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Some random dude walked up to me while I was waiting outside a food place for my food and asked me this question.

I said "no, I dont give out random favors" and something along the lines of that's sus.

Is it rude to say no to random dude that asks for a favor?

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

"You can ask, sure. Let's go back inside." where the cameras are and it's illegal to solicit or beg.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org -1 points 3 days ago

Make sure to call the police too champ

[–] CidVicious@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Bit rude, yeah, but sometimes it's better to be rude than let someone cross your boundaries. How much more awkward is it if you say "yes" or "maybe" and then they ask if they can borrow your phone or something and you have to evaluate whether you trust this random person while they're looking right at you? A lot of people are definitely asking this way because it gets you to let your guard down and they know you would've said no if they'd just straight asked. Personally I tend to respond with "you can ask" or something like that. Making it pretty clear that I'm skeptical of what they're going to ask. But my default assumption of other people in a city is that they're potentially either trying to scam me or rob me.

[–] Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A lot of people are saying similar.

[–] CidVicious@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It also sounds like they targeted you specifically while you were waiting in line. So not only did they only approach you about it when they could've asked anybody, they approached you in a place where it's hard for you to just walk away. That's sus to me, I think your instincts were right to not give them an in.

[–] Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No line, solo outside at a table on my phone. Dude invaded my space wanted to shake my hand and ask for a favor.

I guess I could have handled slightly better according to lemmy.

I have helped so many people in my life and lost thousands of money and time to helping humans.

[–] daskye@fedia.io 1 points 2 days ago

Wanting to shake your hand is super sketchy, sounds like a bad guy

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 1 points 3 days ago

I don't care if I'm rude to someone who's trying to scam me, or in this case started being inconsiderate themselves.

Stephen Covey discusses this in Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. He's asked if it's OK to lie to someone. He answers by posing a scenario where being honest gets you killed, but using a harmless lie you aren't.

I highly recommend reading the book.

[–] viking@piefed.ca 1 points 3 days ago

No, perfectly fine. Shuts down a needles discussion that you don't want to have early.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I was taught to say "Depends on the favor" but was also told that's rude...but by someone who wanted a favor so maybe we can discount that opinion.

[–] 0x01@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago

More broadly, I think it's appropriate to respond to social overreaching with rudeness.

In situations like these, I tend to just not respond but simply look at them. Awkward for everyone, but not aggressive on my part. Leave the ball in their court, if it's a simple "could you take a photo" then whatever, but if it's a less acceptable "could you buy me some smokes" then you've not mentally committed.

[–] muntedcrocodile@lemm.ee -1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Better question why do u care if its rude? You have every right to be as rude as u want to anyone u damn well please. If they are a stranger on the street who cares.

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[–] capuccino@lemmy.world 0 points 3 days ago

No, but people often sees you like the guy who doesn't do any favors

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