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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Lovely5596 on 2023-08-11 17:33:26.

I recently lost my voice and it was eye opening about some minor annoyances in my marriage. Granted my husband is also sick, but I noticed that he doesn’t look at me very often and there are certain things where if I don’t ask (“nag”) him to do it, it won’t get done. That and his idea of making me feel sexy is just grabbing my boobs. These aren’t insurmountable problems but I have noticed lately I’m not super happy in my marriage. Regardless, I found myself thinking things like, “well at least he doesn’t rape me,” or “thankful he’s not cheating on me while I’m pregnant or manipulating me in some horrible way.” I mentally conjure all the stuff I read here to compare him to, but it’s like comparing a small waste paper basket to a flaming dumpster of dirty diapers or something. Regardless I think we could benefit from couples counseling.