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Say pretty much anything. I just need distraction

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[–] Cherry@piefed.social 2 points 6 hours ago

What do you want? And what do you need? I know motivation is a different thing but is there any one thing that can help you stabilise?

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago

seeing how many people replied warms me also depressed heart.

I'm putting myself in they list of you want to chat. take care mate

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I exercised for the first time in like 4 years today, 30 minutes on an elliptical machine, and I'm mad about it because i enjoyed it, and now I'm sore. I'm probably going to have a fantastic night of sleep because of it too.

grumbly curmudgeon noises

That's excellent work! 4 years is a long time and getting back to it is hard. Well done

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 9 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Coming to this fairly late, so I hope that means things have eased up for you.

But, fwiw, I'm happy when I see a post you've made, even one like this.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 16 hours ago

That's made my day thanks mate 😀

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 19 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

A few days ago I was sitting in a public park. There were no other people close to me in the park. The sun was shining in a mostly cloudless sky and some of the taller trees were casting shadows on the grass. A gust of wind would blow through and the sounds of all the leaves from the trees made that pleasant rushing sound before ebbing away with the retreat of the wind. The smell of Earth was strong, like freshly turned soil. There were birds and insects, unseen, but loudly calling to each other oblivious to me in the park with them. I heard a commotion from the underbrush not far away, and see three squirrels chattering and giving chase to one another. It was very pleasant!

I wish I could have packaged this moment in the park in a bottle and give it to you to experience right now. A bottle of peace and contentment, as long as you don't mind the chatty squirrels.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

That's a really nice comment I've saved it. Genuine thanks 😊

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 5 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Seriously dude, head to a green space near you (if they exist). They provide the environment our brains expect from past evolution.

Take a tip from the Welsh, “dod yn ôl at fy nghoed” literally translates as, “to return to my trees”, and means, “to return to a balanced state of mind”.

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 4 points 23 hours ago

Reminds me of a episode of Supernatural season 6 episode 20 The Man Who Would Be King. In it the angel Castiel explains a part of heaven he enjoys. Don't want to spoil much but what you just described would make a wonderful day to experience like that.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I lived in a neighborhood that was not far off from some open nature (a lost deer was in the rose garden last month). I went through a period where I had a ton of close encounters with skunks. I mean, no one has been up close with skunks this much in a suburban area without getting sprayed.

Once, I rounded the corner of my house and was face to face with one heading the opposite direction. We both ran from each other. Another time, I was outside smoking in the narrow space between my place and a fence between me and the next building late at night. A skunk casually walked by me from behind me. I couldn't believe it; the space was about two and a half feet and it was practiacally brushing my leg.

And there was the clan of skunks raiding a trash bin one time. And the skunk walking through a neighbor's yard early morning. Just skunks all the time. That's not even counting the almost-certainly-rabid skunk that chased me and a friend, snarling (we saw it out during daytime a day later, so for sure rabies, according to animal control).

I eventually started jingling my keys in my hand any time I was walking around after dusk. I haven't run into a skunk since.

Hope you feel better.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 19 hours ago

I'm British so to me skunks are cuddly loving creatures that just smell. But of course, they're not. And I am feeling a bit better thanks 😊

[–] JakoJakoJako13@lemmy.world 8 points 21 hours ago

Sorry to hear your feeling that way. I hope it's not do something crazy level depression. I had a bout of that yesterday. I packed my bags told my family I was going to the laundry mat, actually did that, then drove 150 miles across my state to get a bottle of water and a Slim Jim. I was dead set on driving across the country but it was raining hard for hours. I stopped and spent 2 hours crying in a rest stop. I decided to turn around. Didn't get home until 3 something this morning.

[–] BCOVertigo@lemmy.world 10 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Hi! I saw your post about moderating and I think it's cool that you decided to carry that community for everyone. Thanks for doing that!

I've been taking care of my ancient wizened pet rabbit. She's like 90 in bunny years (considering large breeds like flemish giants don't live as long) but here's an old and young picture of her huge dumbo ears.

I go to a restaurant store for her because they sell giant bags of cilantro and she mows through it among other things.

I've also been running a tabletop rpg system I wrote and built a setting for, and it's going pretty well! It's kind of a science fantasy thing and players are all humans, but they can be terran or from a colony world we build out together. That entails negotiating what adaptations the colonists originally gave their children to thrive on that world and so we ended up with a huge strongman character from a hot high gravity world for example. He has heat venting scales that look like a bush viper all over him and he's the only one enjoying the desert they're currently traversing while I throw creatures at them like a tamer version of Scavenger's Reign.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks vertigo it's been a lot of work but the members have been great so it's all good. Your bunny is adorable! How old is she?

[–] BCOVertigo@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

She'll be 10 next year! I just had a friend lose his rabbit at 13 and I hope she makes it that far healthy enough to have a good quality of life. She's a much better pet for me than the iguana or tarantula I had when I was a kid, but I also like dogs. I think rabbits are my favorite now.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 20 hours ago

Hopefully so! They are lovely animals. Iguana and tarantula aren't my cup of tea I've always been into cuddly ones

[–] thoughtfuldragon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Also depressed, feel trapped by reality.

[–] Fetus@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago

Ope, there goes gravity!

[–] maniacalmanicmania@aussie.zone 11 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I'm lying in bed waiting for my partner to finish in the bathroom before we pass out together. It's late.

Tomorrow someone is coming to pick up a washing machine I'm giving away. I hope they ask about the free fridge as well. I hope they're not weird.

