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I do have some leave in conditioner that smells nice! I also have some old spice deodorant with a sort of tropical scent I like, and I've always thought it could potentially seem feminine or not. I just don't know what other scents to look for without being explicitly one or the other and either draw too much attention or not be femme enough ๐
Native has a mens line of body wash and deoderant that blurs the line between traditionally masculine and feminine scents. I get their mens and womens stuff fairly interchangeably.
Tbh its hard to tell the difference between their gendered products and no one would bat an eye at the packaging or if asking about the scent since they dont gender the packaging much, if at all, if plausible deniability is important to someone given circumstances.
Good to know! Thanks!
Funny thing -- I was paranoid about drawing attention, but in my experience so far very few people notice anything out of the ordinary, and even fewer care. Absolutely nobody has said "you smell like a girl".
You can get away with a lot more than you think!
This is very true, I started wearing perfume almost daily for a while now and no one has had anything to say about it beyond "You smell good". Scents aren't really gendered, the bottles just make it seem that way.