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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Cookie_Storm20 on 2023-08-12 01:28:46.

Recently my school has started again, and this year we can’t eat anywhere other than in the cafeteria or have headphones/ earbuds on in common areas. I have a lot of sensory issues, and I can’t handle being in the cafeteria. It’s incredibly crowded, loud, and there is a lot of different smells from peoples food. Yesterday I went in the cafeteria for maybe two minutes with some friends who were looking for the rest of our group. After being in there for that short of time I felt like I was dying, and was tearing up. Last year I was able to eat outside, where it’s quieter, and since it’s banned this year I have no solution but to not eat, which then hinders my performance in school. I have two classes Im allowed to eat in but they are both very quiet and I don’t feel comfortable eating in a quiet space because I feel like I’m being too loud and I get very stressed when people eat in otherwise quiet spaces, since the noise gets overwhelming. Im working on getting loop earplugs, but I don’t know if they’re allowed and I could only get the engage ones, which may not be able to block off enough sounds and it won’t help with the smell issue. I don’t have any formal diagnosis since my family isn’t great so I don’t know if I could get any accommodations if I asked. I don’t know what to do about this and any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/GrapefruitFun7135 on 2023-08-11 23:52:58.

So let me start with I am audhd, 31m. Obviously married to 25f not nt nor nd. I am unemployed due to my autism which gets in my way during interviews and during a job if I actually land it. I've never had a job go longer than a few months before I'm outed as slow and not capable of my job as ive been told by every single employerive had. I then have to remind them of laws protecting me and the cycle just goes to shit. I've even had the eeoc involved on my 1st job. I've had 6 jobs since 21 and been currently unemployed since 3/22 or so. I've had 2 jobs since 2020 and lost both in less than 2 months.

Currently supposed to be out of our house tomorrow, but we unfortunately couldn't secure anywhere to go or put our stuff. So nothing has been done except cleaning and some packing but ultimately we have nowhere to put it anyways. The wife has her disability income but at $522 a month we can't afford the $1,800 a month to live in a dilapidated home the landlord doesn't care to fix. Haven't found anything within our budget for housing. It comes down to pets or money.

So I'm a horrible husband because due to my disability being how it is I've not been able to support my wife and keep her safe. Fuck my health but I want her safe. I've failed in my oath I took at marriage. Typing this all out is making me cry so I'ma cut it right here. Sorry if it's a rant but this is some depressing stuff.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/throw-this-away67e7e on 2023-08-11 23:09:42.

I'm thinking of getting tested, but I feel unsure about being able to get diagnosed or if I'm just overthinking the things I do.

So I was wondering: what things you did made you think you had autism? What did people point to you that they said was autistic behaviour?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/AutistRedding2002 on 2023-08-12 00:21:10.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Daisyandcloud23 on 2023-08-12 00:17:06.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Head_Link_1743 on 2023-08-11 21:31:22.

My partner (35M) has recently been diagnosed with autism. He's known he was different for his whole life but problems at work and some research led him towards the assessment. He says he is happy that he has the diagnosis as it's helped him to explain a lot of his behaviours over the years.

In March, he lost a job he loved. The problems he had was timekeeping and meeting deadlines and feeling a lack of support when asking for some reasonable adjustments. Since then, he has applied for many jobs but has only gotten to the interview stage three times, none of which resulted in a job offer.

Last week he interviewed for a job he really wanted and was one of three candidates who made it to the interview stage. He was unsuccessful.

I've noticed his mental health decline over the last couple of months. He says he always feels tired and anxious and feels guilty that he isn't able to contribute to the household at the moment. I've reassured him that the income I have leaves us financially stable and that I'd rather he find a job he loves and that makes him happy rather than taking anything just to have a wage.

My question really is - how can I best be supportive? We're in the UK so I'm not sure if there are any charities or agencies that support neurodivergent job seekers that we can get advice from.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Plus-Vermicelli-6320 on 2023-08-11 20:38:27.

Slowly realising there’s a very real possibility I’m asexual, and the more I think about it the more I feel disconnected to the world. It’s so obsessed with sex and societal expectations I might as well be the extraterrestrial evidence they’re all looking for - I certainly feel like an alien anyway🧍🏻‍♀️

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Ethan_Playz2011 on 2023-08-11 21:36:03.

Mine, Hand flapping, Rocking, vocal, and funger flicking

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/fortibyze on 2023-08-11 21:10:27.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/maemaemo on 2023-08-11 19:53:43.

