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Let me get this straight. A bunch of college kids learned their professor’s phobia, and they thought they could … try exposure therapy on him, I’m guessing?
Without his consent?
Or the guidance of a licensed professional?
Or are they making fun of him, for some reason?
… and that is “wholesome”?
They are lucky their professor was a good sport about it. For some people, this could be dangerous, no matter how cute the costumes are. And now these students are going to walk away from this thinking it was a good idea.
How many might reference this moment in the future while downplaying somebody else’s fear?
How many will think that because this went over well with this professor, that they can pull a similar stunt with someone else who has a phobia?
I’m glad everything worked out well here, but I fail to see what’s supposed to be wholesome about this. Not everyone is capable of tolerating something related to their phobia, and doing this at his workplace without any prior warning is cruel. But mostly, I worry about the message this sends to the students.
There are enough “armchair psychologists” out there with no training, who think they know how to cure random strangers. People with mental health issues, including phobias, already have to deal with people who downplay their experiences all the time. This stunt carries the same energy as “Everyone makes up allergies just to feel special, so I’m adding peanuts anyway.” Like this guy’s phobia can’t be serious, so it’s okay to casually force him to face it.
And I know I might get downvoted for it, but I just can’t agree with that idea.
holee assburgers bro.
calm tf down...
I think you are reading way too much into it. A person in a shark costume is not the same as being in the water with actual sharks.
I also want to highlight that this professor wouldn’t post pictures of this stunt with himself smiling if it was an issue for him.
Yes, this professor reacted well. That’s not relevant to my point. There are tons of people who would not react well if ambushed by a room full of people who may or may not be making fun of their psychological issue.
These students are also having this behavior reinforced by this positive attention. Is it truly “reading way too much into it” to consider what unintended harm this can cause down the road?
Is it too much to consider how people who struggle with serious mental health issues, such as phobias, could react disastrously poorly to even a “cutesy” stunt like this?
Is it too much to think how lucky these students were to have a professor that DID react positively?
If looking at this situation through an ethical lens is “reading too much into” it, then I guess I read too much.
During any point while writing these comments, did you ever stop and think: "maybe these students have a good relationship with the professor and knew how he would react to such a prank"?
Like I'd get it if the guy said he was afraid of spiders and the following day someone put a fake spider on his desk. In that situation, they don't know him well, the spider has a likelihood of being real, and a single person doing it without peer review can be iffy.
But this is weeks later, everyone agreeing that the professor would find it funny, and doing something that could in no way be perceived as "real".
It's just a prank bro