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I honestly don't see how the average working class adult find that time. I feel like gaming is a luxury for rich/middle-class teens.

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[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 2 points 19 minutes ago

Yes. It's the only thing keeping me sane at this point

[–] cley_faye@lemmy.world 8 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Yes. But I worry about your premises. Except for a few thing, gaming is not a 10 hour long experience every time; you can just easily slip-it in any free time. Not having the time to play video games sort of implies you never have free time, which would be concerning.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding the question and it is not about having time to play video games as much as will to play video games. Interests can shift over time; for some people, it's playing different types of games, for other, it's having different hobbies over time.

I think the same way people have to be a bit social, they need a bit of "me" time here and there. All things in balance and all that. But the material "time" needed to play video games? Yeah, it's there.

[–] kassiopaea@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 minutes ago

I can't speak for everyone but for me, I'm not going to sit down and play a game unless I can do it for at least an hour or two. Almost all of the games I have aren't the type where I can just pick something up for 15-30 minutes and not leave completely unsatisfied because I couldn't actually accomplish anything.

As far as actually having free 1-2 hour blocks? Ha. Yeah, right. I mean, maybe after work on the rare occasion that I can put off the things I need to do for a bit and the stress about them later, keeping me from playing anything for another 2 weeks... that's the best-case scenario for working full-time and I don't even have kids.

[–] SilverShark@lemmy.world 13 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Adult here. I have now over 10 years of experience as an adult, although closer to 20 years of experience playing video games.

There are two realizations that are needed to understand the relation of someone in this life style who is also a fan of video games.

First, no I do not have as much time as I used to have to play video games. In school and university times I would easily play over one hour per day on a week day and much more on a weekend. But nowadays, I spend 8 hours per day on a weekdays working on my job, plus a few hours doing house work. So can't play as much as I could.

But second, I also want to do other things. Nowadays I actually read much more then I used to. I also try to do other hobbies, and try to do social activities much more. I tend to spend more time with other people too. So out of my free time that I would use for video games in the past, I actually allocate that time for other activities.

I still absolutely love video games. They are a part of my life. But I probably play two to four hours per week only. These hours are few but highly meaningful anyway.

I think part of the journey for me to become an adult, to have a job, responsibilities, and such, has also been about broadening what I do, so it doesn't upset me that I can't spend so much time on video games, but rather it makes me happy that I have a fuller life.

[–] BitsAndBites@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

This response resonates to me. I would also add that after working all day looking at a computer screen and my mind is tired I like to enjoy other activities away from a screen. If I do look at a screen in the evenings, many times I dont want to think about a game or have to make choices for a game character. The times I really enjoy games are on the weekends. I imagine one day being an old man and getting to play video games all day again like I did when I was a child.

[–] SilverShark@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

OMG! This is exactly what I'm missing.

Thank you so much!

[–] SilverShark@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Oh yes definitely. We get way to much screen time. And I also feel the same when I sometimes don't really want to think too much in the evening. I've come to not play certain games I deem a bit too much. Elden Ring comes to mind. I like souls like, and I did play Lies of P recently which I enjoyed. But Elden Ring looks way to long and might be a hard game.

[–] pyre@lemmy.world 6 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

in my experience, adults yes. adults with kids, not for a while.

you get to play some games again when your child starts sleeping longer hours at night. if your spouse is ok with it you might be able to go to sleep later and play a session. just make sure your spouse is ok with it. even better if your spouse also plays.

and hopefully when they're old enough you'll play together anyway.

if you have another child only a year or two apart however that'll set you back a couple years probably. 2x children is like 4x time sink for some reason.

[–] gerryflap@feddit.nl 3 points 10 hours ago

Depends what kind of adult. I'm in my 30s and I still game for hours on multiple days in the week. But I don't have a family with kids to maintain.

[–] catnip@lemmy.zip 7 points 13 hours ago

Yes, just dont have kids

[–] STUNT_GRANNY@lemmy.world 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Only on the weekends, between chores.

I drive a truck for work, and it's my home during the week. Theoretically, I've got some gaming time while waiting on loading docks, but in terms of providing time for gaming, I can't count on it. Some of my customers are annoyingly efficient. I prefer to nap anyway.

I could always play once I'm parked at the end of my trip, but after 11 hours of driving, I'm often too mentally fried to even watch TV.

Plus, my truck's power inverter can't handle running my gaming PC anyway. So it waits for me at home.

[–] no_more_dogz@endlesstalk.org 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Keep it up out there bro it's a tough job <3 workin class hero

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 2 points 10 hours ago

Sure.

Energy to play? Well that's a tough one...

[–] theherk@lemmy.world 4 points 12 hours ago

I have all the time I ever did (little), but I use it differently. I’d rather take a walk in the mountains with my wife than play a game. In my mid-30’s I quit smoking, smoking, and playing games. Nothing against those things; I just wanted to use my time differently.

I read a ton more too, and find it far more enjoyable.

[–] DancingBear@midwest.social 11 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

People watch about 3 hours of television a day. Yes, you have time to play video games.