I’m 13, been seeing her for maybe two years. My mom, like a year ago was like “my daughter (imm trans, so son) thinks she’s autistic and she genuinely believed it! There’s no way she’s autistic she was so social as a kid!” And like that basically my psychiatrist agreed with her… recently my psychiatrist told me that my mom is saying that because she doesn’t want to believe that there’s anything wrong with me (which I totally get it . My mom does that). Besides the point—

She says I’m neurodivergent. I told her not to tell my mom and not to write it down. Is it still like a diagnosis? She didn’t even say if it was autism or adhd or anything (I’m diagnosed OCD btw) and basically we talked about fidgeting, sensory issues, the way I think. She basically taught me that NTs think differently and that their rules in society don’t make sense to people like me and explained stuff (I didn’t remember what she said) so like yeah is that diagnosis

I’m also super sure i’m autistic, I’ve been researching since I was 10. I also have a special interest on psychology (and I study mostly about the prefrontal cortex and frontal lobes) so I know a thing or two about neurodivergence and the brain. Past videoed, talking to people I was raised with, yeah a lot

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Former_Risk_2_self on 2023-08-11 19:02:05.

Sometimes I just love it so much that it’s hard to interact with anything about it. Like I get so overwhelmed and happy that it ends up almost hurting? I’ve had to ban myself from interacting with. It’s always sunny in Philadelphia a couple times lol.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Apprehensive-Throat7 on 2023-08-11 20:00:43.

When growing up, I had a really rough childhood. I was a very unlucky and clumsy kid, went to foster care, was abused in foster care and I definitely have a lot of PTSD, one from men's restrooms and one with swings and other stuff.

So to kind of get away from reality, I listen to music a lot. I get excited about long car rides because it means I can listen to music for a long period of time and day dream.

I love choir and I almost always have earbuds and a device on me. But my parents and even siblings sometimes hate that I have earbuds in and want me to pay attention.

I understand what they mean but... I feel so disconnected without my music. It's not like I'm ignoring the world, I am aware it exists... I just hate it. I hate how I'm prone to being hurt so many times.

Is this an addiction? Should I work on it? Or is this natural for people with autism to cling to something? And even if it was normal, is it something I should work on?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Sorry_University_811 on 2023-08-11 19:32:49.

My cousin (7 years old) is very obviously autistic. I am autistic myself so I noticed it a couple years ago and told her parents, they completely brushed it off because they think autistic = dumb (they also ignored my own diagnose but I'm 24 so whatever). The troubles began when she started school and she couldn't keep up with the rest of the kids; I tried to talk them into getting her a different, personalized kind of education, once again, didn't listen. So now my cousin is at a point where I can tell school is really affecting her self-esteem as the conventional education system isn't working for her. She can't read and can barely write, I've told her parents a million times that they need to get her a private tutor that specializes on autism. Instead they got a yes-man child psychologist who just gave them an ADHD diagnose and the most bare-minimum therapies (I've had to sit through them with her).

That is one issue, another issue and the one that concerns me the most, is that her parents are turning straight up abusive as they refuse to accept her as she is and therefore don't take the time to look into it; she stims a lot, has a lot of sensory triggers, no filter during casual conversations and they see it as an "attitude" fault, so they yell at her, tell her to stop acting "r slurded", leave her to deal with her sensory issues alone because "she's being a brat" and have even gotten physical.

Being autistic myself I went through all of these things with them, not only with my aunt but my entire family, and completely alone too as I am an only child, so I always try to reassure my cousin that she is smart and capable, I always comfort her when her parents get on their "don't talk to her she's a brat" weird ice-treatment abuse and overall always show her patience, but the issue is we don't live in the same state, they are only visiting for the holidays so I can only take care of her for so long and it seriously worries me that she's going to have to go back to a house where she's not understood and tended to her needs.

My aunt is also having another child and her pseudo-psychologist told her to stop helping my cousin around (whos 7 years old mind you) because she needs to learn to be an "adult" as a new a baby is coming and she has to look after herself now. I'm just worried; I actually had a fight with my family this morning because I was sleeping and I woke up to yelling because my cousin kept complaining about the tag in her dress driving her insane and no one would take 30 seconds to cut it off, so naturally she begins to stim and them, the alleged adults in the situation, solely resort to yelling and calling her stupid. I cut off the tag and did her hair because my aunt refuses to do her hair now after the psychologists advice, EVEN THOUGH, she never even took the time to teach her to do it in the first place. I just feel bad, there's a pit in my stomach.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/whimu on 2023-08-11 19:12:35.