Fly halfway across the country in a couple days to our new digs. Looks boring af. I'll have to go scouring the neighbourhood for props to lift so I can get some indoor plants going.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Glad you're getting rid of the washing machine it's a nightmare to take anywhere yourself. When I moved I was lucky the person I sold the house to wanted my fridge, it wouldn't survive a move so that would have been a nightmare to get rid of

[–] steven0123@lazysoci.al 4 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Would you not need the appliances at your next house?

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 23 hours ago

The washing machine I took with me but the fridge was old, it was never gonna survive a move. It was a nice young lad that bought the house, so it was nice to save him a few quid

[–] moon@piefed.social 6 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

it was hot and humid overnight, the apartment was horrible... it's raining now, but alas, the strong wind keeps me from opening the window in the bedroom for a fresh breeze, there's too much rain coming in. but at least it is raining, I love the sound of the rain.

I'm laying in bed writing this and my voidfloof came to lay with me - I guess he isn't bothered by my body heat lol

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 20 hours ago

Humid is the worst heat! It's just so heavy. I love the sound of rain too, and yes floofs want love no matter what

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 7 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time today Lady. Depression sucks 🤍

Hopefully this pic of my parents' floof monster will put a smile on your face!

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 22 hours ago

Thanks Klem! And floof can only be a good thing

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

I hope it's passed, and you are feeling better now. Elbow have a new album out, it's pretty good. It finally started raining here, our dry season was too dry and it's so good to have the rains most days now.

[–] steven0123@lazysoci.al 8 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (2 children)

Anything you want to discuss?

I feel you. I have been pretty low the last two weeks, but not low enough to go see my drs, yet. My kids are what keep me here. I feel bad saying that, and how other people could take that, but it's what stops me.

I am a few months medicated now to manage my depression and AuDHD as a middle aged guy. Hyper focusing on my mental health is getting pretty draining and I'm agonising so much over the negative. I've found talking helps, but just struggling with the day to day work / life at the moment.

I'm terrified of having another breakdown and there are so many possibilities to process. Fuck my brain.

Saying that though, I've got to stop being so hard on myself too, and think of how far I have come over the last two years in this journey. I should be proud of the changes I've made in myself and the impact that has had on everyone around me.

I'm pretty sure I can do this, but then , the world is just fucking insane right now, who knows what the fuck this rollercoaster of life will throw at us tomorrow.

I hope you are ok friend. We need to look out for each other. I am trying.

Edit: On second thoughts, maybe detailing my own mental health wasn't the distraction you were after? If then, sorry mate!

Bit over this cold weather though. Our houses in Aus are fucked. 21°C/10°C min/max the last few weeks, with periods of rain or just blue skies. Never been this fucking cold in my life. Maybe it's my old age and the combo of loosing a bit of weight lately, fuck fuck, it's cold. Wish my house was better insulated from the weather.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Honestly it really helps I feel less alone. Sadly there's nothing going on, it's literally just depression is bad today for no reason. And I'm British so 10c is mild to me! In Scotland its sunbathing weather haha

[–] steven0123@lazysoci.al 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I have been to Scotland a couple times for work, and yeah, cold, but your buildings are made for it from what I saw, and it was pretty comfy in most of the places I visited and worked, but suppose electricity bills would be high and that may not be the experience for all?

I have a young Scotsman working for me over here, migrated about two years ago. Said the other day if he hadn't gone home over Christmas he would have been complaining!

You get used to the warm weather and definitely helps my mood when the suns shining! The >40° days are still a struggle though!

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 22 hours ago

Yep if you stay inside you're ok! We hit 30 a few years ago it was fucking awful

[–] steven0123@lazysoci.al 3 points 22 hours ago

I've got to say though, I do like wearing more layers and more fitting clothes, feels like a nice change to my previous baggy clothing style!

(I need to try my best to remember the positives!)

[–] DMCMNFIBFFF@lemmy.world 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)
[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Holy shit that's hot! How are you with the heat? I'm awful with it

[–] DMCMNFIBFFF@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Adaption: fans, taking it easy, maybe a walk in the evening, and they say it will rain.

I suppose the plant-life like it.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

I really feel for you. Curtains shut during the day helps as well

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago

The cat continues to not understand going into the bath is dangerous when the human is also there. I stopped her this time but lord. You'd think she'd be more nervous after going in once. Weird cat.

I'm trying to find a method of meal prep that doesn't do my head in. I only have energy sometimes so it's frustrating. I have next week planned so we'll see how it goes.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago

My life is garbage and I'm struggling to keep a roof over my head. Want to trade stories?

Reading words of sympathy from people I don't know has never made me feel good. Listing grievances against reality to randos on the internet is a lot more amusing in my opinion.

[–] Cherry@piefed.social 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I was watching inside out 2 the other day. They got the scene where anxiety disables everything. It’s going so fast but getting nowhere.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I've never seen it is it any good?

[–] Cherry@piefed.social 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Yeh. Makes you cry. Go climb in bed and watch it. Great when you are feeling down.

Nice one 👍

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social -2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Go out and find someone else to help. Walk a neighbor's dog

Sitting online isn't going to help as much as getting out of the house will.

[–] adry@piefed.social 5 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

OP: if you manage to get the will to do this, please come back and tell us how it went! I am sure as hell we all want to hear the story however how trivial it may be.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 9 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I just went on a heroic mission to the local shop and bought cat food! Best I can do today

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 points 18 hours ago

I got myself a cat a few months after my mother died. All I was doing was going to work and coming home. I didn't feel like doing anything. I figured if I had a cat I'd have to get them food, and I'd be obligated to keep myself going.