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[–] just_kitten@aussie.zone 19 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (29 children)

Happy Friday motherfondlers! Guess who got the job 😎😎😎😎

Well, pending standard preemployment checks, the links for which if they don't come through today should arrive on Tuesday. Fingers crossed I can get it all sorted by the end of next week :D

I really need to stop procrastinating on getting a car though because even though this job won't exactly pay enough for all running costs after rent and bills (being two days a week), I've been meaning to get one anyway and have savings kept aside for that. Plus I'm slowly feeling more positive and motivated about getting my arse off crosswords and cooking up side gigs to supplement this as I want

e: didn't want to clog up dt with replies to everyone but thank you all for the congratulatory messages :D

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[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 13 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I've decided to keep my privacy. If the ABC isn't interested without identifying me, then so be it.

I did my best and now it's up to the editors.

Once it's online, it's there forever.

We'll see how it plays out.

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[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 11 points 8 months ago (10 children)

The ABC correspondent I've been speaking to has suggested that if I show my face, be it in a photo or video interview, the story will have a higher chance of being picked up.

I would lose so much in my professional and personal life it's not funny.

I don't want to appear in Google searches. I don't want to be the "face" of addiction recovery.

Am I being selfish? Or are they being blind even asking for photos or video?

I want to help, I want people that are stigmatized to be seen in a different light.

I just don't know if I can sacrifice so much for it.

Fuck.

[–] wscholermann@aussie.zone 12 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I wouldn't do it. Why blow up your own life when you've just gotten back on your feet?

Let them blur your face and distort your voice.

As for the journalist, they just want views and couldn't give a fuck about your welfare.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago

Protect yourself first. The journos want a sensation foremost, a scoop. They're not too concerned about what affect that has on your life.

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago

Nope absolutely don’t show your face. Not worth it. It’s forever.

[–] SituationCake@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago

Ask them if you can use a pen name? And include the reasons in the article, exactly what you just said here. The ongoing stigma is real.

[–] Nath@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago

Future employers will google you. If you do decide to show your face, I would recommend using an alias.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Oh yeah, and be warned. You don't know what kind of spin the journalist might put on it. Or if they're going to even stick to the consented to subject. It's in their interest to get your trust so you open up.

Someone I know was going to go to the media about a longstanding issue they weren't getting redress for. The journo ended up interviewing a family member of the original person, taking pictures and asking about things that were none of their business, and spinning up a shamey narrative 'exposing' and demonising the relatives in something that was basically a puff piece playing into divisive public sentiment. Basically they saw a random opportunity for rage bait and went for it. This person got their reputation publicly destroyed.

Nothing happened with the original issue that help was needed for. That was left ignored.

[–] just_kitten@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago

Don't do it if you're not comfortable - even if it means they might not proceed with the rest of the article, doesn't mean you're shutting the door on helping stigmatised people forever. It's just not the right time yet for you, and that's okay! Who knows, in 5 years time you might have such a secure position in life that you will be ready to go public. Or maybe you might never, and only be able to go with a blurred face and pen name. Hell, I would say most people wouldn't want to appear with face and name in a news article in the first place - let alone people in your position. It's a scary world out there in terms of data collection.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago

It's YOUR choice. You do not have a duty to show your face, to rescue other people at the expense of your life.

The show will be forgotten in a year or two, it's effect will be minimal ( tho it will be real and positive)

but the negative effect on you will be forever

Leave the public faces to those who do it for a living and who can have a big effect. Like politicians and famous health care policy makers and workers.

I say. Don't show your face. Your privacy , your name, is one of those most valuable assets you have. Don't have it destroyed.

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[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 11 points 8 months ago (4 children)

Do you ever nick out to get your shopping done only to end up too overwhelmed so you ignore the fresh food and just microwave yourself some preheated cheese on a wrap for lunch?

Because I do. And did.

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[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 11 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I think that's enough watering for today. Took forever even though half that shit is auto.

Burned through 1L of seasol and 3/4L powerfeed.

This time of year the some hibiscus stigma just catch the light in the evening:

Edit fuck I think I has forgot me botany... stamen

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[–] bull@aussie.zone 11 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (9 children)

I didn't tell you all my embarrassing story from Wednesday night but now I'm gonna.

The short version: I fully stacked a rental scooter and it was not elegant.

