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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ferrite5 on 2023-08-11 07:14:57.
My wife(31f) is the youngest of 4 siblings, and they're from a poor, rural family. She and I(29m) met in college and got married after we graduated. During the pandemic, 3 major things happened. Her dad passed away, her mom retired with no savings, and her one of her brothers got a DUI and couldn't hold a steady job.
To keep a long story short, MIL lives with us, SIL mismanaged their dad's estate (also is in massive debt) and owes my wife money, and DUI BIL is regularly asking for money to pay for gas, food, and bills. Another BIL is an alcoholic that also just lost his job. Last BIL lives across the country, and i can guess why. On top of that, none of her siblings is willing or able to help MIL financially. I did the math and we basically paid for two of her siblings' inflation over the last two years. Probably over 8k.
Finally, the entire family refuses to communicate directly and is super passive aggressive. They all use my wife as a middleman. I'm at my wits end and it's been affecting our marriage.
I finally blew up and ranted about her family, and demanded we stop giving away our money to her siblings if they're just going to keep making bad decisions and act stupid. Wife is pissed that I've been insulting her family (during the argument and over the last few months) and that my MIL has overheard. AITA?