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Straight men, what's the weirdest thing you've been told you can't do because it's gay? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 weeks ago by return2ozma@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] TheOubliette@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Your question is for "straight males", so those answering it are implicitly saying, " I am a straight male".

This is a subset of the population, so if you wanted to identify a user here, this would be a ckue. It would be useless on its own, but I'd they share more clues over time, they may reveal themselves accidentally to someone trying to fix them. Examples:

The city or state they live in.
Their age range.
Their ethnic identity.

Just that much info, which people will easily expose if they answer questions like this, could be enough to identify someone. There are only so many straight 23 year old dudes from Guam living in a particular suburb of Baltimore.

[–] joshcodes@programming.dev 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

This advice feels a lot like something that should be stuck on a wall rather than posted as a comment in a conversational subreddit. It's kind of like reminding people on posts about alcohol and partying not to drink and drive - unprompted. Reminders like this are great, but setting and context are important, otherwise you drive people away from the conversation.

[–] TheOubliette@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 weeks ago

Comments with warning likes mine should be stickied at the top of all posts premised on people providing personal information in order to post.

[–] eatthecake@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

The Oubliette reminds you that the web does not forget..