harmonea

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[–] harmonea@kbin.social -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are there some women who have higher standards than they, themselves, live up to - sure. But that's not what makes an incel.

An incel is someone who believes:

  1. People of my preferred gender kind of suck, mostly
  2. Despite mostly sucking, people of my preferred gender tend to have high standards <-- you are here
  3. Those high standards exclude me, and I think that's unfair; it makes me angry that they won't give me the chance I deserve.
  4. I'm tired of playing nice when none of them will give me the chance I deserve. I've written their entire gender off as trash, and my new hobby is constantly berating them.

People rarely say #3 and #4 out loud, so once you're at #2 -- which you are -- people are going to start making some assumptions.

And yes, there are some women past #3 and #4 themselves, sure. We've all heard the occasional "men are pigs," and that kind of intolerance shouldn't be accepted no matter who it comes from. But it's absolutely not many/most of us, and if you think so, you're either being overly critical or surrounding yourself with the wrong kinds of friends - both of which are on you and show you need to de-incel your thinking before you go off the deep end.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

THEY ARE lol, we actually kept it because we couldn't believe it. No intention to ever look at the thing, just a "how funny is this" moment.

(Disclaimer: Canada)

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 30 points 1 year ago (5 children)

We actually just got our yellow pages in the mailbox last week or the week before, I think. I was baffled. I was like they still MAKE these?

Shit was no thicker than an old GamePro magazine. Just the businesses who are still buying ads I guess.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Met my husband playing an MMORPG. It grew naturally from regular chatting in guild to hanging out and doing random stuff in-game together to feelings. We've been married for over 15 years now.

The trick was that neither of us was looking for romance and treated each other as friends until we gradually came to realize we really liked each other's company more than a friendly amount. I think that's the thing a lot of people get wrong; people get so worried about their love lives that they forget to just treat others as people instead of as potential partners.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago

I have a clone recipe for Chili's chicken enchilada soup that I love making. Don't do it often though as it's like 50% cheese....

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Just pick a good frame and wiggle the parts in Live2D or something.

The hilarious part is that hoyo is constantly pushing the boundaries of what can be done with live2d; it's heavily used in Genshin character teasers, and their otome game uses it extensively. They're really good at this. Why get AI involved?

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 7 points 1 year ago

Oh I see.

It would have been nice to have that in the post description for those of us who aren't as willing to hand over data (even anonymized) for certain uses.

Thanks for locating it!

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 28 points 1 year ago (3 children)

What's the purpose of your research? Curiosity? A student thesis? A professional paper? Are you a dev actively working on improving the fediverse?

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Okay but seriously, what is this pedantry even? I wasn't trying to put forth some all-encompassing thesis of every reason people might pirate, nor do I accept that "needs to be in on all the current memes" is some reason one is entitled to media. And neither point has anything to do with the discussion we're having with OP.

Bizarre as heck tangent.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Your comparison is still really, really unclear. Are you comparing the consumption of "extra products" for vegans vs vegetarians to the consumption of "extra products" for piracy?

If so: Do you really not understand that limited physical demand differs from unlimited digital demand? If a vegetarian eats, idk, an egg a day.... that's an extra 365 eggs that had to be produced and were paid for, thus supporting the industry, when you could have hypothetically decreased demand and possibly caused a drop in production. Whereas the media consumed by pirates incur neither profit nor cost (in that if we assume they would never have paid for those goods in the first place, it isn't a lost sale). There is no production cost for there to be 1 sold copy and 1 pirated copy vs 1 sold copy only.

Though tbh, I'm just devil's advocating the vegan position here. I really think you had a handful of bad encounters with militant vegans and assume the majority of the threadiverse thinks like that. And, well... we don't? What even is this "lemmy culture"? The amount of confusion and responses that aren't addressing the point you meant to make should show you that most of us are not engaging with this on the line of thought you assumed we would.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Hey man, I'm willing to be honest about what I do. I'm not entitled to consume that media just because it exists, and I'm not going to beat around the bush about that.

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I haven't looked into the benefits of electroshock with BPD, but I'd recommend taking a look at Dr. Daniel Fox's workbook for an at-home DBT/attachment theory foucsed program. BPD is one of the few PDs that has been provably shown to be able to change. If you have $30 or so to spare, it can't hurt.

 

My #kbin account seems broken? :\ For the last month+ I can't get any thread I create to show up in its magazine, even when the magazine is a local one. Comments are fine, microblog posts are fine, threads show up in my profile but never the magazine.

Admittedly I don't try very often, but that makes it all the more disheartening when I feel like "yay, I finally have something worth sharing" and, well, no apparently I don't.

#kbinMeta

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