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The core concept of the problem is not related to gender, it's just that in societies highly differentiated by gender people have different means.

Talk to male friend

He randomly says if he wanted me he could have me

I tell him no he couldn't

He gets really mad and says he could easily have me if he wanted to, practically has a fit of rage

Changed pronouns exemplifies that that the core concept of this is that "having someone" is supposedly less about consent and more about compliance to standardised appearance (aka so-called "objective" beauty). If you have a lot of means (e.g. male or wealth privilege), this gets creepy real fast.

The correct reply is...

"There's really only one way you could have me, and that is [describe whatever sort of sexual kink you're into]. After that, I might consider it."

Bro this is basically an invitation for you to say "prove it"

Should've said "prove it then".

Well, the female friend basically said 'I am so hot anyone I want (for example you) would love to have me as a girlfriend'.

By denying that, he denied her self worth.

Of course, her stance doesn't take into account things like personal preference or matching personalities.

IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.

Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.

"The odds are good, but the goods are odd."

It's funny, I has this exact scenario play out with a guy friend in college. It ruined our friendship. We were friends for maybe two years at that point and I was taken aback because I never saw him as anything but a friend and he even had a girlfriend at the time!

After that exchange, he got so awkward the friendship fell apart. We still had classes together but he avoided me and I was not pressed to be near him, so we never saw each other again after that semester.

I'm sure everyone has their own answer to this question but I would really like her to clarify, what do you mean 'have me'?

Some women have never been told no. It can be more fun than saying yes sometimes though.

So many comments giving OP advice on how to get into a relationship with the girl. Has a single person here, at all, considered that maybe, just maybe, OP genuinely didn't want a relationship with this girl..?

I also think deflecting with "nah you couldn't" would be funny in the right context. Follow it with a joke about increasing her powerlevel first and you're good

Hahaha. Just another case of being gay unbeknownst to OP.

There is a very fitting song for this.

Garbage - Stupid Girl

Basically, if this is a representative sample of this girl's personality ...

(huge if there, this is a single 4chan post lol)

... then she is a textbook narcissist, potentially to the point of being diagnosable with NPD if she doesn't grow out of this attitude, get a reality check that actually sinks into the subconscious.

A spoiled, pampered brat whose never been told no, who never gets any real, meaningful interaction or validation, and tries to fill that void with a grandiose self image, absurd overconfidence and privelege.

Angelica from Rugrats.

...And my take here would be the same if the genders/sexes were reversed, or some other combo.

It is pretty not normal for anybody to have that kind of interaction with anybody else, to just boisterously state they could have 'insert random person', then have rando anon just flatly reply 'sorry not interested', ... and then throw a giant hissy fit.

I am seriously hoping this interaction occures between 12 or 14 year olds, but looking at the horror kaleidoscope that is social media these days?

Yeah, could be anybody, any age, at this point.

What would be a good response? "Maybe. But you just made it much less likely with that sentence alone."