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Life is actuqlly kind of underwhelming and I dont see it getting better (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by Grogon@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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This might sound harsh but honestly atleast my life is really underwhelming, no matter what I try.

I have a wife, 2 dogs, an own house but a decently large debt for the house so I actually dont own it yet and a job I love (nightshift nurse)

It feels like I fckd everything up.

10 years ago my wife and I were in South East Asia, traveling,... now? I have to take care of the house, pay my credit, work

Its not the same going to Thailand only 2 weeks a year. I know many ppl cant afford it but I need that escape.

While my life isnt actually bad it just is bland though. I dont do anything other than play Video games, take care of house and dogs, watch movies, cook stuff...

But where is the excitement?

I quit going to gym, I think I should do that but I catch myself esther staring at the wall than searching for a nearby gym.

As a night nurse I have so much time in the day I would like to barista at a cafe but Im too scared to start that.

I would like to play Board games but my friends rather drink alcohol in Clubs and the next DND or Boardgame groups are 40 minutes by car.

See hpw confused I am I cant even structure this post properly.

I know money isn everything but Id travel the world, give my house away to rent, buy a new smaller house in a few years, do more sport, ... somehow it feels life is behind a huge paywall and I have enough to have a decent life.

If I go to Thailand next year I have thoughts in my head like: "This money could be used to pay credit debt instead, or yard stuff, kitchen supply,..." With money I could enjoy it more

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[–] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Keep in mind, the popularization of the concept of a mid life crisis was a tiny piece of a man's career that he thought was useless and unexciting. Sound familiar?

I'm older than you, and been through similar, and my life radically changed later (for the better now, I'm lucky), so things are different for me, but, my advice from me back then:

Excitement != Change

You need something new in your life. Your wife probably does to. If you feel like you're in the right life situation, with her and yourself, do your best to throw yourself into something. Figuring that something out? Really hard.

For me/us, ripping the seats out of a minivan and building a folding bed, running water, etc, and using it to travel around to local trailheads or breweries and camp in random locations many weekends was just the thing. Even the experience of traveling to get a good deal on the van was new and fun.

Excitement doesn't always come looking for you, but it's still out there.