underreacting

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[–] underreacting 33 points 19 hours ago (11 children)

I've never heard a woman complain or be confused about not being asked out by strangers.

It seems like your sources are a fair step into the manosphere, and you and your sons would have a lot to gain by distancing yourself from that kind of influence. Nothing is as unattractive as bitterness, and you are sounding dangerously close to bitter here, and your attitude will influence your sons approach to life and relationships.

[–] underreacting 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I want to see my planted apple tree bear fruit for the first time (it's looking good this year so far!), and then I want to try splicing in a branch of my neighbours cherry tree, and then I want to keep building gradually to have a mutant tree with all kinds of fruit throughout the season. I'll be the creator of my own Tree of Life.

Small goals, small joys, small triumphs - it's what'll make my life grand, I believe.

[–] underreacting 5 points 6 days ago

This may sound silly, but it happens to me more often than not that I forget the simplest solution when I wake up from pain: Did you take pain relief medication and wait 30-60 min before giving up on sleep?

[–] underreacting 2 points 1 week ago

Oof, that's rough..

If it's been 19 years and no change in sight, it seems it's up to you to create the changes you're hoping for.

[–] underreacting 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

The real horror is that the person panics when they can't find their phone. They are just chilling at home, they know the phone is somewhere in the home, they don't need it right now and they don't have to leave anywhere.

The phone will turn up. It's just a gadget, you won't miss it if it's gone for an hour or so.

(I may be jaded from misplacing stuff so frequently)

[–] underreacting 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Because you got caught staring at someone's chest-area?

[–] underreacting 2 points 1 week ago

I know this is old, but I liked pondering the question because I made me sappy as heck, so I'll share it with you:

Music is like a cheat-code to life, especially my internal life. The music I listen to determines my emotions, my energy level, my focus and drive, and what activities I want to do. Without music playing I'm like an empty shell. With music I recognise my existence.

I am not musical myself and I know nothing of production or quality, only what I enjoy and how it makes me feel. I was born to be an audience, and that's a huge part of who I am and how I operate daily.

[–] underreacting 6 points 1 week ago

For a layperson I have a very good knowledge of my country's laws, but there are more laws I don't know than I do know, so I can't really answer this question. The laws I know I understand, and thus they seem reasonable enough for me.

How they are enforced though... With high burden of proof comes low rates of convictions, for better and worse. I'm privileged enough that the system mostly works in my favour so can't really speak on that either, as I lack nuanced experiences.

Personally I'm more happy to not have been sentenced for any of my own potential infractions, than I am pissed to have my offenders/attackers never even questioned by police. I can get justice in other ways than through criminal law anyway.

[–] underreacting 22 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Spiders.

They protect my plants from gnats and hide out during the day to not disturb or frighten me. Best roommates I've ever had.

[–] underreacting 1 points 1 week ago

It's crazy. My short stint working in child care I would always call the male parent first if I had their contacts, but it seems deeply ingrained in people to consider a mother "parent" and father "helper".

Maybe they'd be more comfortable calling you if you called them every day "just to check up, to see how the kid is doing", making it abundantly (and annoyingly) clear that you have nothing but time for your kid. And encourage your wife to respond "Have you called the primary contact?" whenever someone calls her.

I only have my own phone calendar, no shared alternatives unfortunately, but there is a multitude of options when you search for "family calendars". Or create a personal calendar for your child with both of you having the password and colour code it for who is responsible for each entry.

[–] underreacting 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Of course. I was focusing on the doing or recieving part and completely missed the second part: Are you a botherer and bothered OF/BY or ABOUT god?

It can be either one, so I'd say it depends on how religious and/or deranged the speaker is. Like you said - most would say it's about god, while I was deranged enough to interpret it as being a direct communication with a god.

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