

The best part of learning astrophotography is not so much in taking awesome pictures ... it's the excuse to spend hours and hours sitting outside in the dark and staring up the night sky every night. To me the pictures are a bonus.

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[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 17 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hey, nobody would have questioned the worse quality cameras that astrophotographers were doing this with 20 years ago. Even though it's your phone now, it counts!

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[–] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 81 points 4 days ago (1 children)

God this is so true. I teach compuster science, and I always make a point in one lecture to show the students how many tabs full of basic questions I have to open when grading their assignments. Nobody can memorize all of this, and it's so important to shake off that feeling of not being good enough just because you have to look something up.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Career software developer - Years and years ago I stopped reading programming manuals and trying to remember the syntax of languages. I just google the same basic things over and over, and often paste & edit example code.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I think some people are misunderstanding what this is trying to say. It's not saying that you should always take the easy route with your hobbies. It is not saying that you shouldn't learn the "right" way to do your hobby.

It's saying that it's just a fucking hobby. It's purpose is to be enjoyed not mastered. Do it the hard way when you're feeling it. But don't force yourself to struggle because someone on the Internet said that this way is how you learn the most efficiently or get the best results.

[–] exasperation@lemm.ee 7 points 3 days ago

It's saying that it's just a fucking hobby. It's purpose is to be enjoyed not mastered.

Yeah, too many people preemptively gatekeep themselves: you're not a real (hobbyist) unless you master (narrow part of the hobby), so you're not allowed to take up that hobby until you're ready to commit to that boring/tedious/difficult part.

I play chess and I don't know the names of openings (and still have a lot of trouble with following notation). Who gives a shit, I'm not going to win tournaments. But I still have fun with it, occasionally play strangers in the park, and have been having fun teaching my kids how to play.

I half-ass my fitness and workout routine. Sometimes I go months in between gym sessions, and sometimes I go 6x a week for months, break some PRs, and then go on living my life. Sometimes I run 500 miles in a year, sometimes I run 10. Whatever. Life gets busy, and my own preferences shift between whether I want to do cardio, weights, sports, yoga, metcon/CrossFit style classes, or just sit on my ass and get weak and fat for a year. I'm in my 40's, so I've been all over the place on all of these things.

I can watch a TV show without needing to start from the pilot and watching every episode that came out. I can watch a movie without trying to understand every reference to everything else in the same cinematic universe. I enjoy watching basketball and football even when I can't name all the players, much less their whole career histories.

And after all that, a funny thing starts to happen. You find that you actually are pretty good at certain things compared to the public, even though you didn't wholeheartedly devote all your effort to that thing.

I like being a dilettante. It's awesome and I'd recommend this lifestyle to anyone. The best way to enjoy a hobby is to be unburdened by expectations.

[–] Akuchimoya@startrek.website 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I feel this so much. I got into stamp collecting, and I totally enjoy stamps and mail and all, but (old) people are so pretentious about it. The worst are the total hypocrites about it, too.

"I got into stamps when I was young, but I stopped when I went to university/started working/had a family because I didn't have time for it, and came back to it after I retired.

"Philately is supposed to be academic and scholarly. You're not a real philatelist if you're not doing original research.

"Young people just don't have the patience for stamps!

"The hobby is dying, why don't young people want to collect stamps anymore??"

Actually, a lot of people do and share lots of stuff online (where the old people are not seeing it and thus is not happening). We're just not writing 16-page papers about them (which is the standard a expected thing to do in "philately").

[–] pancakes@sh.itjust.works 25 points 4 days ago (6 children)

As someone who occasionally does professional photography/ filming, the auto setting on your camera is fine if you're just snapping pics. Where you'd want manual is if you were taking a larger series of photos and wanted to apply the same effects/ processing to the batch.

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[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It's even more acceptable to half-ass your job.

They're paying you the minimum they can get away with, so pay them back in kind.

[–] hydrospanner@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Hear hear!

