I agree with you. I don’t understand why people are arguing that something less developed or stable is a valid reason to use something like discord, a widely anti privacy focused platform; to discuss privacy related topics.

You can argue that it’s more stable but the cost is shepherding users into a platform they might think is secure by promoting it. In my opinion that’s worse because it lulls uneducated users into a false sense of security by having the community use and engage with each other there. The implication alone might cause some people not to second guess it since it’s supported by the community and that’s a problem for me personally.

That depends on your threat model. All lemmy posts are publicly visible and can be scooped up by Farcebook, google et al. Discord is very definitely not properly private but all posts aren't public. They are undoubtedly doing the same thing FB does and selling a semi anonymised set of meta data about you, but the world doesn't have direct visibility

I know the three letter acronyms have access to everything I do, hidden or not, I don't like it but I don't see anyway around it.

I can however do my level best to keep FB, google, M$ out of my stuff to some extent

Never used it but I can imagine it being better. Discord is annoying as hell. Point was that the commenter seemed to argue that you should not accept any compromises, which seems silly to me.