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What are some of the rules about the Internet that were taught to you but are now completely ignored? (discuss.tchncs.de)

submitted 2 months ago by Decency8401@discuss.tchncs.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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For me, it was that the Internet never forgets and that you should never enter your real name. In my opinion, both of these rules are now completely ignored.

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[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

I'm a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don't need to know and we don't want to know.

Corollary: there are no girls on the Internet. The simplest way to promote gender equality is to not disclose gender in arbitrary conversation or in the profile. If you still do in an anonymous forum, you are likely trying to take advantage of privileges that the patriarchal societal structure offers you in that situation, and in doing so you are upholding it.

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

But then nobody can use gendered neopronouns.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Which IMO is a good thing. I don't mind people having their own identity, but if nobody tracks pronouns (including traditional pronouns) then life becomes easier for everyone and there's less drama. We need fewer pronouns, not more.

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz -4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That sounds like something an agender person who just assumed they were cis because they went with the flow and never much thought about it would say.

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

It's just something a person who wants to see everyone as a unique individual instead of putting them in a box says. Doesn't matter if it's about skin color, gender, age, etc. Make it okay to be somewhere vague on a multidimensional spectrum instead of having to make everything black or white. In the end none of these factors even matter when we're discussing which Bionicle is best.

No, I'm not "assuming I'm cis". I'm trying not to assume, period. I don't need a label to know who I'm attracted to and it's none of your business either.