When you bust your ass all year for that great review and much needed raise...only to go in for your evaluation and be told, "Great job! Unfortunately due to budget cuts and corporate policy, we can only give you a 1.5% raise, but you're welcome!"

Don't tell them, but remember that.

Remember that regardless of the work you give them, they're only paying you 1.5% more. And that's not even factoring in ~~information~~ inflation.

At the most generous, you should only give them 1.5% more productivity than it takes to not get fired. If you look at it based on value...the value of your time and experience and productivity against the purchasing power of your take home pay... you're getting a pay cut vs inflation as their way of thanking you.

As such, cut your productivity, attention to detail, reliability, and shits given by the same amount as the purchasing power you're earning.

They call it quiet quitting, but in reality it's the market economy working both ways. If they're buying less from you, give them less.

[–] hardcoreufo@lemmy.world 41 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I've been playing guitar for 25 years and I kinda suck. I've forgotten everything I know about music theory, I don't know any songs and my fingers just don't move that fast. But I enjoy coming home and making some noise for 15-20 minutes. I just move my hands around and make a lot of bad sounds until I start making a good sounding riff then I'm done.

[–] papalonian@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

That's how I used to play guitar, too. I got a cheapo sound pedal with a bunch of effects and premade back beats. Try to play some songs that I know. Sound bad. Keep doing it until I get bored or it sounds kinda cool once. That's enough for the week.

Am I ever gonna be anywhere close to decent? Nope. Do I care? Nope.

[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 13 points 3 days ago (2 children)

The internet has made serial hobbying so much easier. "Back in the day", it was much harder to expand your skills, so you learned a few things really well.

Now there's more opportunity to find something that fits your style, so half-assing is really just the trial period before you move on.

As a "still a serial hobbiest", It's great.

[–] ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Growing up in the 90s, there were so many hobbies that were unobtainable.

Like, I was a kid and didn't have anybody to teach me about trees. So they recommend you go to a library and get some books on trees. But the books are either at a college level, or something extremely basic. And your support was only as helpful as the librarian. So they knew zilch about the topic, you're fucked.

Today, you wanna know about trees? Visit a wiki. Watch YouTube videos. Ask AI. Go to the library with actual resources to get the right books or audio books.

Huge opportunity and a wealth of information.

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[–] pseudo@jlai.lu 5 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I'm just like that. We should open !serialhobbiest to talk about and share the result of our last hobby.

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[–] JPSound@lemmy.world 28 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I'm a 38 yo straight dude with a potty mouth and a bad attitude. I love sewing. Idky and I'm terrible at it but it gives me the good feels so I practice as much as my brain will allow.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago

Yeah well you’re also part of what we fight the patriarchy for. It’s sad that people don’t thing someone like you might enjoy sewing

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[–] limonade@jlai.lu 9 points 3 days ago

I love to draw but I have zero artist taste.
I love to paint even though it is usually ugly.

I did a few things a consider interesting but mostly pieces my friends think is made by school children until tell otherwise and I don't even keep the ones I consider ugly.
But I have fun at painting not I make a beautiful painting.
And I have fun every time I paint even when I put my ugly looking result straight into the garbage bin.

[–] xorollo@leminal.space 17 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Also, speaking of tracing stuff. Your phone is basically a light table! You can pull up the picture on your phone and trace it. Use a light touch so you don't accidentally zoom. Computer monitors work with bigger stuff. I did that with this pigeon meme, and I'm pretty thrilled with it.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Random picture from a non-native: what does "tracing a picture" mean in this context?

I couldn't find the meaning

[–] TBi@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It means putting a blank piece of paper over the picture and using the picture to help you draw on the sheet. So instead of free-drawing a pigeon you are copying/tracing it.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Ahhh, thanks! It's important not to scratch the screen, though - paper makes a poor screen protection :D

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[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 29 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (7 children)

Nothing like poverty to teach you how to do things yourself.

