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Mom jailed for letting 10-year-old walk alone to town (reason.com)

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[–] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

You will find that if you lead with that, you'll be perceived as negative. If you lead with all negative and no positives, you're going scare everyone away. People who are cynical and negative are offputting. Positivity is a choice. Think about the people in your life. Are they positive or the "well ackshually" types? You may see it as a honest, but if you're not showing your good side too, you are giving a dishonest picture. Give only as much negative as you give positive. Be honest when things come up. Trust is important.

Why don't you drive? Environment? If so, communicating you're doing your bit to help the planet communicates much better when it comes up than "I don't and will never drive". It just come across all grumpy smurf "I hate driving!". Generally on a first date, you meet someone at a venue, and go from there. If you hit off a good rapport, they will not care as they'll be excited of the positives. Most dating is about feeling. Does this person make you feel good? Is there a positive aura here? Is this more enjoyable than being home? If yes, odds of a second date are quite good.

Everyone gets shy on a date, but if you both don't talk, no one will. Feel the fear, and do it anyway, so to speak. How can you make someone feel safe if you're not confident enough to break a silence. How come you'd expect them to do all the talking if they're also shy?

The key point is, you can meet someone who likes what you like, but you have to create the opportunity for that to happen. If you don't, you're choosing the normal not meeting someone path. For record, most of my partners past and present are women that enjoy staying in and watching TV/films and even games. There are many if you want to look for them.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

You will find that if you lead with that, you’ll be perceived as negative. If you lead with all negative and no positives, you’re going scare everyone away. People who are cynical and negative are offputting. Positivity is a choice. Think about the people in your life. Are they positive or the “well ackshually” types? You may see it as a honest, but if you’re not showing your good side too, you are giving a dishonest picture. Give only as much negative as you give positive. Be honest when things come up. Trust is important.

@Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world The first paragraph here is key.

You sound very familiar to me. If my hunch is correct, then most of the above post probably doesn't speak to you. Avoiding the overwhelming task of driving, being a quiet observer who can write better than they can speak, these aren't matters of "eco friendliness" or "shyness" - these are aspects of yourself that have always distinguished you. I also share quirks that lead people to misunderstand the roots of my decisions.

Which is why I hope you will take note when I say, that first paragraph is solid advice that should best be heeded.

I have had to learn a lot of social skills the hard way. The amount of times I screwed up, but nobody had the guts to actually explain to me what I was doing wrong, made it so much harder to correct my mistakes. The above poster is providing that rare bit of honest feedback that can keep a person like you or me from having to learn a painful lesson the hard way.

Being positive is easier said than done, but it starts in small ways. For example, consider how conscientious you may be when writing. As long as you're putting in the effort, it's worth it to go back and see what can be re-phrased. Sometimes I re-read and edit my own writing over and again trying to get the tone right. (Which is much easier than controlling my tone when speaking.)

Ultimately, if you want things to get better, you're going to have to put the work into it. I know nobody wants to hear that, but I also know that most attempts to help someone with a defeatist attitude are going to be brushed off. I simply hope that hearing from a like-mind that's been there can help you see that it doesn't have to be this way.