[–] W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Maybe? I can watch tv while I fold laundry or exercise. I can’t play games and fold laundry at the same time.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 12 hours ago

Skill issue! Train harder!

[–] W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 5 points 13 hours ago

No, but i neglect important things to play anyway.

[–] Nunuman@lemmy.zip 1 points 9 hours ago

I don't prioritise gaming anymore. The family comes first. Work comes next. Gym. Hunting. Fishing. They all come before gaming. I still do game a bit. Mostly once I've put the kids to bed and I get a few hours me time. But honestly, I'm normally too tired and instead put a brain-dead show on that I don't need to think too hard about.

[–] douglasg14b@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

No, most definitely not, and it.... Sucks.

I just wanna sit down and play Minecraft or something again.

[–] tomkatt@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Yes. mid-40s, no kids, and I work from home.

Wife and I play RPGs on the weekends (currently enjoying Last Epoch and waiting for the next Warhammer 40k: Rogue Trader DLC), and during the week I usually play single player games (right now in the middle of Lies of P and Fire Emblem: Awakening).

[–] TheOakTree@lemm.ee 1 points 54 minutes ago* (last edited 53 minutes ago) (1 children)

Are you halfway through the base game or the DLC? I am halfway through the base game, but this is my second run because I unfortunately started NG+ on my first save... The DLC is only accessible from the second-last chapter :(

[–] tomkatt@lemmy.world 1 points 25 minutes ago* (last edited 25 minutes ago)

First playthrough, currently in the tunnels or whatever under the Vegnini (sp?) factory.

[–] Fourth@mander.xyz 5 points 15 hours ago

Yes. Less but yes.

[–] no_more_dogz@endlesstalk.org 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

I just play games 20 years after they come out. In five years I'll finally discover red dead redemption

[–] thatKamGuy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 12 hours ago

Looking forward to when my office moves into a new building; I will then have an hour-ish commute by train where I can whip out my Steam Deck and catch up on my backlog.

Until then, it’s basically just getting whipped out for a couple 15-ish minute sessions most days.

[–] mechoman444@lemmy.world 6 points 16 hours ago

I'm 39. I have a 15 year old daughter. 2 year old son and a partner who's still hot as hell.

Sometimes I can get away with a few cow levels in diablo 2...

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago

Time? Actually yes.
Am I spending it on gaming? Rarely.
What else do I do? Biking (if time and weather is right) or this:

[–] Generic_Idiot@lemm.ee 10 points 18 hours ago (2 children)
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[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Yes, as I chose not to have kids and my wife also enjoys video games.

Edit: However, I do tend to hyperfixate on other interests for periods of time.

[–] dutchkimble@lemy.lol 20 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

If you got time to browse the internet, you got time to game

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[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 7 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Even when I do I can't truly enjoy it cause I know there's something I gotta do.

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[–] utopiah@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Yes but I need to carve out time for it. I explicitly warn others about that, that I will be unavailable because I'm playing. I usually think of it as a choice between playing vs something else I enjoy doing, namely sports outside, watching a show, reading a book, coding, etc.

To expand a bit on the "I explicitly warn others" it also means I dedicate time for others but I also expect to have time for myself, including to play. I actually even recommend other adults to do so. Video games can be absolutely amazing. They can be an art form or something casual, they can be about any topic. I genuinely believe that adults who do not play, and I mean in a healthy fashion, are missing something. It's just so damn fun!

IMHO if you consider it a valid hobby like any other and don't try to "cheat" by squeezing it in in addition to everything else, removing time for chores or worst, sleep, then sure you might have time for it BUT, yes, like every other hobby it is a privilege.

Edit: anyway, back to Clair Obscur. FWIW finished BG3 last year (3x), Elden Ring this year (offline), so I do spend a bit of time on long, very long games, but it does take me a while.

[–] bent@feddit.dk 1 points 12 hours ago

I play some during winter, but only single player games with good storylines, and decent and relatively easy gameplay. I live so far north that I get maybe 1 hour of actual sunlight in the middle of winter and due to global warming I get maybe one or two weekends for skiing so I'm glad for video games to keep me entertained along with books.

What I don't have any time for is TV.

[–] nafzib@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

Yeah. What else would I do after work?

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

it's about making time.

just got a retroid pocket 5 and installed steam player on it.

I love it. I've played at least an hour every day since I've got it.

[–] qevlarr@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Sometimes, but I have to make time. So I think in gaming sessions of 30 minutes to a few hours at most, depending on how much time I have. Then maybe I can't play for a week.

This means it's quite hard to pick what I want to play. Grand strategy or Civ is out for me, takes too long. Long campaign games I never even start. Often I end up with the same few staples like CS2, or a digital board game against AI. Lately I've been enjoying Balatro a lot

[–] figjam@midwest.social 3 points 16 hours ago

I don't have a "battlestation" that I game at anymore. No more 5 hour raids in Naxx. I have a steam deck and thats all I need for now.

[–] callcc@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago
[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 1 points 13 hours ago

no :( I play Balatro on my phone when I poop, and I boot up Minecraft about once a year...

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