I grew up poor. We're didn't suffer or starve, mom and dad just never had any extra to give us kids anything like fancy toys or games or anything. I remember being completely bored out of my mind in the house and wanting a snack. The best thing we could come up with was toast and butter ... but sometimes we didn't even have butter so we opted for lard instead ... and sometimes we didn't even have bread! (but we didn't opt for eating pure lard)

What that meant was that I spent all my life learning how to do things myself and on my own. I learned carpentry, plumbing, electrical, mechanics, welding, metal working, landscaping, operating machinery, small engine mechanics, boat building / repairing, hunting, trapping, camping, survival ... mostly because we lived away from the city and we are Indigenous ... we never had anything or anyone help us so we had to learn to do things on our own. I remember being on many snowmobile trips into the wilderness and breaking down ... dad would just spend hours or even a night or two camping, tearing apart an engine, fixing a problem, putting it all back together and going on our way again. Same thing in the summer with an outboard. It all just built confidence for me and my brothers and sisters to never be stuck in any situation. We just learned to do what we could, work at it and figure it out. Sometimes we might not do a great job because we didn't know what we were doing and other times we were geniuses because we had messed up so many times before that we finally figured out how to do it right.

Once you build the skill and confidence, you can do just about anything in any situation ... then the world doesn't feel so intimidating any more. It's a skill and you have to learn to do it. And the only way to do it is to just go out and get started with it.

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[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 29 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I'm trying my best but it's so goddamn hard. I went to two trade shows past weekend and actually talked to someone new (well, the same person twice, but still). But literally every other person there had a much more extensive collection and knowledge than I do, after 5 years of obessessing over the subject.

I will always just be a very lightly informed amateur without real skills in any field.

[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 20 points 4 days ago

People struggle to put themselves out there as amateurs because of this feeling, but it's totally fine. Most hobbies wouldn't exist without a range of enthusiasts and skills.

Like, I've been pretty into chess for the past couple of years, but I'm still barely "intermediate" at best. Browsing forums and stuff, it seems like everyone is a top 1% player, but that's mathematically impossible.

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

I struggle with this a lot. I go hard with literally everything.

[–] centipede_powder@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Wait, there is more than one type of braid? i thought i was hot shit for knowing how to braid a girls hair.

[–] Zoidsberg@lemmy.ca 16 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Every time I share my photography with my parents, they suggest new ways I should be selling it. Just let me enjoy the pretty birds, dad

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[–] Donebrach@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

This is the end result of no one actually understanding the notion of “practice makes perfect” and probably some other shit that kids are internalizing these days that I am not privy to.

It’s also really helpful to read again.

No one is perfect, people just get good at stuff by doing it a lot (and can also get worse if they stop doing it). So many friends of mine are always talking about doing creative stuff and how hard it is and yet they never actually just take the first step to try anything.

[–] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 21 points 4 days ago

I also love to watch someone unlock this super power within themselves. To not stress out about the wonky pancake or the missing crochet stitch.

[–] erev@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Anyone who tells you to manually set everything in photography is silly. I took a photography class and made sure to thoroughly read a professional photographer's breakdown of my camera and how to operate it.

The only reason I've seen suggested why you should use manual mode is if you want a very specific shot that the automatic settings won't allow you to get. You know, like everything else. Automatic modes (i.e. aperture modes mainly) are there for a reason and while it's good to know how to manually set your parameters and read the light meter, you realistically don't want to be fiddling with your camera while whatever subject you want to photograph is potentially changing (for portrait or still shots its not as bad, but if you need to do any form of quick shooting you're only hampering yourself). Do I still use manual mode sometimes? Of course! I was taught how to use it and when I need it it is extremely helpful. But I typically only need it for night photography or if I want a specific effect (which can often be achieved with shutter mode but I never really use that).

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[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

I have a job where the consequences of making a mistake are Significant.

I have a crafting hobby because I can suck at it with no consequences at all, and sometimes I make something cool.

[–] Unboxious@ani.social 13 points 4 days ago

Sometimes those model kits actually just won't stay together without a bit of glue.

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