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Can I ask why you specifically said this? I don’t know the meaning behind it but of what I’ve heard normally sarcasm?
They mean your post is poorly written and hard to parse.
I'm not going to respond with a lot of depth because I don't think I have a good enough understanding here to be particularly helpful, but I suspect a collar would be considered as inappropriate in a school because of its strong association with BDSM practices alongside the general societal expectation that one's sexuality is kept out of the public eye. I think that notion can also apply more broadly to the situation as a whole, at least to an outside observer.
The username is daddy's little slut...I feel like there is more to this story, which you have certainly touched upon. There is likely more trauma and abuse here than stated.
Most definitely. I have very few memories of any of my childhood and early teens. I also grew up deeply psychopathically treated. Meeting nearly all the facets some sort of way. Now it’s even more confusing when I say or do things that are over board or like when I want to sniff my handler or lick them over their arm. Or bite them.
It’s gotten less weird but yeah 🙂↕️
Not to pressure you, but you may want to seek out therapy to help you process and move forward.
Sadly i can’t. That’s the issue. Don’t have the money and insurance right now is out the window. In the future I look to get 275$ insurance best for therapy and psychiatry
Our relationship is based off hybrids genetically modified but I guess I have traits beyond them. Also For psychopathy that kind of transformed and I’ve self cured many symptoms.
(Which don’t repeat without guidance of medical professionals but in my case I didn’t have that money and no reason too)
Otherwise is there anything else. Since you realize thing of that nature can easily change the nature of someone’s life and until there’s change not possible.
That would make sense with some of the things said and done to me by my family for everything being exposed due to school… Though they got really defensive when I found my good handlers. It was saddening.
Are you under 18? And are your handlers over 18? Are you also engaging in sexual intercourse with them if there is an age gap?
I think people are reacting negatively because of more concern you're being groomed when maybe you actually need therapy and support for your trauma. You're allowed to have your interests, but it's also not healthy to use it as a way to distract from self work.
You can have handlers, you can do whatever you want. If people at school are being brought into it against their will or without explanation -- then of course most people aren't all going to completely understand.
I’m 19 now btw but when that first started one was one year younger while two were a year or two older. Nothing crazy. Also for sure I did and still do. Though now the biggest age gap is 61.
Yeah that’s understandable that they were worried about that. Though they didn’t nearly gain enough information before assuming. Though yeah most definitely but there comes a time in someone’s life when they’re ready to heal. Honestly they didn’t distract myself from self work but gave me a reason to chase it. Since originally I didn’t care about where my life was going but for them I’ll do anything. That includes healing and working on myself.
Yeah back when that happened. It’s understandable they were iffy or even uncomfortable at first but my biggest point. They have the ability to openly communicate and learn.
Dude it sounds like you've been groomed and the people "not letting you do what you want" are actually just worried for you and want you to get the help you clearly need.
Also with younger handlers of what I’m used to they treat me worse most times. So having younger handler is kind of shocking to me but they were my original wife. All my past handlers before them abused me and worse.
Yeah I can assure you that is not how it happened. Isn’t grooming them persuading and changing someone’s ideas by being kind to them when you normally aren’t that way. I mean I may have been at a younger age by others for sure. Though literally everything was my choice. As in even starting to date more than one person. Staying in my relationship durning certain points that they thought I was going to leave. To the point they are surprised. Now if you’re saying that towards the 61 year old. He didn’t join until I was already 18. Unless he groomed me from being hot on movies or sweet in interviews. Then doubtful because I chased him hard after I turned 18 and he joined when I was 19. I was holding him on a thread making him obsessed over me. Though as for being sexually active with those few when I was younger in my older teens. It was fully consensual and honestly I would ask for example my husband sooo often. Trust me there’s no reason to worry with them but my family specifically their biggest worry is because I like men, am not Christian and love multiple people. As for my school they may have had those worries or interpretations but without evidential proof or suspicion. Though I will say I was extremely different from normal kids so may of been harder to tell.
