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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/acidk00laid on 2023-08-11 18:52:02.
I am very much a student of intersectional feminism and have found it leading my interest in sexism as a whole. Having many male friends and basic empathy I had found myself interested in how the patriarchy effects men too. I believe to help women we must help men too (and all our non cis friends as well) we can’t advance feminism by just focusing on cis women.
But my goodness am I tired of sticking up for men while the majority just don’t think deeply enough about their problems. Even my most liberal and open minded friends will think shallowly about mens issues. I had a close friend send me a tiktok (short video) a montage of men saying they don’t have anyone to call at their lowest. I was a little offended as this friend regularly comes to me for comfort and talks to me daily about his feelings. He then says this issue is that it’s a mens issue and so it can’t be fixed cause most men won’t help each other - why so scared of learning from women?
Another friend went on about how men are most likely to die at work and make up the majority of the army and they are more likely to be in physically dangerous jobs. This is a more conservative friend, and has once said men should protect women as they are stronger.
Men love to talk about how they are oppressed and how society has hurt them but refuse to think deeper about it. They will complain that men die more in the workplace without acknowledging that women (who are, I believe 70% less stronger on average than men) have been actively discouraged from those job roles. The same men who whine that no one is there for them, are the same men who will avoid letting others talk about their feelings.
I’m tired of giving men empathy for their very real issues only for them to cite statistics with the sole purpose of saying “men have it worse than women” rather than to have a fruitful conversation.
I will continue to learn about mens issues in private but I won’t be talking to men about it anymore.