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as always, we're back. how's your week going folks

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[–] gaytswiftfan@beehaw.org 79 points 1 year ago (7 children)

i came out as female to my family and close friends and they have all been very supportive πŸ₯Ίβ€οΈ

[–] Thalestr@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago

Congrats!! Coming out is never easy or fun.

[–] UnfortunateTwist@beehaw.org 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The news has been so terrible, and I read so many sad stories, it’s good to hear something positive. Very happy for you.

Side topic, any plans to watch the Eras tour? It’s filling up my TikTok feed and looks like such a blast.

[–] gaytswiftfan@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

thank youuu!!

I saw her in June it was amazing! Her set alone was like 3 hours long!!!

I hope there's going to be a concert film 😭

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[–] Velociraptor@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Congratulations!! I am so happy your loved ones are accepting!

[–] FlickOfTheBean@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

Congrats!!! That's bravery and courage for sure!

Yayyyyy congrats!!

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[–] Dee_Imaginarium@beehaw.org 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My mom who I haven't seen in like six years is coming to stay with me for a little under a week. She hasn't seen me in person since I transitioned but is supportive despite her conservative leanings. She's also visiting me in here in Portland from where she lives in Texas so there's a double layer of "everything is okay, the city is not on fire" plus all the new trans stuff she's going to be asking about. So it'll be a week of doing my best to be an LGBTQ encyclopedia and Portland advocate while catching up with my mom. It should be okay, but it's going to be stressful πŸ₯²

[–] NubTubz@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hope everything goes well during the visit! If she's supportive, that's already a great sign. Constantly explaining things can get exhausting after a while, but it's definitely easier to handle when those questions are asked in good faith.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but as someone who is really considering moving to Portland from the deep south, how is it? It seems like a really fun city, but it's hard to sift through the propaganda with it being such a target for conservative media.

[–] Dee_Imaginarium@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I don't mind! In fact, here's way more info than you asked for!

Portland has it's problems, no doubt. But in comparison to the south? It's not even close, you couldn't pay me to move back (and my job tried lol). The weather is more mild, the people more friendly and the culture more inclusive. The food scene is crazy, so much variety and fusions you've never heard of. Afters years I'm still discovering new eateries to try and pretty much every place has veggie/vegan options if you're into that. Super walkable with awesome public transit (for an American city) that makes it great to get around for real cheap. Hiking trails on hiking trails with lots of bike infrastructure. So many fun shows come to town all the time and the local artists are their own brand of amazing weirdness. Also weird subcultures. I'm going to the Mondo Croquet World Championships this Sunday where you play croquet with bowling balls and sledgehammers. Takes place in Portland every year for 26 years and I just learned about it two days ago lol

Now the bad. There's some sketchiness with some of the houseless encampments around town, but the majority are just people trying to get by. Don't berate or antagonize them and you'll be fine. I was just walking in Old Town the other week with a friend, this is often described as the most dangerous part of the city, and it was fine. A houseless person who was talking to himself saw my Mars Attacks shirt there, smiled real big, and then yelled "ack ack ack ack ack!" So I smiled back and gave him a nod, he was satisfied with the exchange and went on his way. Which is honestly how it goes most of the time. Most houseless people I talk to are just thankful I talk to them at all and don't ignore them. One dude showed me his sweet rock collection on the train, he was stoked to share with someone and they were some pretty sweet rocks tbh. I know anecdotes don't directly translate to data but for what it's worth that's been everybody's experience I've spoken to that I can confirm actually lives here. If you go to the Portland subreddit for instance you'll see a lot of claims being made but then dig into the profiles to find they don't actually live here.

Our police department is the worst. I know everyone says that, but like, Portland Police might actually be the worst. They're on an unofficial soft strike right now and have been since the George Floyd Protests and only respond to the most urgent of urgent calls. Then wonder why everyone hates them and wants to slash their budget. I could go on for a while there but I won't. Portland cops suck, real hard.

Housing and rent sucks, but so does everywhere else. So, meh. Although with Oregon rent control I've been able to renew my lease and have pretty close to what I was paying in rent five years ago because we haven't moved.

