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Well there is plenty of tolerance for elon musk having zillions of only boy-assigned babies. So it isn't the concept of sex selection that leads to being universally regarded as evil. What else could it be?

How would that work without accounts?

I'd like to make anonymous edits to WP and personally resent their lack of accommodation of that. But I don't have a very solid proposal as to how it could be done. So must forgive them.

Just to be clear: women do not transition to men to level the playing field or materially benefit themselves.

Studies of post transition income show that trans women go down (sometimes drastically) whereas trans men tend to stay about where they would have been. You get benefits of being treated as male but then you have discrimination and other problems as a queer/trans person to balance it out. So while I can report on the moments when socially and structurally I am treated as a man, it isn't the total experience if my life. I still am trans. There are significant problems associated. I wouldn't reccomend it as a career enhancer. To say nothing of how unpleasant transitioning just in hopes of getting a raise would feel.

I agree with regards to masculinity.

I share what others have said about your likely difficulty in seeing what's going on around you. However.

I have a couple of female friends who moved as adults to US from Russia in the 80s. Both said they were shocked when they found out the things that weren't soviet propaganda, like how women were treated day to day, and the systemic discrimination against racialized people. Neither of them is immune to racist or sexist bevahior, and now having lived here for so long even moreso, but there is a difference in baseline expectations at the macro scale. Years later they still express surprise when even the pretense of attempting equality is absent or made a joke.

That said I've met women and men from elsewhere in the former USSR (both older and especially younger than the above) who are very heteronormative and accept their "place" in hierarchy. I understand there was post-soviet backlash culturally. How do you view that? In the past 2-4 decades is there progress, regression or what? My point of view could be tainted by selection bias in terms of who chooses to move countries, and where they land.

The fact that Russia underwent a revolutionary transformation in the 20th C, from serf to industrial, when it could benefit from an existing articulation of gender inequalities, must take some credit for present equality, no? To have such a big material shake up, and at least with the goal of addressing the patriarchy. I dont think in the anglosphere we ever had that.

shut the fuck up and listen

But dont need to turn off your brain. There are plenty of dumb trans people out there and you can find a trans person to represent any position.

Is there one gender friendlier to trans people?

I doubt it. It depends. I mean, women are friendlier, in general. It depends. And trans men are more likely to be "passing" living stealth. So its a different thing. I hardly know what anyone thinks of trans people unless I ask, because 99% of interactions I have are as presumed cis.

One thing I know is that everyone loves men. Cis men, trans men, doesnt matter. People value men. This is why all kinds of anti trans horseshit specifically targets trans women. In the UK recently there was a ruling about the definition of "woman" as it relates to trans women. But no definition of "man". Why! Why are only women subject to such shit. Trans men are implicitly pulled in and adversely affected but women are the ones who have the law about their bodies.

Of course there are good and bad aspects to any choice.

Trans man here to say that nobody needs to give any extra cred to MRA bullshit just because a trans person is saying it. I have also been through the full dude experience including profound loneliness. I likewise thought I was prepared but wasn't. Its hard. I miss how things were before too.

I also know that in general, in 2025, all people are more isolated than 20 years ago. Furthermore, it is a known phenomena for a longtime that friendships are more difficult to cultivate as an adult. I doubt how different things would have turned out for me had I not transitioned.

I also know that the "distance" I now experience from women is a direct result of 20,000 years of patriarchal violence. Of course women relate to me as a potential threat; I am one. And without the presumed vulnerability I possessed as a woman, men relate accordingly. Of course.

At some point, as a trans guy, you need to stop leaning on your experience "as a former woman" to compare your life to, especially in the negative. Being 22 is not the same as 42 no matter what your gender presentation at any point. Many people experience nostalgia for their youth.

As a man, you get to feel safe, but you don't get to be a nurturer or nurtured. You can speak up whenever you want, but not about your emotions, fears, or grief. You have the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want, as long as that doesn't involve anything feminine, which turns out to be many incredible things, like emotions, intentional parenting, grooming, baking, and so many other activities I've learned are too feminine.

Just as when cis guys make these complaints, I question this person's definition of "you dont get to". In fact the article describes him making a career out of doing so. Even specific instances of "going viral", and the affirmative feedback he received. It seems that you do get to.

Which leads to pointing out that the whole thing is an advertisment for the author who is "a Professional Corporate Speaker and Stress Management Coach".

And it has anti-trans hate material suggested items in the middle of it:

I transitioned to male 15 years ago, I was already well into adulthood by that time so had experience to compare. 100% agree with the post. It was night and day. (I'm not in Stem; just generally in life.)

The weirdest thing was some of the individual people who changed how they treat me over time, for the better. After I started transitioning. Its cool they are so trans positive and affirming I guess. But if you can turn that shit on like a tap why not do for everyone?

Now as a man I struggle to notice when I'm getting special treatment. Even with my prior experience. Sometimes I have been oblivious for years until I finally clocked it or it was pointed out by a woman.

It has made me much more respect cis men who manage to have a keen eye on sexism. Especially those who are masc presenting. It is so easy to not notice. It's very comfortable. People are polite. You have good luck. To all the guys commenting here that it doesn't go on around them: it sure as fuck does.

Oh i see. So much for the napkin puppets. :)

Why are napkins included with socks?

Vaccines are safe and effective.

Nobody mentioned a color