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I own a gun and I strongly think that you SHOULD be able to own one IF you meet the qualifications. But I think those qualifications should be more strict and the penalty for being unsafe with your guns should be to lose them. Forever.
Violent crimes in the past including domestic? Say bye bye to your guns. Can't pass a background check? No exceptions.
Guns should be accessible to those who can pass strict check and removed permanently for behavior that is indicative of a potential problems.
But because I support the owning of guns I'm assumed to be one of .... them. Ugh. Yucks.
I handle it by showing my disgust and trying to explain that just because I support something doesn't mean that I fall in on a survey.
The entire gun "culture" is just toxic as fuck. To the point that if we ever do lose the right it will be their unwillingness to bend that causes it.
I wish the Democrats in the US were less willfully ignorant about firearms so they'd pass less stupid and ineffectual legislation out of fear and/or pandering.
Every time California passes an "assault weapons ban" that targets a specific ergonomic feature (pistol grips, removable magazines, what the hell ever they're focusing on now) and gun manufacturers find a work around before the bill even comes into effect, I just roll my eyes.
At this point I'm forced to assume it's purely performative.
Case in point. Great video of all the work the manufacturer made to keep the gun compliant. Its quite funny when you look at it.
ForgottenWeapons and InRangeTV are the only channels I still subscribe to, because they're not constantly bitching about gun laws and parroting conservative talking points.
The one time I've actually seen Ian make a statement about pending legislation, and he's coming at it from a very respectable angle, saying basically "this law is poorly worded and over-inclusive and I think it's going to cause some serious issues": https://youtube.com/shorts/aMHGtM051jc?si=nvB2q2vktbwBuULq
I mean, it's exactly what I was talking about. Politicians pushing terrible firearms legislation out of willful ignorance.
All it does is annoy and inconvenience lawful gun owners, and push the center-right further towards the MAGA crowd.
Sensible points you made!
The Russians. I'm against war, not living in Russia, working and paying taxes elsewhere. It was hard to make peace with myself, as you have to rip the vision of your country into two pieces - the first is the culture, places where you lived, your friends. The second is an insane killing machine called "the state". Have to learn not to associate yourself with that second half.
The support from many people, from here and from other countries, including a couple of Ukrainian friends (takes time to prove that you're "normal"), really helped.
Sorry for everything, I hope the old man will die soon.
Я сам русский и таже история. Путен сдохнет и мы будем ссать на его могилу! Слава Героям 🇺🇦
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I'm a large, unpleasant looking man living in a red state who has a pickup truck, and a harley. I'm married to a methodist lay speaker. I have a few firearms.
So naturally I must be the biggest trump supporting, red-hat wearing, religious conservative twatwaffle in existence, there is no other option.
As a result, the actual redhat cockwombles I work with think I'm going to be OK with their racist comments, and are shocked when I'm not. The thing that helps me with these guys is the fact that they are having to work from prints that have my initials on them so they can whine about the LiBuRl all they want, and I'll still be helping them get their jobs done.
The traits they are assuming make me One of Them™ are just incidental things. I have a battered old truck because my wife and I have either a large garden or a small farm, depending on how you look at it. A Honda Civic won't carry the stuff I need. (Neither will a van) I have a harley because the local motorcycle dealers are pretty terrible tp deal with, but the harley dealer is nice, helpful, and act like they want to sell a bike. I'm large and unpleasant because of genetics. And I have firearms because for most of my adult life I have lived somewhere that has an hour's response time for law enforcement, and I've had to defend myself in the past. None of these things made me hate any particular group of people.
How big is your garden/farm?
Pretty big. Or pretty small, depends on how you look at it. /s
If only we had measurements.
He's American tho. We don't use those here.
I'm a man, which means I am part of "men."
Lots of men are predatory, objectify women and scoff at feminism. Being a man, people just inherently assume I'm like that too.
I deal with it by engaging only with people who demonstrate the ability to listen and withhold judgment.
That is as sexist as it gets from whatever dumb people think about literally 50% of the world's population as a monolith
He said ‘lots of men’ not all.
Indeed. Oftentimes they kinda resolve their cognitive dissonance by saying 'Ah, you got a fiance, you have to say that wink'. As if there is no other logical explanation.
I'm very much into guns, have 35-45 or so, depending on your definition of "gun". I particularly like buying old crappy ones and fixing them up. They aren't "safe queens" either, I shoot every one of them at times, and shoot almost every weekend at my camp in the swamp.
I am liberal in about every other aspect and given the GOP's behavior since Obama took office, I'm voting straight ticket D till the day I die. I loathe being lumped in with the right-wingers and their attitudes.
Hello fellow liberal gun owner! It's good to see more of us out here. It fucking annoys me to no end whenever we get lumped together with that nonsense.
