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My wife, newly hired, was asked to un-blur her camera during a routine meeting to confirm her I9 information. This seems like a violation to me? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by shalafi@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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She had interviewed and met both remotely and in person, this guy was merely an HR drone confirming her documentation. I was a little bent when she told me he had asked her to remove her blur filter "to have a look at her working environment, make sure it's not cluttered" (something along those lines). No one else at this company requested such. Was he way out of line?

I should note, this is my PC in our living room and not where she will be working from. And this guy wants a look around our home?! Told my wife to bring this up once she's settled in, ask HR if this is policy. She started today!

She thinks it's a racism thing. I'm not so sure, but I don't have any other explanation.

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[+] myrrh@ttrpg.network -14 points 3 months ago (2 children)

...you have a birthmark in the shape of legible english characters, not just one, but a full sequence which spell a word?..

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 18 points 3 months ago (2 children)

It was a metaphor, lol

[–] AlpacaChariot@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

The irony of the autistic person using a metaphor, and someone else taking it too literally. You have to laugh!

[+] curse_of_yig@lemmy.world -17 points 3 months ago (6 children)

It was a dumb metaphor that made no sense.

[–] Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

So, a visible difference that some other people react to with prejudice is not like racism. Got it.

You ask: "Why assume they react to your VISIBLE ETHNIC DIFFERENCES in particular?"

The VISIBLE DIFFERENCES are visible.

People have made fun of me for having those VISIBLE DIFFERENCES before.

I can see facial expressions when people perceive THOSE VISIBLE DIFFERENCES, and notice features of judgemental reaction in their speech and behaviour after.

I'm sure you can comprehend why removing the controversial topic of ethnic differences [controversial because e.g. some people want to claim racism is does not happen any longer, or is not of any importance when it does because 'it's illegal to discriminate'] to replace it with another visible difference made it a suitable metaphor. I'm sure that you knew this, in fact, when you called it 'dumb'.
Your annoyance is, therefore, possibly more at me saying that a woman is allowed to believe she is being targeted for racist reasons, and that such a woman should be listened to fairly. Feel free to clarify on that, if you wish. As for me, I logically believe that racism exists, as I have seen it. And that people can intuit when it is happening, as I have seen it. And that other people can disagree with it, because they profit from racism being ignored, as I have seen it.

[–] HowManyNimons@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

Or maybe the problem is with you?

[–] bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net 5 points 3 months ago

Well if you aren't willing to engage in any sort of introspection all metaphor is stupid probably.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 months ago

I think it made sense to most other people who read it

[–] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 2 points 2 months ago

I'm autistic also and I understood it just fine.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 3 months ago

Yeah that was a shit metaphor.

[–] Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It's about as likely as someone starting and ending all of their writing with ellipses, with some of those ellipses being incomplete.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

… all part of the flow mang..