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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/sileotumen on 2023-08-10 23:27:20.
Another success story of mine! Just here to share the positive vibes with you guys, and everything that happened in the past two months.
- I got out of a relationship which was very toxic for me (no shaming on my ex partner, it wasn't their fault - we were not right for each other) and can now entirely focus on myself and my well being.
- I can now spend so much more time with my friends and focusing on my hobbies, which is an absolute game changer for me. I don't dread waking up anymore, I haven't felt like that in years.
- I found a really nice new apartment which is twice as large as my current home, very affordable (only 160€ more expensive than my current place) and only 10 minutes walking distance within my sister (my only family who supports me being transmasc and AuDHD). Previously, I lived 300km away from her due to living with my ex.
- I just recently came to the conclusion that I am not binary trans (ftm), but actually transmasc and nonbinary. Experimenting with my gender expression is just so refreshing and affirming for me. Also, Im absolutely rocking the new aesthetic!!
- Speaking of aesthetic: this month my health insurance sent me a letter stating that they will cover 100% of all the costs for gender affirming surgeries! I didn't even have to fight for that! I just sent in the necessary paperwork and they were like "yeah alright lets give this dude the surgeries he needs". The current date is set to February for my top surgery, but I'm currently waiting for more details. I'm so excited!!
- I got a new job that's 100% remote and pays me 25-33% better than my current job (depending on bonuses and such). Also, unlike my current job, I have no leadership responsibilities in the new job, which means I can save a lot of my energy for myself and just do my job. They are also aware that I will have surgeries next year and I got it signed in paperwork that this is not a deal breaker. So I'm all set without worrying about my sick days :)
- due to lucky circumstances, I recently got 3k€ back from a previously bad financial decision - just in time for moving into a new apartment and starting from scratch since I can now buy a lot of new furniture and also afford the deposit easily. I can also buy myself new binders after wearing my current (and only one) for almost 4 years now.
- the doctors in my new town take me and my symptoms seriously and don't dismiss my pain (both physical and mental) just because I happen to be AFAB. I'm currently on track of getting my meds fixed, which is such a relief. I still suffer from chronic pain, but it gets better by the day.
It just feels like after almost 27 years of suffering and fighting to just barely survive, everything falls into place just perfectly. I finally get a chance to live and be myself. My family (my sister and her husband) love me dearly and supported me all the way through, and I finally get a chance to repay them for all their help and kindness too!! Just right now, I fixed my brother in law's PC so he can work remote again, which is a relief to him as he currently suffers from a depression episode. I also helped my sister get her ADHD diagnosis by stumbling across a psychiatrist who I couldn't afford at that time, but she could. Since she takes meds for her ADHD, her life quality improved drastically, which also allows her to take better care of herself.
So if you are looking for a sign and wonder if things get better - I can't promise it, but ten years ago I could have never imagined to be in such a great position. I'm happy, and I'm sending each and every one of you positive vibes and lots of love (and many spoons and your safe food :) )!!