I didn't meant to type a wall of text, but that's a very summarized run down of what to expect. I tried to be completely honest because it's not a perfect city, but I couldn't imagine living anywhere else at this point.

with it being such a target for conservative media.

It's kind of a blessing in disguise because it largely keeps conservative people from moving here so it's mostly really cool/chill people that move here instead lol

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[–] autumn@beehaw.org 24 points 1 year ago (3 children)

my first foster dog, chuck, is an absolute angel, and i don't say that lightly as somebody who is very realistic about a dog's personality. (my own two dogs are certified jerks, lol.) chuck gets along great with every dog he's met, loves kids, and the folks at the vet clinic said he just stood there while they did his exam, like nothing was even happening. i can attest to that, as i had to give him eye drops this evening. i've only had him about a week, and i doubt i'm going to have him much longer, because he's the dog everybody wants when they think of a great, chill pet.

large border collie-looking dog laying down on a rug

[–] Lycan@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Chuck looks (and sounds!) so sweet.

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[–] bipmi@beehaw.org 21 points 1 year ago (5 children)

My outside kitty ran away for 6 weeks and just came back on monday morning! I was getting into a bit of a depressive episode and had started mourning her, so having her back feels great.

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[–] potpie@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Last night I grabbed a bunch of audio files for country songs that contain the phrase "ice cold beer," then I edited them together so that all the "ice cold beer"s lined up amidst the cacophony of about 5 songs being played at the same time. I thought that would be funny but it just didn't sound as good as I thought it would. Maybe if each song faded in one by one... I dunno.

[–] bipmi@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Can you somehow share this lmao. My buddy makes music and loves doing fun stuff like this, Id love to hear it and send it to him to listen to!

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[–] OttoVonGoon@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Moved to a small town earlier this year, tried to make friends, met some cool people, last month I found out one of the group was super openly transphobic, so I stopped hanging out with them. Tried to reconnect with some cousins, last week I found out one was a transphobe, homophobe, and racist, cut her off. Started to get close with a different one, found out yesterday that he was transphobic, cut him off. I'm not trans, but I don't want to be around idiots that think trans people are groomers. Feeling pretty goddamn isolated and terrible about myself. Wishing I could just stay inside and never see people for the rest of my life.

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[–] while1malloc0@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Not terrible thus far. Getting over a cold and am already sick of hearing about the Twitter rebrand, but otherwise better than the past few days.

Really starting to wish that Lemmy had a way to block entire instances. It feels silly that my choices are to either block everything labeled as NSFW (including discussions, comics, etc that aren’t necessarily sexual in nature but not appropriate for work), or have to block an endless sea of furry porn on the β€œAll” timeline, one community at a time (no judgement, just not what I’m on Lemmy for).

[–] noseatbelt@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you using an app? I'm using Connect for Lemmy and blocking instances is a feature.

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[–] coradora@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I’m doing better than I was previously. Getting past some mental health hurdles, and I’m finally back to work. I start on a new team, with a new supervisor that won’t cruelly demean me in our 1 on 1s until I start crying πŸ™ƒ still struggling a bit and I messed up my back gardening over the weekend, so that doesn’t help.

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[–] mint@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

it was my birfday last thursday

i did the lego great wave of kanagawa set

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[–] farcaster@beehaw.org 11 points 1 year ago

Pretty good! I just made an account here. I've been on Lemmy/Fedi/etc for a while but finally found my way to the hive.

Now I'm sipping coffee to get ready for the workday. Hope y'all have a good week.

[–] iamhazel@beehaw.org 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm bad at self care but I went to the optometrist last week and... my eyeglass prescription doubled. Did you know road signs have words on them? Huh!

[–] Ellvix@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Madness. Next you'll be saying trees have individual leaves and not just big clumps.

[–] FlickOfTheBean@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Debbie downer here! If you're having a good day, I don't want to harsh it, so skip me! :)

Apparently my mood's been off enough this week that it's been effecting people around me negatively and now I have to get restarted on meditating to hopefully fix it. But at least I do have that one option, I definitely haven't always had a path to follow when it comes to mood/feeling stuff. It just feels precarious because it's like, if this doesn't work, what comes next?

