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[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 63 points 2 months ago (2 children)

It's funny, I got into my current relationship around the time the apps started coming out so I've never really used them, but I remember people were praising it as a lot safer for everyone involved.

And tbh I can see that being the case compared to the older school approach of nightclubs being majority populated with people actively trying to find someone to sleep with

[–] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 56 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

I feel like dating apps are a lot more predatory than they were when they were first introduced. I mean predatory towards the users. Enshittified, if you will.

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[–] But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 50 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Back in the day we poor people would have had all night ho downs and tore the barn down, or had naked drunk parties in the forest. We should get back to that

[–] King_Bob_IV@startrek.website 54 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Those still exist, you are just not invited to them 😛

[–] But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I’ve heard you gotta go to Ren fairs to meet all the freaky swingers

[–] figjam@midwest.social 9 points 2 months ago

You don't HAVE to but it does make it much easier

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

Board game nights might work, but the board game folks like pain with their casual sex

[–] boonhet@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I could be entirely wrong here, but I remember hearing that if you ever go on the Star Trek cruise, it's advisable to bring recent STD tests.

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[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 41 points 2 months ago (5 children)

This is not strictly true. In many places, even in rural areas, there are still dancing events. They are not galas, they're an analogue for peasants, but everyone's invited if they care to look for the events, just like it always was. I'm sorry to those who don't have this possibility in their respective area.

[–] Juice@midwest.social 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Look up "contra dancing" in your area

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 23 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] takenaps@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

Bro wtf this is awesome

[–] TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee 8 points 2 months ago

When my dad was stationed in South Carolina the town we lived in for a while had one of these. Shout out to Lugoff-Elgin, Home of the Catfish Stomp.

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[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 28 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Fun fact, my SO and I met at a dance (poor person gala). It still happens.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 26 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Let's be honest. If I was alive back then, I would have been married off in exchange for a plow, 3 pigs, and 12 sacks of potatoes, if I was lucky.

[–] Arda1@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Hmm 3goats take it or leave it

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 months ago

I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. Literally, I don't have any say in the matter.

[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

Hey, don't sell yourself short. You're worth at least twice that many sacks of potatoes.

[–] frickineh@lemmy.world 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I had tickets to a fancy gala to support one of the museums and I forgot to go, so I don't see that happening for me.

[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

They were there, waiting for you!

[–] frickineh@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Probably, but due to my complete inability to remember anything that's not in my phone calendar, we'll never meet. Tragic.

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[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 19 points 2 months ago

My favorite gala was the one in Dishonored where I could kill people and they rolled with it.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago

They sure still exist here in France, they are called "ralleys" and yeah, you're not invited (must be of a "good old family" or invited by one of them, they do that sometimes so the blood does not get too thick).

Sort of horror show if you ask me.

[–] Whateley@lemm.ee 14 points 2 months ago

You didn't go to galas unless you owned successful businesses or people.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 13 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Yeah but we also still have tavern wenches like your mother.

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 12 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I want this, but men dress up in their favorite version of "formal". Classic black tux? Yes. A 19th century get-up complete with cravat? Absolutely. A tee with a tux printed on it & black jeans? Sure. Medieval finery? Bring it.

I want to see them trying to attract partners like they're peacocks. I'd be curious to see who/what draws a crowd!

Women should do the same. I'd love to attend something like that!

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 18 points 2 months ago (2 children)
[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

You'll just be swarmed exclusively by other men asking about your setup. But maybe that's what you're into!

(also blue jeans are not allowed at this event unless they are a part of the Canadian Tuxedo)

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[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 9 points 2 months ago

Such people only "love" you for your status, as an exquisite piece of their collection. You are merely a luxury for them.

[–] toxicbubble@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

they're called nightclubs now 😌

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[–] trolololol@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago

How so? They still need people to open the doors and do the catering.

Oooh they mean as an invited person? Pwffft na mate, everyone wants to be the princess but there's not as many openings as they think.

[–] pseudo@jlai.lu 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I never go dancing in bals populaires whether for the forteen of July or for the fête de la musique but where do this person live not to have a place to go, dance and meet people?
I mean, if you want to go the capitalist way, nightclub are quite spread around the world...

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[–] x00z@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago

Hey, that's what I think when I walk past a local party for all the people that suck the dicks of the local political party.

[–] fibojoly@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 months ago

Imagine missing out on nightclubs and all the other places a normal person can enjoy a night out...

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 8 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Downside: Ticket fees and potentially clothes shopping.

I'm looking at attending one next month, proceeds are going to local LGBT youth programs, but goddamn. Minimum $35 to get in, $50 if you want VIP, and looking through my wardrobe, I have nothing to wear that qualifies for a black tie event. I'm currently maxing out at "high-middle class restaurant" attire.

[–] MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net 8 points 2 months ago (6 children)

I'm currently maxing out at "high-middle class restaurant" attire.

New-ish jeans/khakis and a collared shirt are the best anyone's getting out of me. I last wore a suit in 2011, to a job interview. I'm done with the wardrobe games.

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[–] BrokenGlepnir@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

I was invited to something like a gala in grad school. I have not felt so alone and ugly since middle school. I'm not ugly, I just felt that way there.

[–] P1k1e@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

This is correct, my company hosts a Gayla every year and I'm not invited to that either. It's for donors and essential folks only

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[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I used to go to formal events pretty often, while living in a trailer park. You don't have to be rich.

Was working downtown and had a couple of hundred regular customers in construction related fields. Always got wind of something going on and I'll take any excuse to strap on a tux.

Around here there are Halloween, Mardi Gras, Christmas, etc. events going on fall to spring. Summer? Hell no, get inside or get underwater.

[–] Crashumbc@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

You had connections, that's not the norm...

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