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No gf, no friends, it's hard to meet new people. Tinder and other apps don't work. Idk even if I travel somewhere I'm alone

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[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

In the ADHD community, a lot of sound advice for building good habits and coping mechanisms overlaps a lot with "just don't have ADHD" advice because the advice still works, even if it's significantly harder to pull off with ADHD.

There's less overlap for depression, but there still is some between sound advice and "just don't be sad lol".

I'm sure there's some overlap in this case for lonliness.

One of the tough things about this stuff is that it is very easy to convince yourself that nobody understands what you're going through, so when you don't see immediate results from advice that means they're just wrong and there's nothing you can do. The most important piece of advice is to never give up.


All that said, if everyone in this thread is giving bad advice that shows they don't understand, you're implying that you do understand. So where's your advice?

Or did you just comment to discourage people from trying to help and leave OP to suffer?

[–] TurboHarbinger@feddit.cl 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Or did you just comment to discourage people from trying to help and leave OP to suffer?

Sure dude, both discouraging people from "helping" (lol) and leaving OP to suffer are obviously the same thing. /s

First of all: OP didn't ask for advice. Second: I'm discouraging people from giving bad advice.

I can relate to OPs suffering. I know is though, and I undestand on my own experience how OP feels. I know that the only solution for it's like another commenter said: "get used to it". OP probably knows this too.

With some projection from me, I can assume he's only trying to rant over this, thats why OP ~~asked~~ said it on this sub. That's why he hasn't answered other comments beside hobbies. OP is trying to relate to people this way.

So when people show up full of self-indulgence thinking "OP ~NEEDS~ MY ADVICE", then it’s clear those comments are more for themselves than for OP. So congrats, you’ve given yourselves a pat on the back. If that’s your attitude, you can fuck off.

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 5 points 11 hours ago

Yeah, many of these "advices" are as useful as a Chinese fortune cookie. They're just not applicable. I bet theres another 2 coming with "get a hobby or meet up" dude