I transitioned to male 15 years ago, I was already well into adulthood by that time so had experience to compare. 100% agree with the post. It was night and day. (I'm not in Stem; just generally in life.)

The weirdest thing was some of the individual people who changed how they treat me over time, for the better. After I started transitioning. Its cool they are so trans positive and affirming I guess. But if you can turn that shit on like a tap why not do for everyone?

Now as a man I struggle to notice when I'm getting special treatment. Even with my prior experience. Sometimes I have been oblivious for years until I finally clocked it or it was pointed out by a woman.

It has made me much more respect cis men who manage to have a keen eye on sexism. Especially those who are masc presenting. It is so easy to not notice. It's very comfortable. People are polite. You have good luck. To all the guys commenting here that it doesn't go on around them: it sure as fuck does.

[–] Guns0rWeD13@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

preach. it is for reasons such as what you stated that i fully give my blessing to women transitioning to men. level the playing field by any means necessary. this is survival.

i try to embrace my male archetype because i think the worlds needs strong men, but i have come to understand the feminist perspective and i don't think there's any conflict with masculine men being empathetic. as a matter of fact, i think a truly confident man doesn't need to worry about being vulnerable and is in touch with their feelings. the macho american culture is not who we are. it is an aberration directly resulting from abrahamic religious values being hijacked by sociopaths to pave the way for authoritarianism and further subjugation of women.

and i think it's up to all of us to break these insecure macho idiots down into kneeling before a new age of humanity. make them heel to understand that they were weaklings all along.

[–] sureok@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Just to be clear: women do not transition to men to level the playing field or materially benefit themselves.

Studies of post transition income show that trans women go down (sometimes drastically) whereas trans men tend to stay about where they would have been. You get benefits of being treated as male but then you have discrimination and other problems as a queer/trans person to balance it out. So while I can report on the moments when socially and structurally I am treated as a man, it isn't the total experience if my life. I still am trans. There are significant problems associated. I wouldn't reccomend it as a career enhancer. To say nothing of how unpleasant transitioning just in hopes of getting a raise would feel.

I agree with regards to masculinity.

[–] Guns0rWeD13@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

yes. you're right. i understand that it's more than that and that it's not really viable as an economic strategy, but i like to show support where i honestly can.

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