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I read a post about different communication styles, and this is "builder vs maintainer". https://www.haileymagee.com/blog/three-communication-differences
A builder will try to add to the conversation by adding their own experiences. A maintainer will not add their own, but will focus on the other person's.
A builder talking about something may feel like a maintainer isn't that interested because they're not adding anything.
A maintainer talking to a builder may feel annoyed because the builder keeps talking about themselves.
And I just think these grossly oversimplified textbook explanations for people are abject garbage.
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Can you switch between the types during a conversation? I don't have time to read that at the moment, but i will later. Sounds interesting.
Of course you can. Giving the two methods of communication names doesn't make them absolute universal categories.
I like that framing. I've noticed I'm a builder, although talking about myself is just most accessable strategy. In academics, at least, it's allowed me to instead pivot from myself to a theory or observation or something so building isn't quite as self centered.
In a sense that's what you're doing by providing that post, too. Best of both worlds to add to a conversation without diminishing the original. Master conversationalists can usually do that back to back to back, keeping a conversation going.