Idk, maybe this is a feeble attempt at crowdsourcing what comes next, because if that doesn't work, idk what I'll do. Probably will just shrug and try to keep moving at the very worst, it's all one can do sometimes.

But it's not all terrible, my cat is healthy, I have a job, and I have friends, so there's that :)

Tldr; this is me venting that emotions are difficult little bastards

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[–] MagicKnifeGoat@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Today has been the first day in a long time where I’ve been able just enjoy it and realise I am enjoying it in the moment. I took the day off work, had a therapy session and I went to gym. It’s been lovely so far + I made my therapist laugh so I won therapy

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[–] sincle354@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

My BF failed their exam that would have given them enough credit to not have to take a final semester. COVID and a lack of support for their mental health makes this their 6th year of college. Sadly, this means a few more months of long distance relationship, but at least he isn't at risk of being kicked out for being trans.

...For now. I'm fully prepared to make the drive and extract him from a bad situation. We're feeling better than expected, though, since now the dread of the test looming over his head is gone.

[–] BuxtonWater@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Doing pretty good now, just finally got it confirmed that I have ADHD which is a big relief to know since it means I can be put on medication in the next month or so.

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[–] Thalestr@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago

Bit up and down. Not as productive as I would have liked thanks to mental health, but also not terrible either. I'd give it a 6.5/10

[–] distractedcactus@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago (6 children)

This week is starting out complicated. I have a ton to do for work and absolutely no motivation to do any of it, so I'm having to spend more willpower than I'm used to just to get started. I'm coming off of a bad weekend mood-wise and really feeling the "want to run away to a cave and live there forever" vibes, which is also taking effort to move past.

One thing that's cheering me up is planning out the details of some house changes for August/September, which hopefully will end up going well. Visualizing the end result is giving me something positive to look forward to.

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[–] shon@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pretty bad, been feeling depressed for a while now and it feels like this week has been a new lowest low maybe. I made some progress in my mental health this week, along with just trying to enjoy spending time with my SO and not be so down all the time. There are some positives.

[–] iamhazel@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just want to point out that it was perhaps your lowest low this week, and you STILL made progress. That's a hell of a showing of strength and resiliency!

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[–] ManyShapes@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Not great. My aunt died, my visa plans are all up in the air, dysphoria is in full swing, and i cant stop having anxiety attacks. But what else is new?πŸ™ƒ

[–] EthicalAI@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

First dinner date in 2 years for me. Gonna have a panic attack. Wish me luck!

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[–] JuniperusVox@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's been pretty awful, sadly. As Neil Gaiman says, "Events are cowards. They come in packs." It's been one blow after another all week, and I don't think I can handle any more bad news.

[–] iamhazel@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

We don't have r/Random_Acts_of_Pizza but can I get you some food you like tonight if you're in the US?

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[–] interolivary@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm honestly losing my will to live. Not actively considering sucide, but in the "I wouldn't mind if that bus just swerved into me and this bullshit could finally end" phase. Physical and mental health's down the shitter, and I'm making the mental part worse by isolating myself from my friends and the outside world in general – partially because I'm just so tired due to health issues, and partially due to having picked up an old substance abuse problem that I tend to reach for every time I hit a rough spot, and which absolutely does not help. Haven't left my apartment in days now.

Everything feels so pointless. My immune system hates me, meaning my body has decided that everything starting from my eyes to my nervous system is the enemy, so now I'm slowly losing my eyesight and getting neuropathic pain from dying nerve fibers. After getting sick 3 or so years ago I've managed to cut almost all of my friends out of my life because I either honestly didn't have the energy to do stuff with them and keep in touch, or just spent my days sulking about how terrible I feel (and tbh there have been times I really did feel absolutely terrible, what with radiotherapy and surgery and all) instead of spending time with people who cared about me, so now nobody even asks me out to things anymore or gets in touch. Not that I had all that many friends in the first place, being a bit of a weirdo loner to start with, so it's no surprise that the few I had left evaporated when all I could talk about was how terrible I felt after getting an internal organ nuked or how I had to go to the emergency department again because of XYZ.

