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Discussion Thread 🎪 Wednesday 2 April 2025 (aussie.zone)

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[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 19 points 3 days ago (7 children)

Partner's first day went well! He likes to call me on his breaks and for the first time, he was ecstatic and elated to have a job at this charity he's at now! I'm so proud of him 😭

I also got a call today from a cattery I applied to a few weeks ago, and I have an interview with them tomorrow. The commute would be amazing (literally less than 10min walk from my place), so I could be there quicksmart, which I hope they see as a point to my application. Fingers crossed this is my break in the industry I need 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Either way, it will be another learning experience, all I can do is learn and grow!

[–] tone212_@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Good luck for your interview! Proximity always helps, make sure you play that one up in the interview.

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[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

This was a welcome gift.

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[–] Nath@aussie.zone 11 points 3 days ago (5 children)

Val Kilmer died.
We knew it was coming, but all the same this is a sad thing.

[–] PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Ah, I was out of the loop. Loved him in Top Secret, 11yo me thought it was the funniest thing ever. RIP man.

[–] Nath@aussie.zone 4 points 3 days ago

His deteriorating health was big news when the second Top Gun movie came out and we found out he couldn't actually speak any more.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

NOOOO 😭😭😭

He played my favourite character in Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang

Tbh I love him in everything he's done!

Vale Val

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[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago

So sad.

You’ll always be remembered Iceman.

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[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

So much info to absorb. Brain is mush.

I have also been issued the standard IT place branded polo shirt.

It's not very flattering.

Time for that pizza that I bought with the 50 I found in my jacket lol

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago

Hell yeaaaah get dat pizza!

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

Sorry more kid stuff:

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We were having SUCH a good run with bed time lately. But the last week has been rough and the last 2 nights hes been inconsolable screaming for +2 hours. Full temper tantrum. He doesn't wanna be held, doesn't wanna get out of the cot, only thing that sort of settles him is wiggles videos but obviously were not encouraging that right before bed. I know "everything is just a phase" and that its likely a new development milestone coming in, but jesus I'm over this one!

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago

He doesn't want to miss out on the party all parents have when kids go to bed.

[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

When I was a kid I'd resist bed time because I didn't really feel safe that far away from my family. Once my parents went to bed that end of the house was safe, but when they were still up my bedroom felt very isolated. And the same thing happened in the morning - my sister and I would usually bring our clothes to the lounge room to get changed rather than be alone in our rooms.

If it is something like that he might be able to sleep closer to you and then move (or be moved) when you all go to bed? Or maybe if you have baby monitor you could set that back up so he feels more secure?

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago

story time

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[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 12 points 3 days ago

I have gone to the beach, visited Cranbourne Botanic Gardens and bought a car, and it's still only 2pm!

The gardens were very nice, but it was getting a bit hot in the full sun. Now I need to sort out some photos.

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Got annoyed today, someone constantly needing things from me, even when they can see I’m working out of my office about to do some other work.

My stupid first reaction and instinct is to stop what I’m doing and cater for someone else.

I need to stop myself from doing that and tell them to come back later and I’m busy because they’re too self centred to think and see that someone else is busy and only wants their thing done.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago

I'm the same, I go into doing the new thing mode

the thing is, i get told/implication , is that their thing is both urgent and important , so the feeling of urgency gets me every time.

anyone with an ounce of self awareness would never want you to drop what you are doing

I wonder if the habit of people expecting messages returned near instantly has bled into other aspects of life

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 10 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Beeeeeeach

[–] SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago

That feels a bit like an optical illusion, cool!

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago

thank you guys 🙂

it reminds me of a fingerprint

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago

Excellent photo!

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 11 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Health bit of a downer

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Just went over to p's help them get ready for their little trip up to the murray.

Bit of a dark chat with mum when we were alone. She's on a shitload of drops and drugs to prevent total blindness amongst other things. Said she's sick of it doesn't want to be here anymore. Just an hour before heading on a trip with her buds.

It's a bit difficult to know how to go about that conversation.

She has the best care available but it's pushing her to the limit.

