this post was submitted on 06 May 2024
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I'll get the ball rolling, as a married person myself. Just starting out with questions. First off, what drives the feeling of not wanting to meet someone at the gym, and second, what drives bar and Tinder only being artificial relationships?
It’s fine to meet someone at the gym, in fact it’s a good way to select for someone with an interest in fitness.
Going to the gym for the purpose of meeting someone means you’d be hitting on someone who’s trying to work out, which makes it easier to be an accidental creep.
yes that's what I was hinting at for the OP. If you go thinking you are going to hit on women, that's bad. If you go worried that you'll be creepy, that's a confidence issue. If you go and think hey, maybe tonight I'll see someone, then that's healthy