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I’m 19M, my girlfriend is 17F. We’ve been dating for almost a year now. Her family has no idea though, because she refuses to tell them; and it honestly hurts. My family loves her. Her family’s Muslim and she says that’s the reason she can’t tell them yet, but she will… eventually. I get that they’re Muslim, but come on, we live in the West and it’s a free country. I’ve never pressured her about it but it still upsets me.

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[–] AWistfulNihilist@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

I don't think anyone who mentions that honor killings are a thing is saying that. Honor killings have been recognized by amnesty international as being a distinct threat to women worldwide that is present in America as well specific to Muslim majority countries in the Middle East and Asia.

I think any child has the potential of being killed by their angry parents, it's happened very frequently from people of all backgrounds, but it's ok to admit that a Muslim girl who doesn't want to introduce you to her parents could be motivated by the fear of death or abuse in a very specific way. And i think it's ok to tell this kid that this is a possible additional pressure based on her culture.

But it's fair to say this has happened like a half dozen times in the US in two decades. That might feel like a lot, but considering the sheer number of Muslims who live in this country, that might as not happen at all.

I can keep both of these ideas in my head at the same time and not have a weird, knee-jerk meltdown in the comments!