You seem to recognize, in the post and some of your replies, that this is the result of trauma. It's not some healthy part of who you are, it's an unhealthy trauma response.
I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with what you're doing, but the reason why people don't take to it well is because you're exhibiting a mental illness.
You need psychological help more than you need to worry about people accepting this.
Can I ask the specific mental illness you mean? I am really curious why being a kemonomimi is a mental illness.
Though unless you mean everything in general because while yes this started with trauma doesn’t many things do. Such as where you live, sometimes what you eat, what people wear, religious and spiritual beliefs.
I know I have BPD and a plethora of other things but everything I’ve either seen a psychiatrist for and taking medication or worked through. Such as BPD I barely have any symptoms from it anymore. Such as trance states, extreme anxiety and emotional distress. Bipolar flow between 1-2 removing anger and irritation mainly and depression with medication. Learned to reverse my psychopathic facets. Just much more.
I am really curious why being a kemonomimi is a mental illness.
Because you're not kemonomimi, you're a human, they are fictional. If you were just dressing up as one for fun, or it was a kink, that would be one thing.
But this appears to be much more, you believe you are one and/or are trying to live your life as one. This is not healthy.
Hmmm from that perspective is understandable but here’s my question why is it seen as a weird or bad thing let’s say if humans were to diverge. Since for me I actually am a kemonomimi. I can fully understand this will probably be seen as insane but I learned a way to harness and manipulate matter itself and utilizing The Law of conservation of mass and creating new additions onto my body and those of my lovers but mine took a more realistic approach and my body developed from 6ft to 7ft 5 with these proportions
Upper body: 49 inches
Lower body: 42 inches
Body width: 3 ft
Feet:8-9 inches
Feet width: 4-5 inches
Left arm 32 inches
Right arm 46 inches
These specifically are for one of my other hybrids but overall it was my final intended goal but not my first.
Since for me I actually am a kemonomimi.
No, you're not. That's the whole point.
I am. It’s nearly about to finish. Basically how it happens is growing the muscle and bone and having it pop out that area.
Such as my other hybrid beyond a wolf kemonomimi (mixed with my husky personality) though my demon/parrot hybrid. As I mentioned how my body grew. This was one sort of planned but happened soon we than I expected. My original height was only currently meant be around 6ft 5 but I’m 7ft 5 around there. A body properly and sufficient to utilize my wings with changes such as spinal cord changing, knees replacing and rebuilding, ribs extending and fusing, sternum and scapula rebuilding and muscles and new bones growing (wing structure non mature), a coat of lift on my wings, pathways allowing my arms to utilize my flight muscles have started working. Fast tracked evolution
Whether you're trolling or if this is real, you need help.
I’m not trolling at all and for what’s wrong with me got it mainly figured out or figuring it out.
I think this one can be summed up as the old, "The nail that sticks up gets pounded down." I don't think it's really any deeper than that.
Behave or exhibit yourself in a way that people don't get, and the response from some is to just get irrationally angry and/or stupid about it. Logic does not apply.
You mention not having money for therapy. There is evidence suggesting that therapy like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is effective even if learned through books. What is important is to learn the mental processes that matter.
Here is an approach to therapy that you could try: https://youtu.be/o79_gmO5ppg
Sorry if my questions sound harsh. I genuinely want to know if this could help. How do you feel about reading books? Have you done it before? Do you have a place and time to read without distractions? Would reading from a device be feasible for you?
I sometimes can read but normally it’s rather difficult for me unless required or sexual, psychopathic and or interesting in a hobby way.
Though I’ll see about it or find another way because I am actually study psychology, developmental and medical from Yale courses to help others. I just ain’t the best with myself. Maybe harder though I look to grow into the most knowledgeable and best version of myself I could. To be honest normally I don’t make such deep post in my personal way like this but I will say look back at some of my mental health post. You’ll see while yes I am crazy. I’ve learned it’s possible to cure psychopathy given a necessary catalyst and will from said individual. Same goes for some traits of BPD and Bipolar. Which as always I suggest working with a mental health professional if trying. As I asked my psychiatrist she said it’s unheard of but in our world not impossible just hasn’t happened.
