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What was something you learned too late in life? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by TheImpressiveX@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 31 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You can just ask people out. You can just ask to kiss someone. I was in my mid 20s when someone told me the first one, and late 20s when someone told me the second one. Dating got a lot easier after each revelation.

[–] EddoWagt@feddit.nl 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You can just ask people out.

I know I can, but you think I dare do that?

[–] OADINC@feddit.nl 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You do it like this: Hey wanna go for a Japan trip with me?

[–] EddoWagt@feddit.nl 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

[–] OADINC@feddit.nl 1 points 21 hours ago

To be fair, they didn't say they would respond with a yes...

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I agree with your comment in general, but it does depend entirely on the context and the situation. Eg, at work, you can't just ask someone out. That's a sure fire way to end up in front of HR.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I had the biggest crush on a coworker, but I stick to this rule like it's oxygen. I waited to ask her out until after we stopped working together. To my surprise, she said yes.

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Nice job, well done.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 10 points 3 days ago

Right, and you shouldn't ask a married monogamous person out on a date, either. Never came up for me but is worth keeping in mind! A lot of guys seem to struggle with "she likes me bro she smiled at me" -> "my guy she's the cashier at work she has to smile at customers."