shufflerofrocks

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[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 2 points 6 months ago

Imagine the whiplash I got, when I went online and saw people hating on three storied building with their own gardens, and calling them commie blocks, acting like it was the greatest indignity to live in them. Yikes!

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 1 points 6 months ago

the misogynistic myth that women only care about money and/or fame

Genuiney disheartening that this shit is re-surfacing again. I remember this sentiment going about around a decade ago, and then subsiding. Now it's resurfacing. Every generation loves to repeat the mistakes of it's past

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for the recommend, I'm taking my time going through all the suggestions here, and have been listening to this song for the past week - and wow this one is great, It made me tear up at times and I love the lyrics

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, same. I went back to my facebook groups and instagram pages for a while when reddit went crappy, and it really highlighted how helpful downvotes were

Downvotes are helpful if they are used properly (off-topic, hate speech, rediquitte, etc.), but I see people using it as a dislike button lately and that has made many discussion annoying and exhausting. Also, downvotes latently breed a hivemind which is like one of the worst parts of reddit.

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Some may disagree, but the root is very much shame, imo.

A lot of the parents of gay peeps I know were pretty chill about queerness, until their kid turned out to be one and they were shamed by their community. One of them started crying immediately when their kid came out and screamed about what society would say, but then adjusted and decided to prioritise their kid after a few hours.

I usually find Homophobia to be instilled through religion or hate media - In that sense There isn't really any systemic homophobia through non-abrahamic religions, which make up most of the country. That said, there has been a recent trend of few online personalities (few religious ones among them) copying western right wingers and denouncing trans people - which I find worrisome.

Most of the homophobia I have encountered I'm people here has usually been instilled through movies or online communities or through interactions where gay is used as an insult.

A homosexual kid who moves away will probably still be targeted, sadly. It's the "rebellion" that's the issue - there are many cases of honor-obsessed weirdos that have targeted their family peeps who went against the norm in different ways.

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Am Indian, I'll try and explain this crap mindset in the Indian context.

Why is queer people existing “dishonorable”???

Queer people are considered disgusting + a Strong Community sense to the point of toxicity.

Firstly, there's a lack of understanding:

Queerness is viewed as a choice, not an identity. A heteronormative environment + lack of education causes people to think that queer people are being quirky or rebelling, refusing to "listen to reason".

Secondly, Abrahamic religious and Colonial Influence:

Ancient India was kinda chill with queer people. Transexual people were ok, being able to live freely and own property, with some places even revered the trans people in their religion. Gay peeps, however, were thought to be unnatural for opposing the traditional family structure, but were punished lightly with small fines for indulging in homosexuality.

The whole stigma around Queerness started when Portugese settlors aggressivley punishing sodomy as early as the early 1500s in Goa. A few decades later, Mughals conquered their way into India and punished homosexuality with lashes/whippings/stonings. British Raj then took over almost all of India, and codified Homosexuality as a crime all over the country, and then labelled trans people as a "criminal tribe" and persecuted them.

A common point of discussion in Indian circles is the still-prevelant post-colonial starvation mindset in so many people of India - pursuing European/American beauty standards, disregard of own local culture, blind belief in western cultural concepts, racial imposter syndrome, validation from white people, sexual repression etc. This irrational distaste for queer people is a part of this mindset that has been left-behind and ingrained in the many cultures of India.

Overall, Queerness is considered dishonorable as it is seen as a form of "extreme rebellion" in the "most repulsive of ways".

Why do those commiting the violence do it?

India has always been a communal country. Even at it's peak, it was an alliance/cease-fire of hundreds of princely states and kingdoms ruled by communities. There was also the caste system that became more and more rigid and oppressive as time went on.

Anyhoo, you and your family was entirely dependant on staying by your community (community could refer to your caste, your tribe, your village, or your large family). It was a difficult task to move to a new community. Any sin or crime that you did also brought shame upon your community, and it was upto your community to correct the issue themselves and restore their honor - resulting in a heirarchical, community-priorities-first system.

While archaic, this mindset is prevelant in modern India - especially since your community is your primary support system, and there is a vast difference in socio-economic status between tight-knit and loosely-knit communities.

Those resorting to violence think that Queer people have commited a disgusting crime in a rebellious manner, all the while discarding everything that was done for them, ultimately bringing extreme shame to the family and the community. Therefore, they avenge and restore their honor by punishing the criminals for indulging in sin.

It's a toxic af dogshit mentality, especially propogated by those in power within the communities, using hate to keep their authority in line. But it is coming down slowly but steadily thankfully due to alleviation of poverty, diversification, healing from post-colonial mindset, and lesser dependance on your community for survival.

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

I second the suggestion of an A-series Samsung. My brother has an A24, which is pretty great. It's doesn't have the same performance as a S-series, but it's a great device at its price, and more durable and better battery life than the S-series imo.

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I find this arguing over labels more and more as I browse online, and it is sooo exhausting. I have noticed so many instances of arguing and discourse where both sides have similar ideals and want the same things, but argue with each other over stereotypes of labels on the other side, and point to the faults of the vocal rabid minority on the other side as if to prove a point. Sigh.

 

I've recently gotten into songs where the entire lyrics are the singer talking to someone. For example,

Sophie by The Altogether - https://youtu.be/k2KRDetyGhs

Dear McCracken by Bug Hunter - https://youtu.be/aWGolv2iqM0

Dance of the Dead by Iron Maiden - https://youtu.be/gG_JLYxbqpQ

Something Stupid - https://youtu.be/0f48fpoSEPU

GMF by John Grant - https://youtu.be/ekFWPsXXcg0

Angel of the Morning - https://youtu.be/K7Qfqle_2Bs

Mariner's Revenge Song by The Decemberists - https://youtu.be/iPAr7kL-mmg

Jolene by Dolly Parton - https://youtu.be/Ixrje2rXLMA

Genre is no bar - I just want the song to feel like a conversation.

Please help me scratch this itch. I know it sounds a bit vague, especially when there's a lot of songs that have some "talking" parts sprinkled in them, but that's not what I want.

If anyone could tell me what genre of music this is, I would appreciate it a lot. I guess a lot of ballads are similar to this style, but I'm not very sure

Edit: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions. I'm gonna take my time listening to each of these :)

[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Genuinely don't understand how reddit has failed to make money.

Reddit's entire value is based upon the unpaid contributions of its users- they generate and moderate all the content on the site for free, and these are the things that bring people to the site.

How entitled must one be to think they can ignore all this and be fine?

Also how tf is reddit not able to break bank?

The functionality of their website was relatively simple - not underming the reddit devs here. The costs must've been minimal before the redesign and the dumb ass decision to host their own images and videos. Did they burn up all their money for the redesign and the shitty app?

 
[–] shufflerofrocks@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

I like Kahlil Gibran

Recently been listening to Daniella Sinder and enjoying her works as well