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I might call it gaslighting yourself, but I think the psych term is minimisation
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minimisation_(psychology)
It has related terms and it seems to match up with what OP was looking for
"self invalidation" also comes to mind, but I'm not sure if the term is actually used professionally
I used to get this a lot, until someone reversed it on me, and I've thought about it this way ever since: If you can't let yourself suffer because others might have it worse, then you also can't let yourself be happy, because others have it better.
It's all about personal experience and perspective.
Comparative Suffering is close possibly.
https://withtherapy.com/mental-health-resources/what-is-comparative-suffering/
I think these thoughts are a bi-product of empathy. When you are attuned to the pain of others, it can be easy to invalidate your own. I once heard an exchange on public transit where 2 strangers were discussing their hardships and a sort of one upping of trauma was occuring. Eventually one of the participants said "we all feel pain in our own way" and that stuck with me as a tool for understanding my own tendancy to under value the trauma I have experienced throughout life.
Hope that helps provide some insight or a thread to tug at for understanding.
Invalidating
If you have to coin a phrase for it, I'd say something like comparative minimization rationalization.
Invalidation
Coping?
Perspective
Being an AAPI?
Google says this means Asian American and Pacific Islander but I am not sure if this is what you mean
No. It 100% is. You are taught from an early age to not complain because you have it better or things could be worse. To the point that your elders are being violently attacked in the streets and you are still told to stay quiet because it is a turning point for a different persecuted group.
And you believe that and try to stay quiet about the brain damage.