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[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you don't know, then this question isn't for you.

[–] blujan@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

From my question. What's stopping you?

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Trauma, really. Therapy helps, and time has as well, but yeah

[–] moistclump@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Also, Psychedelics, for me.

[–] Curly722@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Replanning my whole future all over again without that person.

[–] moistclump@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I’m sorry friend. It’s very, very hard. And rewarding. But hard.

[–] shish_mish@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

poverty,trauma

[–] pezmaker@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

$1800 lease breaking fee. It's up in March and even that feels like it's going to break my sanity. I'll get there though.

[–] sagrotan@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

My fucking broke down piece of crap car.

[–] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I need to find a decent job in the place I wanna move to. If you have something on this, lemme know!

[–] skybreaker@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

This all depends on your area of expertise, but in general, I would say you either get to pick your job or pick where you live, not both. If it is a specialized type of work, you need to move to wherever they have positions. If you're okay working retail, you can work anywhere.

[–] MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

There's a Cheeto chimp that's hanging on to the edge of the sewer pipe that just won't flush away.

[–] m4xie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

I can't afford therapy. Severe childhood abuse and resulting depression isn't something you can just get over with inspirational quotes.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago

Shame, ability, and demotivation, depending on what you're asking about.

[–] bobbi_d2@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Fear and culturally defined gender roles

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Are you spying on me?

How'd you know I've spent the last month completely stuck in a literal US State that I don't live in, but got kinda comfortably complacent here because it's so peaceful and the price of fuel is fantastic compared to the state I need to go to where the jobs there pay much better because the cost of living is so much higher which also means there's more stress & traffic & crime,

so it makes me want to stay here where I am with no stress, no crime, no traffic, but the pay here would be lower but I've got to make a decision soon before my bank account runs dry, I need to get a job somewhere soon,

So every day all day long my mind keeps ping-ponging back & forth between these two options, so the result is I've been sitting here doing nothing because each decision would affect the rest of my life in drastically different ways, and choosing one or the other is agonizing and I just can't.

Executive functions on overload and shut off.

For a whole month.

HOW DID YOU KNOW?

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

There are people who care about me and I can’t do that to them.