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[serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce? (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 14 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I have my own things and resources that are mine and guaranteed so nothing can be taken away or held over my head as leverage to do things contrary to my boundaries and/or authenticity

I setup my life to ensurethat I did whatever it took to secure my own housing, job, benefits, friends, hobbies, and ways of doing things and that nobody could externally hold those key elements or anything else I needed over my head and take anything away.

I refuse to rely on anybody in a way where that can be leveraged to compel me to act in ways inconsistent with what I need+want and allow that to play out repeatedly on a chronic basis and that ever allow for the possibillity where I lose access to that which I need at the caprices of another person or entity

[โ€“] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I see your parents held things over your head too

[โ€“] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

Dont get me $tarted