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Which is worse: a parent that clearly planned to have a child and never takes a personal interest in them, or one that clearly was an unplanned child and never takes a personal interest? (lemmy.world)

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Did your parents ever take a deeper interest in you and your interests outside of your needs?

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[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Hey I was a child of one of each!

You can't compare them. There's no scale of trauma, you can't say this was a level 6 while that's a level 8. They're both going to deeply effect you over the years in different ways.

Only way I dealt with it was by starting therapy.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.federate.cc 1 points 1 month ago

My parents weren't great, but I think they did their best given their limited resources and the context of social norms at the time.

I too go to therapy. It doesn't help.