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[–] Krudler@lemmy.world 6 points 7 hours ago

"I was wrong"

I love being wrong, it's the gateway to new knowledge, but other people view not knowing through a self-esteem lens

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Here's how it is, spoken by Malcolm Reynolds.

[–] whotookkarl@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Hot diggity dog, let's strike while the iron is hot and get on the ball while it's rolling with some old tyme phrases.

[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 4 points 12 hours ago

I love you. :'(

[–] UpperBroccoli@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Jayb151@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

My son has you covered. He calls me a "moisty boi" something like 100 times a day. I'm still not sure why other than it being some kind of dis.

[–] smokinbud@lemm.ee 4 points 17 hours ago

Smoke weed every day

[–] nodiratime@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

Hysteresis

Knowing the word would ideally be due to people knowing the meaning of it, which most people can't grasp. Especially important for most political actions, such as tariffs and climate change.

[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Everybody wants to hear that, nobody wants to say it.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 day ago

Too much to ask, pure fantasy

[–] BentiGorlich@gehirneimer.de 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)
  1. "Thank you"
  2. "My bad"
  3. "I am not familiar with the subject so I have no opinion on it"
[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

On point number 3, I once got dunked on for saying that I didn't know anything about the subject at hand when asked. The other person told me "Well, that's just a cop out. Just make something up!"

edit: clarification

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago

"Hi nice to meet you I'm your soulmate and future wife and I'm going to fix you and we'll help fix the world together"

(i mean if someone said that exact phrase to me I'd probably run screaming lol. But you know.)

[–] justsquigglez@lemm.ee 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I petition to bring back regular use of Kerfuffle.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Same for dust-up.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 day ago

I'll sign that petition no doubt

[–] Grimtuck@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

"Wow isn't life great since we went to the 3 day working week!"

[–] Floey@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago
[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Verisimilitude. It's just nice.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 2 days ago (4 children)

It's a good word! How would you use it in a sentence?

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm less high now!

I normally use it when talking about miniatures and toy train setups.

"The miniature painted conifers with bits of snow really have the scene verisimilitude"

I could still be very wrong.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Do you mean the simulacra gave the scene verisimilitude?

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

Very likely! Even when not high, I use words wrongly! Very very wrongly.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

Poorly! As I'm currently high and do not feel confident using it correctly!

Looks cool though!

[–] owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

The general meaning is the appearance of truth or validity.

But I usually use it to describe something that is "believable" even if the underlying premise is not. So a fantasy story that pays close attention to detail and is highly consistent might be described as having versimilitude. On the other hand, a story where the characters make out-of-character choices might be lacking versimilitude, even if there are no overtly "fictional" elements to the story.

That's usually how I've heard it used, not sure if it's the "main" usage though.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 day ago

The novelist's meticulous attention to historical detail—from the cadence of 19th-century dialogue to the texture of hand-stitched corsets—lent her story an uncanny verisimilitude, making even the most outlandish plot twists feel hauntingly plausible.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

"lambasts" or "pillories" instead of "slams" in news headlines

[–] NotSteve_@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

How about “threw Mankind off Hell In A Cell, and plummeted 16 ft through an announcer's table” instead of “slams”

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

lambasts

Lambastes?

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)
  • cerulean is a word that just has so much more class and gravitas than "sky blue"
  • gravitas is a word that simply has no other word providing such ... well, gravitas (dignity, solemnity, etc.)
  • charlatan is a word we need to apply every time a politician or a CEO or such speaks
  • the Holy Triad: whence, whither, wherefore
  • nubivagant is a word that doesn't mean anything like what it looks and sounds like
  • niggardly is another word that doesn't mean anything like what it looks and sounds like (and can get you fired if you have uneducated colleagues)
  • frippery is just fun to say

I would also like to see some further German words imported into English like we imported "Schadenfreude":

  • Backpfeifengesicht as an alternative for 'a punchable face'
  • Fremdschämen to express being embarrassed for someone who's done something cringe
  • Weltschmerz is a word I'll let you look up so you can see how it might be super-appropriate for this day and age

There's also a Chinese word I'd like to bring into English and make common:

  • 三观 (sānguān) which is pronounced kinda/sorta "san gwun", means literally "three views", and means idiomatically the alignment (or lack thereof) of worldviews, values, and ethics between individuals
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[–] backscatter@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"Bosom". Religious nuts shouldn't have a monopoly on the word. Also, it makes me chuckle every time.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 2 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Everybody needs a bosom for a pillow

[–] backscatter@lemm.ee 2 points 7 hours ago

What WAS that song???

[–] owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago

It's like the wholesome counterpart to "boob." Both kinda sound like what they describe, but "bosom" feels classy.

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago

I've always been partial to there- and where-compounds (thereupon, therefrom, wherein, etc.).

[–] Sammirr@aussie.zone 4 points 1 day ago

"proselytize"

Only came across the word recently.

[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Call it cheesy, but people need to tell each other "I love you" more often.

[–] 0ops@lemm.ee 2 points 5 hours ago

Funny, I was gonna say "cheesy", but I mean "cheesy" literally, because I'm hungry

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 5 points 2 days ago

"I don't know."

If we were honest, it's the thing we should all be saying and hearing all day long. But it's not. Quite the opposite, it's among the rarest. Instead, people are shooting their certainties at one another, relentlessly.

Not knowing something or not having an opinion on a question is not an issue. It's to be expected, even if we were all geniuses (I'm certainly not one). Not doing the work to inform oneself could potentially be an issue but should not be as long we don't pretend otherwise. It's when one pretends to know, based on what one has heard someone else say, or because one wants to push a specific narrative that suits them, that shit starts hitting the fan. That's when living together turn into the stinking shit hole it has turned into in which lies are fine (when they're not adored) and facts have become suspicious if not dangerous.

Obviously, I don't know what I'm talking about.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

Good forenoon to you!

Also, I'm totally down with referring to the days of the Week by their etymological roots. Happy Day of Thor to you!

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 day ago

Surely you mean Star Period 4?

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[–] wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No kings. United we stand. ✊

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

Nae king! Nae quin! Nae laird! Nae master! We willna' be fooled again!

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Gadzooks. It's just such a fun phrase.

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I love it! I'm also pretty fond of words like shenanigans and hijinks.

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[–] scheep@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

not hear, but read…see?: aluminium, your is possessive and you’re is you are (IT’S NOT THAT HARD IF YOU ARE FLUENT IN ENGLISH), it’s vs its (NOT THAT HARD EITHER FOR NATIVE SPEAKERS)

[–] psx_crab@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Old english stuff like thy or thou. Nothing practical, just for the lol.

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[–] doctortofu@reddthat.com 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

"I disagre, but you know what? That's fine, let's drop the subject and have a drink or whatever!"

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