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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Either_Art410 on 2023-08-11 23:20:01.
My sister-in-law is pregnant with her 5th daughter, and every time she gets pregnant throws out a certain name (let's say it's Nancy). My wife instantly has a problem with that name.
When my wife was younger, shortly after high school and well before we were together, she ended up getting pregnant. Her parents are devoutly religious, so she hid the pregnancy from them. About 7 months in, she miscarried, and ended up delivering the baby herself at home. It wasn't until later that her parents found out and the police became involved. For their paperwork, the had to give the baby a name, and my wife called it Nancy.
Healed from one of the most traumatic experiences of her life, the thought of her sister using the name that she had to use infuriates her, and causes her to shut down every time her sister has suggested it.
I'm currently texting with my my brother in law about it, my wife's sister's husband. I'm going to suggest that they don't use the name if they want us to be a part of their daughters' lives, because of not only having my wife relive the most traumatic experience of her life, but the disrespect they have towards her to use that name knowing what she's been through.
WIBTA for not being involved in their lives after this?