Shut the fuck up about the woes with your ex.
Oh god, I can't tell you how many dates I've been on where the other person goes on and on about their ex. I give them 10 minutes to vent. If they keep talking about it, I find an excuse to cut things short, then let them know that I "didn't feel a connection, but good luck!."
That the older you get, the easier it is to date if you're in good shape and you know how to listen.
So don't think it's all over for you just because dating may be difficult right now.
When I was in my 20's and 30's, I was in decent shape, but pretty average looking. But at that age there are a LOT of people in decent shape who are above average looking. So lots of competition.
Hit my 40's, still in pretty good shape. Hair is a mix of gray and dark. Suddenly 30-year old women are asking me out.
I haven't changed my attitude. Haven't changed my income. Haven't changed my personality. Haven't changed my location.
I'm in my 50's now, and I get laid more than ever. I'm in an open relationship with my current GF. She just has to "approve" of the girls I date.
I 100 percent think that it's because most people in my age-range are fat as fuck, and unhealthy.
Some women like older guys for stability (I'm not racing cars or going to bars every fucking night, I'm easy to reach, like to chill, etc), and since I'm in shape, I'm suddenly popular.
And I'm not even in THAT great of shape: https://sh.itjust.works/post/27861648
Yeah, I work out and stay lean, but when I'm wearing a shirt, you don't look at me and go, "wow, that dude works out!" It's really that I'm not overweight, so that sets me apart.
This isn't a humble brag. I legit have a face like a foot: i.e. not that great looking, but functional.
It comes down to just that I'm not fat, have stability, own a house, and I'm not a serial killer. That's fucking it.
So depending on your age, just hang in there. It gets easier.
And for more immediate tips: Listen, and know how to be comfortable with small talk. Also makes the rest of your social life easier too.
And Trump would have won this time around, even if Jill Stein wouldn't have ran. That's how big his margin was. Dude, he won electoral AND popular vote.
You all need to take a look at yourselves and realize why you lost so bad. It sure as fuck wasn't because of Jill Stein. lol
This is not the time to vote 3rd party or abstain.
Looks like plenty of people ignored that advice.
You and I disagree on almost everything. But I agree with your support of slrpnk.
They even stood up for me, and almost everyone on Lemmy hates me! lol
Slrpnk is awesome. If they banned OP, then they probably had a really good reason, cuz they are pretty laid back over there.
Fucking great points! Good post!
That is indeed what beehaw is! lmao
Don't worry OP, I know what it's like. I was hated over there, and banned from there for posting articles about Trump gaining over Harris in the polls. Which of course, turned out to be correct. And my love to third parties. :)
And now that the election is over, that sub's true colors are showing. It's become 10 times more toxic than it was just a few weeks ago when I was still in it.
The shit people say there now is way worse than anything I ever said. LMAO It's fucking crazy times over there. lol
Good riddance to them!
I still come across people there accusing some posters of being me. As if I would post in that shithole now! lololol
Even the crybabies that told on me every day don't seem to be there anymore.
Mods there definitely look for reasons to ban. It's become more of a toxic shithole the last few weeks. I thought it was bad before they banned me, but now, reading the modlog is freaking fascinating! lmao
This.