Not after hugs, just saying (as I'm sure a few of us here already know), it can be a bit confronting even if you're used to that conversation with others.

Sometimes all you can do is listen

thank you for reading.

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 8 points 3 days ago

Sometimes all you can do is listen

Yes, sometimes that's all you can do. And it matters - matters a lot. She needed you to be there to hear her. It hurts to be there but keep listening. Feels.

[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago

Yeah that's a really hard one. Not sure I have handled it well when faced with it myself. But listening is the best. It's a natural feeling and being open to hearing it means that you can better judge how to help based on whether it's a passing feeling, depression kicking in, or a genuine desire.

And then come here or to some other safe space and scream and kick and let out your own fears. You are doing good.

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[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 13 points 3 days ago (12 children)

I think I just bought a car 😬

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Step 1 - check wallet. If empty, then yes you have bought the car.

Step 2 - check wallet. If full, then you may not have bought the car.

Step 3 - check wallet. If half empty, did you buy anything else?

[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

The wallet's always empty! The bank account at this stage is slightly dented, which means I paid a deposit, but have not yet completed buying the car.

Edit: And now the bank balance is gone too. I guess I bought a car!

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[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've had 3 smokes today. These patches make me a little sleepy but I'll suck that up. So far, so good 👍

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago

you can do this 💐

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Going 'shopping' in the vacant offices downstairs. Have acquired several potential new chairs and a flash candy bowl.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I don't know how to feel about posters on reddit who don't know how to feel.

I do feel a bit stabby, but other than stabby I don't know how to feel.

I probably hate them just a little bit less than I feel about reaction posts. Go make your own fucking content.

So it seems I hate them too.

This is just like reading a Jane Austin novel where a character, probably Emma, calls people indescribable then spends a few pages describing them.

[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I 100% agree.

I couldn't give a flying fuck that you can't decide on what is, most of the time, a very obvious and popular position.

Your faux contrarian position is incredibly transparent. You aren't special because you have a quarter of a braincell.

You've hit on one of my pet peeves. Attention seeking behaviour.

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[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Moon+Jupiter pretty

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Wtf. You can now only buy two packs at a time of paracetamol and the max pack size at the supermarket is 16. I remembered hearing about that change and didn’t worry because I barely used it then but it’s come in right as I’ve started needing to use it regularly. (I have the option of prescription painkillers but prefer to avoid the risks and make do with over the counter.)

It’s bullshit anyway. You can just get around it by adding a few more boxes of a different brand or hitting up different shops. If someone wants to misuse it they will.

The problem is I get delivery around weekly to fortnightly and can’t really pop out just to get one thing. Under the new restrictions I could still get a 50 pack of Panamax from the pharmacy but that brand is really rough on my body for some reason.

All this has done is make life more difficult for disabled people.

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

One of the earliest set pumpkins is looking bigger and a few are yellowing… please hurry 🙏❄️💀

Realistically I know the cold is probably going to kill them and I might not get any ripe. The Jack Be Little are frost tender (oh no both kinds are) and the Golden Nuggets haven’t even started female flowers yet.

But I’m treating this as a practice run so I learn more about their needs and hopefully can be more prepared in Spring. Hopefully these at least develop enough to get some nice pics before they’re consigned to the compost.

This is the plumpkin from a few angles

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[+] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (8 children)

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[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Even people who have gotten their degree and have taught still can have horrible years.

Infact at work I’m seeing it live with a new teacher who has had a number of years under her belt already.

You are there to learn and experience these things and to learn from your mistakes, just because it didn’t work out the first time doesn’t meant it’s all doom and gloom.

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[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I don’t have anything valuable to offer

This is not true. Teaching is not easy but the skills (and patience) you've learnt will cross over to anything and everything you decide to do.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Low, you are there to learn and get experience, of course you don't know everything on the first day.

I suggest you listen to your mentor.

And don't be so easily put off. You can do this.

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think I will continue until the end of the semester and see how I go :) I was pretty riled up before and I think that impacted things.