Ive always REALLY hated getting my haircut, the whole experience- being stuck 1 on 1 with someone i dont know attempting to make small talk with me, someone touching my head and hair, the feeling of hair getting cut off and land all over you..

idk i just hate everything about it, and as a result i havent gotten a proper haircut in like over 2 years

ive tried to cut my own hair a few times but its so overwhelming, and i can barely force myself to shower much less give myself a haircut, i just always put it off.

Do you guys have any strats to deal with this? My hair is like 90% dead ends and i rly need to do somethint about it lol

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Ethan_Playz2011 on 2023-08-11 19:01:54.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/talkstobees on 2023-08-11 18:44:03.

I am also autistic, and despite all the research I have done about neurodiversity, this is the first time I have encountered this theory. I'm curious about y'all's takes on it!

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/gulteip on 2023-08-11 17:07:51.

When I deal with intense emotions I begin hitting myself extremely hard in the arm. To the point of serious swelling and bruising. I don't know why I do this and how to stop doing it.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Opposite_Tomorrow_37 on 2023-08-11 17:17:06.

Though ADHD seems to make how long I can use them limited because it starts to hurt to have lesss stimulation

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/FreddieArsenic on 2023-08-11 16:51:18.

So I just found out standing with my thumbs in my pockets and fingers outside is supposed to be seductive or aggressive. I did it because Iiked the way it made the webbing around my finger feel. I've been walking around like this for like a year now. What have I done?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/toastedcabinet on 2023-08-11 16:23:05.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Jewelrossilli on 2023-08-11 15:30:14.

Depends on how high I am, but I swear to god at least on a social level weed cures my autism. Makes me wonder why it isn’t 100% legalized as I also suffer from an auto immune disorder and nothing has helped like marijuana.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Idonthavetiiiime on 2023-08-11 14:24:41.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/ghostfuxker on 2023-08-11 13:55:01.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/retciga on 2023-08-11 13:51:09.

We've known about my brother (let's call him R) being on the spectrum since he was 5-6 years old and he has been to therapy in different places for long periods of time ever since, although not consistently. I'm not sure if he has mild or severe autism, but he's 16 with the understanding of a 1-2 year old and cannot form coherent sentences (he's not mute, just doesn't know how to speak clearly) Last year during a visit by my uncle and his little children, R was playing a game on my uncle's iPad, when apparently he just got upset for no reason and threw a very violent fit. He hurt my mom and dad and also almost hit the kids. I wasn't present there but from what I know no one screamed at him nor was there any known trigger. What we thought was one isolated incident became very frequent over the months to come. There have been many such incidents since, at least 10, so instead of going into detail about each of them I'll just give some general background:

• Most of the incidents didn't have any obvious trigger. I was certain there will be something and insisted we should look for it. My initial theory was R doesn't like being told what to do, maybe if you call his name and tell him to do something like "come here/eat this" he might or might not get upset and throw a fit. My second theory was he doesn't like going to school (he recently started going to this special school after a year of staying at home) because 3-4 of his fits happened in school, and the teacher had to call us to pick him up. My mom's theory was he acts up because of loud noises, of any kind, they don't necessarily have to be directed towards him. It could be an argument or even a happy cheer.

• At this point we've both been proven wrong. Today R got violent at home again and there was absolutely no argument or loud noise, he hadn't gone to school, we hadn't ask him to do anything. 4-5 months ago we did go to a medical professional who prescribed some kind of syrup with a dose of 10 drops (I'll check which one and update). My parents felt that the medication was working because we went a month without any issues, but then it started again. Every incident is so random and different it's hard to pinpoint why it's happening.

• The fit itself is very, very violent. Although R is skinny, he's a young dude with a tall frame and has hit puberty, so he has abnormal strength which is difficult to control. The 3 of us try to overpower him but he still manages to hurt us in some way. Till now he has scratched us hard enough to make us bleed, twisted my finger so hard it almost broke, and when we immobilize his limbs he uses his head to hit us. He also makes loud noises, is clearly frustrated, and sometimes starts crying (especially when we stop him from hurting us). One time he started crying, and I thought I was hurting him so I let his arm go, but he started hitting us again. It's not hard to deduce that he's very overwhelmed by some emotional or sensory overload, but as a young person myself I've no idea what I can do to help or stop this.

We'll be taking him to a doctor again and try to get to the root of the problem, but I just wanted to share it here and get input from people who have experience dealing with this stuff or have similar stories to share.

P.S. - Sorry for the long read, I don't have a suitable TLDR to provide 😭

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Mrcowgamez17 on 2023-08-11 16:51:30.