None. I have self-respect. For example. My own MAGA worshipping Trump-humping father demanded that I apologize for telling him that America sucks (in regards to healthcare). I was told to either apologize or to never talk again.
I said we’d never talk again. And we haven’t.
I'm unwillingly associated with the U.S. Democratic Party only because I'm uncompromising in my beliefs of equality and antifascism, but disagree with almost other policy of theirs^1
- This doesn't mean I agree with the only other major US party.
I'm not a Democrat. I'm anti-Republican. As soon as there's another actually viable option, or ranked choice voting, the Dems will never see me again.
This is the correct answer. Pretending there are more than two choices doesn't stop Roe from being abolished. You have to play the hand your dealt, etc.
Transmeds. Trans folk who gatekeep other trans folk, and think they can say who is "really trans" and who isn't.
I do think it would be helpful to have more clarity on the definitions of terms for different states of transitioning/non-transitioning but unfortunately that's outweighed by the privacy concerns and the infighting and effort it would cause
Why? What language are we lacking that would help if added, that wouldn't just lead to more gatekeeping?
We already have the language to talk about various elements of social and medical transition.
It's less about having the language and more about agreeing on the specifics of what language we do have. That's not gatekeeping, just categorization. Mildly useful but people calling it "gatekeeping" is exactly why it wouldn't be helpful to try to define it in practice (don't mean to attack you, just taking an example).
As I said though, what language are we lacking that we don't already have?
I've been called a tanky, neolib, fascist, radfem, misogynist, racist, "woke", republican, Democrat, religious nutjob, and militant athiest over my time on Reddit and I wouldn't really agree with any of those descriptors lol. People just assume that if you have an even remotely nuanced opinion on a topic then you must belong to the "other side". I don't really care most of the time. I know what I believe and I don't let it be defined by tribalism.
Haha as well. I've been called chauvinist, fascist and other words associated with the super far right, even though I'm center left on the compass. It's impressive how utterly extinct nuance is in social media and traditional news.
That’s a wide spectrum of associations. Have you ever considered you may be bad at articulating your views?
I bet you even try to “just ask questions” too… disgusting.
Neckbeards, because I fit some of the stereotypes.
I'm interested in roleplaying and videogames, so people assume I'm one of those gatekeeping basement dwellers that mock "girl gamers" and play WoW and weird hentai games 23 hours a day. Honestly, I couldn't care less about what other players have in their pants or which games they like as long as everyone is having fun.
I own two swords, so people assume I'm one of those "leave the multibillion dollar company alone" fedora-wearing m'lady incels who pose with their katanas for sh*tty profile pics and think they look like ninjas or something. The thing is, me and two buddies did show fights for medieval faires for a couple of years, so the weapons aren't just decoration / dumb tokens to make myself feel cool. Granted, the "fights" were more or less scripted, but it still had to look convincing enough to entertain the masses.
It's especially annoying when actual neckbeards think I'm "one of them" and are then surprised that I don't share any of their cringey, prejudice-laden, condescending world views.
I watch a ton of anime, and I hate weebs so damn much
I find myself agreeing with the libertarian socialist school of thought, which means in debates I get accused of a lot of opinions I don't agree with, because I disagree with things using socialist language or libertarian points.
US political parties.
Because I live in and enjoy living in Chicago, am socially liberal, an ardent feminist, an aspiring antiracist, people assume I'm a Democrat. Honestly, even the first alone is usually enough to trigger this assumption.
Because I'm politically conservative, respect religious freedom, respect the second amendment, and oppose stacking the Supreme Court, people assume I'm a Republican; even though the GOP hasn't respected religious freedom or been politically conservative in general in decades.
And when I tell people that I'm not registered with a party, won't vote along party lines, and won't vote the lesser evil, I'm assumed to be politically inactive, apathetic, or ignorant. Whereas I'm very active, always vote, usually campaign for favored candidates and against corrupt incumbents.
The "team sport" mentality of FPTP political systems is absolutely terrible, honestly.
Good post, glad to hear others who are not Trumptards also support all of our Constitutional rights.
I always vote against anyone who proposes to limit freedoms or rights of Americans, so I don't usually end up with many good candidates to vote for.
I live in Singapore, and because of that, I'm associated with Singaporeans.
I hate it because they're generally spoilt af, complaining all the time. They also tend to make fools of themselves overseas by being noisy and difficult. We're probably like this because Singapore is run in a really great way, and when compared to other countries, things may be slower or just done differently.
I try my best not to be like that and I will actively avoid Singaporeans if I see them overseas (you can tell by their accent and loud voices).
And how much they say "La" in a passive aggressive way. Man, I'm tolerant to it because I don't know the culture that well, but it still annoys the shit out of me.
To be fair, we use lah in almost every context, not just passive aggressiveness. But yeah singaporeans tend to be passive aggressive af, now that you mention it.