Slowly trying to come to terms and learn to live with chronic illness now that the acute stuff is over, but I've isolated myself so efficiently that it's hard to pick up my life from where I left it before I got sick. So right now the place I'm at is that I'm a bloated aging ruin of a person in a world that's rapidly going down the shitter, and I just feel so hopeless about, well, everything.

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[–] EremesZorn@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's early on in the week, but not bad at all. Finishing the moving process in my apartment and just working overnights out on the highway, which is pretty chill. Aside from that, cleaning, gaming, reading, the usual.

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[–] CandidCamel@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Been another week of pointless stressful bullshit at work for me, which eats into my real life outside of work more than I'd like. That being said, making some progress on finding a therapist (a surprisingly difficult process it seems) and also a driving instructor -- almost made it to 30 without learning to drive, but the time is now!

Also starting the process of ditching music streaming in favour of Bandcamp, which has been fun. Been feeling some real nostalgia for the old days of buying tracks off iTunes!

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[–] Limeaide@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

Been doing alright.

Feel burnt out and tired. Worst part is that when I have to sleep, I'm never tired so I end up sleeping about 5 hours. I sometimes take edibles to fall asleep, but it became a bad habit and a couple weeks ago I ran out and I was feeling some sort of dread so I stopped taking them. It has definitely affected the amount of time I sleep, but at least I don't feel groggy in the morning anymore.

I'm planning a trip with my girlfriend for our one year anniversary. We are probably going to a small cabin at a nearby lake. I'm really looking forward to spending time with her. Whiskey, good food, and my girlfriend sounds really nice, but for now we work.

[–] Ignacio@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I finally discovered why my taste is messed up since I'm taking my ADHD medication. It turns out it's a side effect that doesn't disappear, and apparently I can't do anything about it.

Besides that, I've been hyperfocused in this game called Dungeon Crawl Stone Soup. Trying to pass the main dungeon, but dying miserably because of things.

And I'm watching two TV series, after several months without consuming any media, except for the news. One is "Red Dwarf". The other is "Doctor Who".

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[–] techters@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Spending time with friends and watched a thunderstorm roll through a mountain valley last night. I try to really memorize moments like that because when life inevitably slides the other way, those are the things that help me carry on, hoping to be lucky enough for one more of those good days.

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[–] Calvinball@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

All in all, pretty good. I finished with intensive out patient last week, so I start regular out patient today (3 months sober!). It's my second week of my new job and so far everyone is pretty chill. My pixelfed account is trending right now (I'm not completely sure what that means/does, but either way it's cool that people are enjoying my hobby) I'm @Swanton if any of you want to check it out. It's only Tuesday, but so far so good

Well, things have been up and down for me - lots and lots of stress factors from what feels like every potential facet of my life for a long time now. I've been working on trying to improve that where I can, and getting help from mental health professionals too.

But on the upside, yesterday I got to hang out with a couple of friends that I haven't gotten to in a while, along with meeting some of their friends, and it was a blast! We did the "Last Wish" raid in Destiny 2 which was a very fun time! It did a very good job at reminding me that even though bad things can happen, there's still some good moments to be had.

[–] kelvinjps@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

Trying to get back on track, from literally doing nothing.

[–] wildeaboutoskar@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Mentally not having a great week but not hugely sure why. Not sleeping well which doesn't help. Hoping that seeing Barbie later will help

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[–] Mandy@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

8 work days left before im finally free of the retail industry, feels good I feel like todays gaming stream also went well ( finished yakuza 1 on the ps2)

[–] Bork@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

I'm very sleep deprived but doing alright. How about you @alyaza@beehaw.org?

[–] nfld0001@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Goin' aight. It was fun last week, but pretty busy for a summer week for me too. I had a friend over while they were in town for the summer, got to see Les Mis while there was a performance in SF, and was unexpectedly enlisted to help another friend practice for their driving test. All a great time, but maybe I'll get some more time this week to tend to some personal hobbies and projects.

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[–] Piers@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

Apparently my lungs are especially healthy for someone my age/demographic.

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