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[โ€“] PetDinosaurs@lemmy.world 34 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] PetDinosaurs@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Psst. That's the joke.

I quickly responded to your question with no, but the only people who would do that are people who really want to answer questions.

In any case, I think you're correct enough for this joke. At least some people really want to answer questions, and I have a questioning 5 yo.

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There IS an extent to which this seems true for everyone, tho... Like, we were all "parented" in some way and that almost always involves answering and learning to defend oneself...

[โ€“] PetDinosaurs@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can you clarify this a bit more? I'm not understanding this yet.

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So everyone with parents/adult figures (almost everyone except wolf-children) they had to answer to, instilled a low-key compulsion to answer questions or any sentence with that lift at the end indicating questioning. Cuz you were in trouble if you didn't. Childen have no 5th amendment aha

[โ€“] PetDinosaurs@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Are you feeling ok? Can you share some more of your feelings?

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[โ€“] PetDinosaurs@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As an anonymous Internet person, I want you to know that I care about you.

I also want you to know that I've gone through a lot of struggles, and I support you.

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Can I ask what the deal here is? Do you think my comments are inordinate within the context of "having been parented + human)? Do you think its unusual that I generalize feeling a proclivity towards feeling it necessary to respond satisfactorily in the face of external inquiries? Is that not a normal thing?

I'm approaching all of this purely from the vantage point of curiosity :)

[โ€“] ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 year ago

Your idea makes perfect sense, though I think it's not only embedded in culture (parenting), but also in our nature as humans.

I'm tempted to say that humans are born curious, and by extension, most humans like to share their knowledge or more often their opinions. I know I do.

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[โ€“] NAXLAB@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago

You won't hear from the ones that don't.

[โ€“] Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago

Feels like you're just going to get biased answers.

[โ€“] penquin@lemmy.kde.social 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When you're a dad, you have no choice but answer questions all damn day long.

Damn straight, Pa

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] penquin@lemmy.kde.social 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Can't answer more questions. I'm done

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[โ€“] krimsonbun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, I never want to answer a question.

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[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes. Variously called an occupational habit or a lowkey OCD one (though you definitely won't hear me say that), questions are akin to a verbal vacuum (and not ironic at all I of all people give this answer, oh no).

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Vacuum is such a good analogy for this :)

[โ€“] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago

cocksure abhors a vacuum

[โ€“] sosodev@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (8 children)

All humans? No. There are plenty of people who couldnโ€™t care less what you want to know.

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[โ€“] TechieDamien@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

If you have ever seen a police interregation, you may notice the detectives ask a question and then, after either no answer or insufficient answer, they will just look at the suspect expectantly. This is done to put phsycological pressure on the suspect to answer the question. Given this info, I would say so, at least in a face to face situation.

Online, I am not so sure. How many posts did you scroll past in the last week on Lemmy that ask a question that you did not answer? How many did you answer? Even if you answered most, you would be in the minority, as if you were not, we would expect far higher engagement rates on posts.

[โ€“] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] CiderApplenTea@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

'obviously', I tend to correct wrong answers, instead of feeling inclined to answering straight out haha

I appreciate your response to this and also as a confirmatory source more than you could ever know.

[โ€“] sbv@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think you mean that you follow Cunningham's Law. /s

(I tried to phrase that as a correction)

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Can you like summarize even if its an edit when youre citing a long wikipedia article

Edit: i get tired of playing "Where's Waldo" with facts/referenced content at the end of a long day

[โ€“] sbv@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Cunningham is credited with the idea: "The best way to get the right answer on the Internet is not to ask a question; it's to post the wrong answer."[17] This refers to the observation that people are quicker to correct a wrong answer than to answer a question.

No comment ;)

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Continue...

Edit: so if I get something wrong, ur all over it?!

[โ€“] toototabon@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

I'd go with yes, as rising intonation conveys questioning (at least in the languages I somewhat know). We even have a '?' symbol.

In and of itself, all that shows to me that, if not answer, making questions is very much part of our nature!

And questions, such as yours, incite discussion and create cultures. Even if not accurate, myths were a way of answering why we're here and why seasons exist(ed).

you must not have children. theres phase they go through which is nearly all questions

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