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Since a lot of women have started to call their female friends "girlfriends", I have to wonder how women with actual girlfriends have been dealing with this lol

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 33 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

“This is my wife” works real well

For my girlfriend, I mostly just correct people if they’re mistaken. “Oh we’re more than just friends” type statements.

Also fuck is the platonic use of girlfriend back? Dammit

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 8 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, hate to break it to you, but it isn't even just women/girls using it for platonic friends. Men/boys are too.

Not too surprisingly, that hasn't happened with boyfriend that I've run across. Which is kinda fucked up when you consider what the difference in usage represents.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

My grandma talks like that but in my area in my generation it’s generally understood that [gender]friend is romantic and friend isn’t. If gender is relevant it’s “the [genders]”

That terminology is incredibly frustrating as a lesbian. Especially since it’s regularly used alongside calling my wife my friend despite me repeatedly referring to her as my wife

[–] mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

Personally I've only ever heard "platonic boyfriends" when it was platonic

[–] 0x4E4F@infosec.pub -3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Hm... so she calls you her wife as well, correct 🤔?

[–] papalonian@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago (5 children)

What else would she call her..?

[–] webadict@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago
[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 6 points 11 months ago
[–] hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 11 months ago

Ghost busters!

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 5 points 11 months ago
[–] CyberTaco@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Our government even calls us wives

[–] 0x4E4F@infosec.pub -1 points 11 months ago

IDK, just asking 🤷.