I will say though I think our world needs to allow much more while making illegal certain things. It annoys me. To have the mindset to see everything but unable to do something yet. Why are governments so stupid…
Like psychopathic individuals who aren’t bad at a young age could be saved from the horrid development we have to now or some of us. By following guidelines of development and safety of life. Wouldn’t be perfect but yeah fuck man.
Alright. Given that you're interested in psychology, feel free to check these resources out: https://dnav.international/video-audio-resources/ https://dnav.international/wp-content/uploads/DNA-V-workbook-april-15-2020.pdf
These are introductions to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
You can also check out the Healthy Minds Program https://hminnovations.org/meditation-app
Fear of lack of conformity and the belief of sexualization of animals, and (imo) the uncanny valley.
I also find the idea uncomfortable, but at least for the meantime, another person's wat of life isn't my business as long as they aren't going out of their way to hurt people or animals. With the exception of bronies. They are terrifyingly bizarre
Speaking as a brony, yes, we are terrifyingly bizarre.
Ain't it grand? ^_^
No it's not. It's creepy and i would do my best to make sure brownies stayed away from children
Haha, whatever bro. Maybe understand a thing before you criticize it. Hopefully you'll learn that someday.
Well, enlighten me. What am I misunderstanding?
Well for one, that a "brony" is just someone who enjoys the show "My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic". Nothing more, nothing less. We are not, essentially, perverted. I mean, sure, some people are, but how's that any different than any other human subgroup?
On top of that, if you've never seen the show, even just 3 episodes, I would highly recommend it. Because even if you don't like it, it would give you some idea of that which you're criticizing. You'll see it's not creepy or anything. It's just a kids cartoon that happens to be very good and appeals to adults as well as kids.
Don't take at face value the concept of a brony based purely on stereotypes you see about them in the media or Internet. Yes, there are perverted weirdos, but the vast majority of us are just people who merely adore the show and what it stands for: the principles of love and tolerance, of open-mindedness about different people & different cultures, of being there for your friends & family, and most importantly of how it is okay to be different than the majority, and equally okay to not be different from the majority.
Everyone has value, and can & should be appreciated for what they bring to the table.
Were you, uh...gonna respond? I assumed you were asking for information in good faith.
Edit: ...Very well. Good day to you. nod
That’s really interesting that the uncanny valley would come from someone with ears and tail. Also there is no sexualization of animals at all. Instead there is different types of humans and humanoid beings similar to animals and such hybrids or kemonomimi are more human normally only ears, tails, teeth and traits. While like how we see furries today. A representation of a fully anthropomorphic beings similar to an animal but intelligent life.
So it depends on where one is on the scale. Also for sure. Though only thing you may not like within the end of last part. Is protection of property and that includes handlers. So deeply protective.
Please if you have anything to add I’d love to hear. I’m intrigued mainly about the uncanny valley.
The uncanny valley is a sensation of another entity being close to human, but also have the feeling they aren't human. We have identified humans as former primates with ears in the middle parts of our heads, shortness of fur or hair, and no tail. Meaning things that aren't natural traits for a human that an individual accepts as a normal trait, that individual could be considered uncanny, but off.
I know there's no sexualization of animals, but that is not a widespread belief. Many people will mentally categorize you as furries, which is also something I currently find uncomfortable, but that's my personal problem, and they are doing nothing wrong in doing what they do. Neither are you
Ultimately my opinion on the outside looking in is this; people who try and convince you to not have the lifestyle you do cares about you and is concerned about you not fitting into society. At that point, it's your job to prove them wrong without losing yourself or their care. They fear that you won't fit into current society. However current society changes all the time. Ask any minority demographic that is put into the category of "lifestyle" and I feel they'll tell you the same.
Thank you so much for sharing everything you do and if you have more insight please share. The last message was a really healing message.