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[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I have never considered teaching, and nor have I ever wanted to. But, I will say, if you're not feeling it anymore with your course, then don't push yourself any more into doing it; you'll resent it and your brain will use it against you. You already seem really burnt out by the course, and people can't push through burn out without a break.

Drop out or defer (if you can), and take a mental health break, go for more walks (if you can), get in touch with your hobbies and interests, friends even or a club. Then, look through the list of gov funded/free TAFE courses and see if any pique your interest. If you like building relationships with and helping young people, you could look into youth services courses instead. But don't get ahead of yourself, look after your present self.

Also,

Said by someone who tried to push through burn out in a call centre and ended up in the ER twice. Also a partner to someone who tried to do the same.

I am ready to become even more of a piece of scum in society as I don't have anything valuable to offer.

Nope nah no way. This line of thought isn't going to help you, I promise. You DO have something valuable to offer to society, because you are human; this particular job just doesn't align with you in the way you thought and THAT'S OKAY!!! It is so okay, it is normal. You wouldn't be a scum of society by getting on centrestink or anything, you just need a break to figure out what does align to your values!

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

Look, don’t blame yourself. Teaching is hard and I see teachers online talking about how the current crop of kids are more difficult to handle.

There are definitely other options for working with young people that isn’t like that

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[–] TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That last sentence is the key. You got this.

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[–] PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 4 points 3 days ago

A friend of mine felt a bit the same, "why did I do this/what the hell have I done?" Until she got a job teaching English to adult students overseas. She just had to explore the options a bit more and find something that suited her. Maybe you've got to explore a bit more to find your "zone"?

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[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Day 2. I'm looking forward to 9am starts instead of 8:30am.

That said we did get to go home early yesterday, and hopefully today as well.

Have a great day everyone ❤️

Edit: only woke up 4 times last night which beats the usual 8 or so times.

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

soo I buy some specific parts from an Australian vendor. Yay local.

After 10 days of order confirmation and hearing nothing, I drop them a quick courteous "Heya this was paid in full on XX but I haven't heard anything back, just wanting to check up on the order progress"

what I get back is a literal three page whinge about how they're a small aussie business and working here and there and oh yeah the item had to be backordered that's on them for not telling me it was in stock but they can't run live inventory 24/7 they're not amazon, they're a small mum and dad aussie business and on and on and I shit you not I can paste the whole fuckin' thing if you want it's like they decided my email was their personal blog.

And I really really just wanna reply with jesus fucking christ dude but that's not productive. Is there a polite way to say "All you had to say was it was on back order, and to be honest this whole screed has put me right the fuck off you as a business mate fuckin' hell"? Do I *want *there to be a polite way of saying it. Should I just grab the goods and bail?

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 9 points 3 days ago

"Thank you for providing and update on the status of my order, and context surrounding the delay.

I appreciate that you are a small business, I bought this item from you not just for my own needs but to support small businesses. However, I do not appreciate having paid in full for an item, receiving no update on the status of said item, and when inquiring about such, receiving a passive aggressive three-page trauma dump of the struggles of running a small business.

I understand you are not Amazon, however if you wish to keep providing the services you do, and gaining and retaining customers, I reccomend proof-reading your responses prior to sending them.

Your response to my reasonable question regarding the status of my order, after almost 2 weeks since I paid, is unwarranted and does not speak well for your customer service skills."

Then either end with a request for refund/cancel the order, or wait for the order.

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (6 children)

TW mental health

I had a nightmare about moving out of here but being forced back into a flatmate situation instead. Genuinely frightening. For context I’ve had some horrific sharehouse experiences and these days I don’t cope with people at all.

I’m also having to put Melbcat back on her normal twice daily meds routine because I keep missing the midnight dose. Adding one extra dose of pain meds changes the spacing and throws things off awkwardly into 3-4 separate doses a day and it’s too much to handle.

The abdominal pain is also getting really severe and difficult to manage and the rest of the tests are so far away. It feels like it’s going to be like this for the rest of my life.

I’m so tired and scared and in pain all the time. Despite my best efforts I’m surrounded by negativity and fear and really struggling with my mental health.

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