So I was riding home from dinner Wednesday night when I got to Harbour Esplanade. There was a large group of people blocking the entire path obliviously just messing around so I attempted to go around them on the left. This was at the pedestrian crossing which goes across the road/tram lines and is the entrance to a tram stop.

It turned out that between the tram lines wasn't concrete like on the pedestrian crossing but a drop off and rocks, which I hit hard and went over the handlebars and landed on my right side. I landed on the helmet which was hanging from the scooter (I don't wear them..) and completely destroyed it. A few people asked if I was alright. I was in pain but more embarrassed so I just said I was fine and got myself up and dusted myself off. Managed to not break my phone (left pocket) or my sunglasses (hanging from the neck of my tshirt) which was a plus but I got a decent boo-boo on my elbow, which later also developed an egg-sized egg that evening. Also got a nice bruise on my right knee, a couple of bruises on my back and somehow one on my left inner thigh (maybe landing on the helmet). The worst of it though was that I stupidly braced my fall with my right hand out, which really hurt my thumb where it meets my palm. I wasn't sure if I'd broken anything in it or my wrist but it was agony to touch. Moving it hurt but I had full range of movement and no crunchy sounds so I figure it's just bruised and I've been resting it since and it does seem to slowly be getting less painful.

Today the pain in my back is the worst it has been though. I'm ok getting around but twisting and bending is no bueno.

Anywho.. that's what happened. It has been quite some time since I've fallen over. It's definitely not as fun as I remember it being.

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Ouch sounds like quite a stack.

I'd probably consider hitting up a doc by the sounds of it.

It's funny with stacks. Take a few days to really feel it :(

Hope it eases up quickly.

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[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Glad you made it out of that but I think you should also get checked out to make sure you haven’t broken anything, at best it’ll be a few strains but you’ll want to get it treated and checked out.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (2 children)

My most undignified stack involves getting up to go to the loo in the middle of the night and slipping over in cat sick. One knee and two ankles demolished. I don’t wear PJs, figure the rest out…

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[–] Electronic_Owl@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago (6 children)

Urgh...the nationwide shortage of ADHD meds, specifically in my case Vyvanse (lisdexamfetamine), is a real worry. I was first prescribed 40mg then I was given an additional script for 20mg, so 60mg a day all up. But for the second time this year there are no 40s, so I've blasted through my scripts for 20s by having to take 3 a day. My GP clinic can't/won't take on the management of my meds, so I have to get scripts from my psych...and he's on leave and cannot be contacted.

The system is so rigid. Local pharmacies have heaps of 20s which I don't have a script for, but they can't substitute those for the 40s which I do have a script for. It's infuriating.

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[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Emergency announcement:: it happened. It finally happened

Wordle 993 1/6*

🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩

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[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I was going to post a picture of my sunset kransky in bread on the beach to show off but..

Then this happened on the way back:

I was riding back from the dog beach on a very loud trike.. this little one just walked in front and headed to the dog drinking bowl. It did not care about me at all.

Took this from about 50cm away. Guessing it is an orphaned juvenile. It did not give a single fuck. I've never seen that. huh.

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Might be sick or very stressed.

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[–] SituationCake@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago (6 children)

It would be nice to live in a time and place where villages were the norm, where people could go out to the street for company, have a chat about anything, with people that are lifelong friends about whatever is on your mind. In today’s time and place, having friend contact needs special planning and arrangements and it’s rare to have them all in one place and know each other. I wonder if this modern life with lack of social contact is contributing to mental health epidemic.

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago

Which is kinda romantic to think about. I expect the reality was quite a mixed bag. EVERYONE knew exactly what all your problems were, what your kids were getting up to that they shouldn't have, and everything that you SHOULD have been doing and weren't. Both your friends AND your enemies. And there's a much higher level of social control and huge consequences for stepping outside the agreed upon social norms. Reading the Miss Marple stories - you realise just how much filthbaggery went on in a village. And Jane Austen and Mrs Gaskell's works are full of the consequences of living in a very small social circle that you couldn't escape from.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Yeah. People working all the time, being forced to move wherever they can afford (and move frequently), opposing shifts, car dependence, the norm being nuclear families with little support meaning people pair off and disappear into their immediate family. Every outside space except libraries being monetised. In some places anti-homeless architecture means a place isn't inviting or there's nowhere comfortable to sit...

It's the loss of community and third places.

