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I'm probably asexual, so I don't really watch porn. Once in a blue moon I get curious, but it never does anything for me. So there's no point.
I almost wholly agree with you. Just for me, personally, I do see a “point” in reading/“watching” porn even if it doesn’t get me aroused; it’s a source of entertainment and sometimes an art form, just like any other media. I never can get beyond hot and excited though, so it also doesn’t “do” anything for me.
I could see that. Personally, I don't find porn artistic at all, but I actually do gravitate towards sex scenes in shows/movies actually for the reasons you stated!
Interesting. I consider myself asexual as well but I watch a lot of porn. I enjoy sexual stimulation, I just don't need another person to help me with it.
There's probably gonna be some sort of terminological split in definitions between the two at some point.
It's very interesting that you say that because it's one of the reasons why I don't simply call myself "asexual" and why I don't identify with the community.
I remember discovering the asexual community over 10 years ago and being excited that I finally found people that are like me. But then I was immediately met with confusion at how...sexual...everyone was. People would masturbate regularly or even have sex regularly. I didn't get it and it didn't seem to fit to me.
A better descriptor for me would be someone that has a non-existent libido and cannot physically feel sexual pleasure, but that's a bit tmi for a general post.
There already is a term for this: Autosexual
That sounds quite a bit more narcissistic than just not having any sexual interest in others.
I'm quite sexual, but I also have no interest in sexual relations, except with my partner, who is asexual, so now I'm asexual in a way. If I find another partner I'm truly into, then I might have sex again, but I don't really care either way. It's something of an enigma even to me. She encourages me all the time to find another partner again, but the drive just isn't there anymore.