Also it's self reinforcing. My neighbourhood is quite rough (frequent issues with mental health and resulting violence/antisocial behaviour) so I don't feel comfortable going out. Other places might not have anywhere for local people to go, period.

So then you get everybody having heavy reliance on the increasingly corporatised social media hellscape, creating new issues.

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago

When people in the street ask you how you're doing and they name your parents and ask how they're doing and you have no clue who the fuck they are so you run back home to tell mum and dad and they ask "well who was it?" and you reply with "I don't know" and they spend the rest of the night trying to work out who I spoke to.

I've lived that "village" life. I wouldn't say it contributes to better mental health but it doesn't hurt to know your neighbours a bit more.

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[–] SituationCake@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago

Just read that Samantha Murphy accused killer was at a property with his girlfriend when police stormed in to get him. Did she know? Imagine what she must of thought if she didn’t. Must have had her blood turn cold.

[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago

I'm back in Melbourne and can confirm the Hume heading north looked like a nightmare.

Miss Meow coped better with the trauma of a pet sitter visiting this time - the sitter never saw her, but she was waiting at the front door when I came inside instead of hiding so I take that as a positive move. Mr Woof was apparently very happy with the visit once he realised food was involved, even though this was a stranger he had never met (this was a fill in as the original sitter that came last time injured herself and could not come).

[–] Alamutjones@aussie.zone 9 points 8 months ago (12 children)

Good morning children, this is your mother speaking.

Fair warning, if you can’t be nice to each other I’m turning this thread around and we all go home

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago

Are we there yet?

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[–] wscholermann@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Coles selling Dove Body Wash for half price....that's still 50 cents more than the Aldi regular price.

Colesworth really does take the piss sometimes.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

They can go jump.

With how much I'm paying just on essentials, the little money I have left over isn't going on whatever they feel like charging. I buy multipacks of gentle 'bar soap' and often wash my hair with it too.

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago (8 children)

A kid outside is singing 'Let It Go' by shouting the phrase at a high pitched monotone on loop and has been for some time now. 😐 This is why I don't have kids, only cats.

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[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago (3 children)

We are continuing the celebration of women by playing female singers. The man was busy at work today......making a Spotify list. He told me "it's not International women's day without Samantha Fox. Every boy his age had a poster of her on their wall".

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[–] Mittens_meow@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I have random tomato plants growing in the garden. Can only assume it’s grown out of wombat poop, as that’s his poop spot. I haven’t planted any tomato’s in the last 2 years….especially not in that spot.

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I wonder if they'll turn out like:

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[–] useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago (2 children)
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[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago

Happy International Womens Day, ladies. β™₯

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago (3 children)

28 years with the man. Nearly 17 years with the kid. Fuck Arabs are hardcore. I love them but I need a medal for this poor shy aussie.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago (4 children)

oven fish and chips with some salad for dinner tonight

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[–] Baku@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (8 children)

Rate the dodgy dunny:

(FYI this was taken about chest height. Yes, the top of my head was touching the roof, no I'm not particularly tall.)

[–] MeanElevator@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago

Normally 2/10

When I NEED to go...8/10

Consequences be damned...I'm dropping that deuce

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[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Dune part 2 tonight. I've started to get excited and watched a bunch of part 1 clips on youtube to try remind myself all the details from the first. Even read the Wikipedia summary but tipping I'm still gonna be forgetting stuff.

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[–] bull@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (2 children)

True to form; I woke up this morning and booked myself some border accommodation for the weekend starting this afternoon to escape my apartment/sweatbox during the heat. Didn't consider that I was due to do some clothes washing. I might have enough to see me through but I've still chucked a load on anyway and I'll see how quickly I can dry a few things. Gotta keep me on my toes I guess.

I was actually shocked to find accommodation. When I looked a few days ago everything was 100% booked out!

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[–] bull@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (10 children)

I couldn't not get one to try. It was shelf temp so it's in the fridge cooking for Ron.

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[–] fullkitwanker@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (5 children)

I have insertional achilles tendonitis and as part of my rehab, I've had to strengthen calf muscles. Been doing a shit load of calf exercises over the last two months. Seeing my calf muscles have new babies is so satisfying 🫠🫠

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[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (8 children)

I think the herring and I have something in common on a Friday.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'm catching up on sleep, sleep that is not haunted by pain and is restful. I really appreciate being able to sleep on my fave side now too. 😭

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